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Open Marriage
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Open Marriage My husband and I have been exploring an open marriage for some time now and I wanted to share some of my thoughts on it. We've been together for several years and even knew each other in school but didn't date. Eventually, years later, we reconnected and eventually married. I had had a very active sex life before we got married but for some reason he had not. And after being married for a while our sex lives was getting fairly bland. One day he found a bunch of my old sex videos from my single days and surprisingly enjoyed watching them. He said it was like being married to a porn star. We're actually very conservative and I had worried he would not react as well as he did. After a while we both opened up and started communicating a lot better about our sex life and I asked if he was interested in trying an open relationship. I was overjoyed when he said, yes! We established some ground rules. Our main rule is the other one has to approve of our other partners before we meet up unless its a one time thing and we don't plan on seeing the person again. I got started fairly quickly but it took some considerable time for him to have his first date. It's much easier for me to meet men for sex than it is for him to meet women so he only goes on a date very rarely. I go out regularly and worried his lack of dates would cause him to be frustrated and change his mind. My biggest surprise was finding out how erotic my dates are for him. I’ve come to learn that this is common for many people into kinky sex and various alternative sexual lifestyles, but at the time I had no idea. Usually if its not too late when I get home he can't keep his hands off of me. Sometimes he is so turned on all he wants to do is have sex with me and this horniness can last a day or two. I assumed the novelty of all this would wear off but so far it hasn't. If anything it is getting more intense. The second surprise was how much I enjoyed all the flirting and seducing you do when you are seeking new sex partners. I always knew I’d like this lifestyle but I didn’t know just how much fun it would be. I love the flirty texts and the dirty talk over the phone. I like the excitement of putting on a sexy outfit and discovering what a new partner is like in bed. I like that crazy sense of anticipation that comes with a new sexual relationship. Knowing I have a date planned can keep me horny all week long just thinking about it. I really like all the things that can’t be replicated in a long term marriage. It's hard to describe but I find myself falling a little more in love with my husband every time I come home from a date. But a very important part of all this is the fact that this situation only works because I know he is enjoying it as much as I am. I'll write more about this in the future. |
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Hi... Thanks for sharing and glad you both are benefiting from the lifestyle. Yes ommunication is key here and most people aren't comfortable enough to reveal their true desires and tend to cheat. When if they were honest they could have uncovered the truth in reality and enjoyed it to the fullest. Personally I love watching mypartner with others and yes the kink in me likes hearing or seeing.it with my own eyes. ITS A TURN ON FOR SURE
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10/18/2019 3:36 pm |
Sounds like a match made in heaven.
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Just to play Devils advocate here, Why is this situation ok and a male or a female for that matter who is in a relationship, married or otherwise that is looking for more sex than they are getting from their partner not ok. Even if there are medical reasons for not having the desire or the ability, there have been a LOT of comments on here, mostly form ladies but some from men that say you couldn't possibly be in a loving relationship and still desire or need sex with someone else. I believe the standard response from these closed minded people was something like, "work or your relationship or leave your partner". But as long as you are in a relationship, if you seek sex from someone else, you are nothing but a low life cheater. " I " do not look at it the way these closed minded people do as there can be many reasons for one partner not being able to have or enjoy sex so I am all for an open marriage scenario as long as there is complete agreement with everyone involved and open and truthful communication. Just my 2 cents worth.
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thank you for showing the wonders of what communication can do  the difference between you and perhaps someone else who is seeking what their marriage may not provide is glaringly, abundantly clear: 1. no hiding from the spouse what you're doing. 2. the spouse gets the final approval on who you see. 3. trust. you know to go home. you are the first person i have ever come across that has said their spouse gets the final say. cheaters just cheat, they hide, they lie and they destroy the trust. it's NOT cheating if the person says, you gotta meet my spouse first.
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Much Luck to you...communication is deff the key...and it sounds like this arrangement is enhancing your relationship. When THAT fact changes...you must re visit it all ~~
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Sounds like you both are having a lot of fun. Ground rules and communication are the keys. Have fun
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