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The 'V' Word  

secret_lade 49F
14127 posts
2/13/2020 6:11 pm
The 'V' Word


I hate Valentine's Day.

Whoever said don't get married on a holiday had it 100% correct.

I know we don't plan on having a marriage fall apart like cheap tennis shoes... But, for some of us, it does.

And, I was the fool who got married on Valentines day.

When I picked my up from school today my ex-husband was already sitting on the couch with her, waiting for me to show up. He got up and walked over to me, giving me a hug and<b> kissing </font></b>me on the cheek.

"Happy Anniversary, I won't be seeing you tomorrow."

It's his weekend with the , so, no, he won't be seeing me.

"Happy Anniversary"

I said back. We've been divorced for 8 years, he still wishes me a happy anniversary every year.

He's taking his white trash girlfriend out for dinner tomorrow. We talked about it for a few minutes, and all I could think of was this is the first Valentines day that I'll be spending alone.

I started seeing the Hippie regularly in 2013, every Valentine's day since I spent with him.

Now I'm alone.

Fantastic!

On the plus side, I'm sure the gym will be dead tomorrow night. I had to wait for both the treadmill and exercise bike tonight... What a pain in the ass.

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 5:54 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    You should treat yourself to something special. Maybe dinner out at a favorite place or a spa trip.
    I'm one of those that has never cared for Valentine's Day, so being by myself is not a problem.
Today has been a much better day than I thought it would. My work BFF was working today and I got the opportunity to talk to him about a bunch of stuff that's been bothering me. Sometimes its just kind of nice to be able to talk about stuff and get it off your chest.


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
2/14/2020 3:51 pm

You should treat yourself to something special. Maybe dinner out at a favorite place or a spa trip.
I'm one of those that has never cared for Valentine's Day, so being by myself is not a problem.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 1:57 pm

    Quoting fwblook4unow:
    Secret_lade...I would have loved to give you an all body massage after work today on Valrntines day....and do anything you wanted to do afterwards😉😘😍
Very nice. that would have been fantastic.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 1:54 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I understand what you're feeling... 💕❗
    It's just another day for me...
    It's just a day with a label 😶
My day hasn't been all that terrible so far.... let's see how the evening plays out.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
2/14/2020 7:14 am

I understand what you're feeling... 💕❗
It's just another day for me...
It's just a day with a label 😶


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 4:48 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    ha... yes, it's way different for me, that is for sure. The 14th this year, is Friday. Which is good , because on Friday a guy , as I have, could cruise the bars looking for women who didn't get a Valentine... such an easy hook up for a one-night-stand.
A single guys dream? Lol


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 4:46 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    She woke up

    she was ready to conquer the world

    did her hair how she wanted

    had a nice pants outfit on, with a blue fitted crew neck sweater

    a bra that held those breasts in tow, so men would want to know

    she ubered her way to work, so that she would only glow

    no traffic, no foes to mess up her mojo

    and, when she arrived she announced to all, that the day could begin

    she opened doors for folk, who knows she might get a lucky poke

    she listend to tunes suggested by her fave blogster

    never had she listened to more than one at a time

    today was different she was dressed to the nines

    she caught every man's eye

    her look was bold

    every song excited her more and more

    a man of her dreams opened the door

    filters open, she told him she got off at four

    He took her to "Sleeping Bear Dunes"

    showered her with kisses and tunes

    such was the dream she craved

    what a beautiful day

    hmm

    reminded me of this

    Pharrell Williams - "Just a Cloud Away"

    This rainy day is temporary
    The contrast is why we got 'em
    'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
    Way way way way way way (hey baby!)
    So what you blown a fuse (you blown a fuse)
    Well that happens to us all (that happens to us all)
    When I come with great news (i come with great news)
    The day could change (change) change (change) change (change) change (change)
    We've all, of course, been there before
    Been there cryin', fightin', the dark
    Let good energy be your strong
    Won't get away way way way
This comment was amazing and brightened my morning. Thank you so much. ❤ The song was perfect, and made me smile. Thank you


fwblook4unow 48M

2/14/2020 4:23 am

Secret_lade...I would have loved to give you an all body massage after work today on Valrntines day....and do anything you wanted to do afterwards😉😘😍


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 3:43 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Oh there you have it the perfect VD gift - a gift certificate for a penicillin shot.
Oh my.... Ha Ha Ha Ha


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 3:42 am

    Quoting dayzeeme:
    this is my second yr without and I am wishing I had not asked for the shift off. But at least I don't have the extra hardship of having to see my ex anywhere near that day. Ughh. Hugs!
I see him just about every day, my daughter gets off the bus at his house. It was a really bitter divorce but we've gotten to the point where we now talk... etc. It's only awkward when he's been drinking and starts hitting on me... Which thankfully isn't often.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 3:34 am

Yep, they stole my post. They've been hawking my blog for a while... Now I know why.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/14/2020 3:32 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    isnt that odd. Or is this the same person with 2 profiles.. Weird site...geeze. lol

    though i soooo needed that laugh on this day ~~
Nope, not two profiles. It's pretty sad, though.... People like that are just low class individuals.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
2/14/2020 2:57 am

isnt that odd. Or is this the same person with 2 profiles.. Weird site...geeze. lol

though i soooo needed that laugh on this day ~~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
2/14/2020 2:55 am

Its a tough holiday for a lot of people. There is always hope as long as someone is alive. No plans here ~~


HAMONMAN 64M
13128 posts
2/13/2020 11:39 pm


Looks like someone stole your post Valentine


dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
2/13/2020 8:15 pm

this is my second yr without and I am wishing I had not asked for the shift off. But at least I don't have the extra hardship of having to see my ex anywhere near that day. Ughh. Hugs!


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
2/13/2020 8:05 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I'm actually kind of relieved I have zero Valentines Day plans. For everyone that does, Happy VD!!!
Oh there you have it the perfect VD gift - a gift certificate for a penicillin shot.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
2/13/2020 7:03 pm

She woke up

she was ready to conquer the world

did her hair how she wanted

had a nice pants outfit on, with a blue fitted crew neck sweater

a bra that held those breasts in tow, so men would want to know

she ubered her way to work, so that she would only glow

no traffic, no foes to mess up her mojo

and, when she arrived she announced to all, that the day could begin

she opened doors for folk, who knows she might get a lucky poke

she listend to tunes suggested by her fave blogster

never had she listened to more than one at a time

today was different she was dressed to the nines

she caught every man's eye

her look was bold

every song excited her more and more

a man of her dreams opened the door

filters open, she told him she got off at four

He took her to "Sleeping Bear Dunes"

showered her with kisses and tunes

such was the dream she craved

what a beautiful day

hmm

reminded me of this

Pharrell Williams - "Just a Cloud Away"

This rainy day is temporary
The contrast is why we got 'em
'Cause sun shining through is just a cloud away way way way way way
Way way way way way way (hey baby!)
So what you blown a fuse (you blown a fuse)
Well that happens to us all (that happens to us all)
When I come with great news (i come with great news)
The day could change (change) change (change) change (change) change (change)
We've all, of course, been there before
Been there cryin', fightin', the dark
Let good energy be your strong
Won't get away way way way

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Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/13/2020 6:58 pm

ha... yes, it's way different for me, that is for sure. The 14th this year, is Friday. Which is good , because on Friday a guy , as I have, could cruise the bars looking for women who didn't get a Valentine... such an easy hook up for a one-night-stand.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
2/13/2020 6:33 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I'm actually kind of relieved I have zero Valentines Day plans. For everyone that does, Happy VD!!!
I think it can be different for guys. Women tend to lay on the fake sympathy accompanied by the "Hang in there's" and "You'll meet someone's".


mc_justmc 63M

2/13/2020 6:18 pm

I'm actually kind of relieved I have zero Valentines Day plans. For everyone that does, Happy VD!!!


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