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As you know my sexy friend I m a swinger and so is my Girlfriend. Our opinion is that we both believe that most people can not have sex with the same person for ever. This is our opinion only. Some may not agree, and that is fine. We see it most of the times at our Swing party's. We get newbie swinger couples that have been together for a long time and their sex lives have fizzled out. So they look for someone to help them spice things up for them. This is a much better situation for all if both party's are into this together. Now, if you are cheating on your better half, for me I don't like to see people get hurt, but at the same time I do not judge a Women or a Man if they need to seek sexual pleasure elsewhere. To each is own as they say.
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11/18/2019 11:11 am |
Solid post. Such truth. We need to be open to our SO.
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11/18/2019 11:13 am |
I don't believe in cheating. I understand people have their times that they don't want to have sex, but it is hard to walk away from the idea of sex with the one you are with. "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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After 21 years, we still have a very healthy marriage. There aren’t many excuses being used, as we’re both okay with telling each other how we are really feeling at any given time. It never goes too long for us without some sort of love making / intimacy. We consider ourselves to be very lucky. As far as cheating, we’ll that depends on one’s perspective. You can certainly call some of our experiences with other women “cheating” in a technical sense. But we were both present at the time. Neither of us has gone behind the other’s back. We are still very much in love! And that, along with good communication, is what enables us to come on here and explore our sexuality ... we truly believe that.
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11/18/2019 11:18 am |
don't worry so much about what others do just focus on yourself
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You are so right, no communication leads to failure.That is nice that your parents had a great relationship. I love it!!! I know there are a lot of loyal couples out there too. It is a nice thing.
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I imagine that it occurs often. 🤔 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Trust and Loyalty are paramount in any relationship.. I would rather be single then be in a dishonest relationship.. I however do not judge people who cheat. To each your own. If it makes you happy go for it. And for the record when I am with someone I would never say no Is it cheating if ....you self please yourself ? LMAO JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART
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oh Joy, it's like you can read my mind. the last 2 years in my last relationship...I always found an excuses not to have sex with him. which was weird because I love sex a lot. I thought to myself at that time that maybe as I got older then I lose that feeling. but I was wrong...I just didn't want to have sex with him anymore. but no, I didn't cheat.
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Hi Joy thanks for taking me further with a headache not the word anyone wants to hear hmm Floetry - "Headache" I, I'm feelin' on energy Listen, I feel weak, see I get a headache I get a headache Listen, at first you said I do but now it's I did Said together we should live Now you're mad with time we spend Used to be jealous of my friends an' fill my weekends But now you're off for pastimes Playin' games with my mind You're layin' the blame in my lap But delayin' layin' in our bed Yo, I meant what I said when you weren't listenin' An' I'm not sayin' it again To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hey Red, .........When you find the Right One there’ll be No Thoughts of cheating,........... Sinfully Yours, backpocket13
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I cheated once, in my youth... out of anger, revenge, and spite. Didn't turn out well for all parties after all was said. Two wrongs, let alone three, don't make a right. Unfortunately, I'm the one who has been cheated on more times than that one time of mine. If you're going to stray, be honest and end your currently relationship before *that* happens. Yeah, it's going to hurt the other person involved, and might ruin any possibility of reconcile, but there are other worse things that could happen from being dishonest... "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.
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Having sex outside of your committed relationship, due to being turned down for sex [often] or being told, "I have a headache [often]"... is not cheating. When you have to seek sex else where , then you are being cheated-on. A woman can't tell her husband/boyfriend , "I have a headache" ...often... and call him a cheater when he goes to another for sex. She, the woman denying him, is cheating him. And yes, it would be the man who is cheating his woman, if she was always turned down/refused [by him], causing her to seek sex with another.
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Alcohol is not an excuse to cheat.. ... True, but it can be an enabler to give you that boost of confidence to get sex else-where when you're always being denied at home. Distance is not excuse to cheat.. .... "Distance" is an excuse to cheat, because you're not in a commitment with anyone if they are never there, or never there [with you] for the longest time . And the "Longest time" , has been said to be about 15 to 20 weeks. At about that time-marker, that "Attachment" , emotional bond feeling, tends to become very weak without sensual contact. College is not an excuse to cheat...... That's debatable. Who is in college.. the teen [just getting out of HS] to 20 something pretending they are committed already? [Going to] College is not the time to be already committed to someone, and expect not to have sex with another. Temptation is not an excuse to cheat...... Again, true. "I was tempted", is not an excuse. But being tempted , and you're not getting laid within your commitment, then temptation is sure going to push you into getting laid- and best of all, you're not cheating... the person committed to you,and always denying you, is cheating [you].
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The only time I have ever used the 'head-ache" excuse, was when my other 'head" was 'aching" from to much use by another GF. I dont cheat! But I dont promise to be monogamous either. I did with my first wife, she cheated instead, from day one to day last! My second wife & I had an open marriage, but to the best of my knowledge neither of us ever strayed, we didnt need to, we were like to cats in heat in a cage together !!My third wife & I didnt cheat either, because we specifically said our marriage would be open as long as we didnt use our marriage bed for our funn. Since we met at a BDSM club, my first sight of her was nude being flogged !! our agreement was not much of a stretch. We are only divorced because she chose drugs over ME. There have been several times when I had more than one partner in my stable however, and as I said, I never promise monogamy. My lady friends either accept that or move on !
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After a quarter-century of marriage my (now) ex fell out of love. She turned down all my overtures, so eventually I stopped suggesting. Then she got mad at me for not wanting sex. Sometimes you can't win for losing.
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they are both cheating on the other.... .... No. Once your significant-other benches you from having sex with them, there is nothing for you to cheat on. You've been cheated. You are now in a place where you have to go out and get what you you need. In a commitment by unspoken promise , or contract, your companion in that union is responsible to provide you sex. So when your companion ignores and/refuses you sexual intimacy, [as you understand "Too many times"], then you would not be cheating on them by going to someone else for nourishment, in this case, sexual. Consider this; If the responsibility of your companion was to provide you with water, and your companion did not. Are you cheating your companion by going to another place for water? No. You are surviving.
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The Mrs uses the headache excuse far too often in my opinion!
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Distance is not always an excuse when you are married ..... True, but it does happen, especially when you add the factor of "Time away". And more and more , this is found to be true among business women, on work-related-travel. if either he or she was in the military and stationed somewhere for an example. ..... This can be an excuse to cheat. Most everyone frowns on a cheating spouse of a Serviceman or Servicewoman, but among the "Left behind"....there is cheating, and sometimes they cover for each other. But you'll find more of the cheating among the younger girls who get married to a Serviceman when she is still in her teens. Their husband, often 18 or 19, is shipped off to boot camp and then assigned a post somewhere...he can be gone for years. You can bet he isn't going to be an innocent either. And frankly, he really shouldn't. When on leave, he needs to cut loose. A Servicewoman , too. College could be a married man or woman going back to college... ... Yes, and I said this was debatable. If one is a strong minded and totally committed individual ..... Sure, but that's the Utopian version of marriage. Teens or twenty-somethings going to college would be much better off being completely single. Older married people going to college , this can be risky. This is why a person [especially males] should not get married until they have reached their academic goals. temptation is as lame of an excuse if I have ever heard...... Doesn't matter if it is lame, it is a true excuse. If one is being denied at home, over and over again.... temptation is going to be answered, when it comes knocking. ...Also maybe not denied, but just unhappy with the marriage. Temptation looks really good at that point. We can talk about "Cheating" for decades or centuries, but the fact is, we're human, and to cheat only requires a reason, rational or irrational. If you have force yourself [with a "Strong mind"] not to cheat.... something's wrong, and sooner or later that "Strong mind" will just say, "Oh go ahead, just don't say anything about it".
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I didn't say they were the same.... I said if you're in a situation where you depend on one person to see to your needs, and they don't, .....then you will go find another person. People can not survive without water, but they actually can survive without sex. .... Sure, they won't die without sex, however, they will cheat if they want sex, but can't get sex. No water = you go someplace that has water. No sex = you go to someone that will have sex with you. Simple as that. To expect someone to just go without sex, is like expecting someone to go without water. Also, the guilt attached to "Wanting to cheat, but refraining from doing so", can lead to some very violent domestic outbreaks.
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but not all humans cheat..Majority possibly .... No "Possibly" about it. The majority will cheat when denied enough times. The minority who would not cheat, when denied enough times , is split .....those who can afford a divorce, .... and those who cannot afford a divorce...... And of those two, the minority is the group who can afford a divorce. The financially struggling who will not cheat, when denied, WILL likely turn to violence against their spouse.
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What cheater? The person who won't cheat, but cannot afford a divorce, is not the cheater, his/her spouse [who denied sex too many times] is the the cheater, and also going to be the recipient of violence. Couples who are so entrenched in their belief's , as to not get a divorce when they really should, have the mental health issues.
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