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it all depends on the ex and the kids. Some can indeed be baggage, others may not be. My 1st ex was only baggage for about a year, until she realized she was fighting a one-sided battle, that I wasnt fighting back, which was what she wanted. We became friends and went our own ways. My 2nd wife was/is indeed baggage, I gladly carry, as she died 7 years into our marriage, and no one can ever replace her. My 3rd wife, yeah, she is and prob will always be baggage, and my step children by her will likely be too, as they never gave me a chance from the get-go. And my step-grand-children, oh yeah, they are baggage too, as I enjoyed being grandpa, and to have them ripped out of my life will hurt me till the day I die. So what chance does a new woman have with me, well that depends on the woman, of course. AND ME, because after 3 times, I am pretty reluctant to let anyone ever get that close to me again. So yes, an ex & kids can be baggage, but they dont have to be. But if you just leave them out of your thoughts totally, well you are just some kinda animal, not human at all !
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5/28/2019 11:29 am |
Nice blog
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Sounds like a thinly-veiled cry for attention. Not to mention an attempt to reverse the pain of never being able to share so many memories they missed out on that they. Are constantly surrounded by everyday. My advice,Crap on their noise! Using more than all the road!
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I'm single, never married, and have no kids, (and I don't consider myself to be an oddball!) it just never happened for me. I wouldn't ever call children "baggage" but maybe it was just a generalisation? There are a lot of things to worry about on here, people's phrasing shouldn't really be an issue
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Oooo... interesting point and perhaps it's a valid one at that. 🤔 But let's face it... people who have never been married or had kids... are probably not into... someone else's kids. They presume someone who seeks them is of like mind... so... that's their filter. I use one... I suggest people visit my blog. If they can't read or communiste... I'm not interested. I have plenty of baggage 🛄🛄😶🛄😂 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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5/28/2019 2:56 pm |
Just life- live it and quit making judgements about what other do or say-
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It may not be the best word. No one is baggage. Perhaps it is better to state that he/she has more time or freedom to invest in the relationship. Some just don’t think how their words are taken.
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I usually think of "baggage" more in terms of time commitments. Kids certainly fall into that category, but so pets, as does working during the week, and volunteering during the weekend. For the stay-at-home moms on the site trying to pull an ashley madison on this site, the husband is a pretty big piece of baggage. It's hard to take even the first step into the real world with somebody when the best you can do to make schedules work out is something a week and a half in advance, knowing full well that there is a 50% chance that somebody will get pulled away due to something or other by then. Also, a lot of girls are quite demanding on this site when it comes to time commitments. They just about expect you to bend over backwards to make due with whenever is most convenient for them. There's enough of them complaining about guys needing to be ready to meet them on whim at the drop of a dime that I'm not really surprised to hear about guys advertising that they can do that.
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i would not consider my kids are baggage but i do understand the people's view...whey they say what they say.... i am not gonna lie, it takes my time and money and love and lord knows what else i need to raise the kids...i got to admit, they don't come cheap...if i want to do it right... i have few couples who are not interested in having children...that's their decisions... i also have single males who are not interested fathering any kids...i actually honor their decisions, too...i would rather accept their view... you know nowadays, i see so many fathers, who even don't raising their own kids after they had their own...you know...i wanna smack their heads...they had their choices, before they had sex with women...but they did not care about the choices, and now they have kids who are also nearly fatherless...those people...i am mad at...
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I'm with user "seems" on this as well. Marriage is not baggage. Children are not baggage. They can, and will test your patience from time to time, but we all did when we were kids to our own parents at various times while growing up. But so do pets, as another member has said. That is life. The term "baggage" to me is more akin to bad and destructive behaviors, like alcoholism, abusiveness of any sort, drug use, habitual gambling, and so on. Some people, who aren't willing to communicate with their partner on any hiccups in the relationship, could look at that partner as "causing drama", and that perception of another can sometimes also be deemed as "baggage". Just my humble opinion. "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.
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Hey Darlin, .........That’s just Life,.......Who’s this Clown said that to you?........Or is he so Good and Pure that he’s Hovering Over the rest of us passing Judgement?.......... Sinfully Yours, backpocket13
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