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Just to check... Is there men who think they HAVE TO do these things..?
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Just to check... Is there men who think they HAVE TO do these things..? Reaching this ripe age of 40, I have realized that there's a lot of things we do in life that we think others insist we do or that we must do, even though they actually don't like it that much or at all, but tolerate it thinking others want it that way. So I'll just open up a few pet peeves I've got about sex and see if I could find the guys who "do it all wrong" for most women, but whose natural inclination is to do it right for me... Women who feel the same, please raise a hand if you're reading, just to see if I'm alone here or not... 1. "Every" guy I talk to seems to think that what women want in bed is a man who is willing to give her hours of cunnilingus followed by an hour or two long pounding resulting to multiple orgasms. Hmm... Although I love to spend a weekend naked in bed with a guy I can't get enough of until our bits are so sore we fuck crying (that happened once, but I've wanted a repeat ever since) I do think the emphasis on lasting a million years every time is WAY overboard. I actually take it as a huge compliment when a guy can't hold it in, I LOVE it! Biggest rush. What I love even more is no emphasis on who comes or doesn't come at all, and just see which one of us gets there first... And then do it again until we're both satisfied and bored with the idea of another go or... have to stop because life... And the cunnilingus... What waste of cock! I can get an orgasm from clitoral stimulation anytime anywhere, but a real cock is a real cock! I think I'm missing a gene that would make me think "oh my god he's licking me down there..." but it simply doesn't flip a switch for me, most of the time, I do cum, but it's the same as masturbation, nothing special... The only time I enjoy it, when I know it's HIS pleasure he's thinking about, and he treats it like it was his favorite food, and if I resist, he'll simply ignore it and eat me anyway - because he enjoys it. Forced into it... 2. speaking of force, I love pressure to do it. I love men begging for it, pressuring me for it, coercing, and even forcing it. Too bad I don't often put up a fight because I fear he'll stop if I give him the slightest bit of trouble. I HATE the feeling when I start feeling I should probably sleep with him to REWARD him for something, particularly making a long trip and spending money on just to seeing me, and if he doesn't put the pressure on me to fuck him because he made all this effort, I feel like the energy is going the wrong direction and it's not working anymore. I want him to push into me, not me expanding to be nice to him. I don't want to be nice to people. I want men to be pushy. 3. I want my men to enjoy me. I don't want them to feel I have to enjoy them. I get it, obviously, why people would enjoy that, but I want men to enjoy me, the girl! I do love men, don't get me wrong, I love everything about a male body, and I want my hands all over a hot trimmed male bod, BUT, what ALWAYS gets me off regardless of how he looks is his need to get his cock inside me and to get himself off on me. Especially if a guy isn't handsome, the last thing I want to do is to pretend I'm all hot for his body!  I do have an ugly fetish, but the way it works is the kind of beauty and the beast scenario; he knows he's ugly, he has to know he's not a great looking guy and that some men are, and that I would not normally sleep with him... He needs to be cool with the fact we're on a different level, and I need him to want to violate me in a sense. I want him to take me, to pleasure himself with my body, fully knowing that some things about him send shivers of disgust down my body and still I let him fuck me.4. I need my actual lovers to forgive me for what I am. I need them to know I love them more than anything in the world for the reasons that I do love them (that's between us) but that, at the same time, any guy can talk me into parting my legs for them... 5. I like things simple. I like the missionary more than anyone is allowed to, his weight on top of me, making it impossible for me to move and escape, and him, staying close and hot the whole way through... Changing positions, bleh! So often changing positions is like: "oh fuck I enjoyed that for too long, look at the time, a position must be changed!" 6. Speaking of positions, I love anything with a close connection to the clitoris. Although I love a penetration more than anything, I need my clitoris in on the action, too. And whenever it needs fingers to be included, it's not happy. 7. That leads me to the fact I think men think we need to be pounded... No. A deep penetration with the tiniest of movement grinding against the clitoris... THat's where the magic happens. A guy can go from tip to the base a million miles an hour with the clitoris nowhere to be found and get me nowhere... I don't say anything as I think this is the way men want it, but frankly, I'm not sure if they do. It's certainly not the women, so logically, it has to be the men? And for that, if it is, he MUST KNOW that this is for him only, and be willing to USE me for that purpose. No pretense or expectation a pounding action should get me off - for him and his pleasure only. 8. I love anal, but I hate lubes in general. They change the smells and they are an insult to my ego; I get so wet so fast, that if a guy needs lubes, there's something seriously wrong with our chemistry. A guy should be able to snap his fingers at me, "wet up" and that should do it. (Well, not quite.) So... The point being, for anal penetration, I must be wet enough for victorian porn... Right? They had anal but no lubes. We should be cool with that.9. Speaking of being wet... I love it when I am NOT wet, too, because I love pain. Ramming it in works for me. You won't manage a second full dry thrust anyway because by that time I'll be flowing. 10. I love being leered at. I love sexual attention and touches... Would love uninvited unshamed ones, too, but our society doesn't allow such straightforwardness. (Trump describing how he can put his hands wherever he wants to... HOT AS HELL!) I love being sexually objectified, truly. That is why I'm here with a clear photo because I love the idea of a guy seeing me out on the town, realizing who I am and thinking... "I know what your pussy looks like... I've seen you." And, perhaps, he could make me aware of that fact, and depending on where we are, demanding to see my nipples live. (Or whatever.) 11. On that note, I'd love a guy to push me into doing something I'd be a little nervous to do... Like I imagine this (photoshopped) photo of me (the background is fake) happened on a date when he insisted I'd hike up the t-shirt and sit like that until he is happy... Obviously, I have to trust him to ensure nobody else sees me like that... Or maybe...?  12. Cock size...  Girth is more important than length, and staying in deep is more important than either. The reason why girls like big cocks is because they love pain, so the idea of a big cock being rammed inside them, THAT is the hot factor. It is not required for simple pleasure. However, a long cock can be too long, because the back wall (cervix) isn't exactly full of nerve endings, but it simply feels uncomfortable or not the right kind of painful. And I can only take about 16 cm (little over 6 inches) of cock anyway, so I'm not endlessly deep, my vagina is completely average in size. I'd like to be deeper to ensure there's no cock big enough to reach the back wall, while I could still safely find the thickest thing out there... I haven't found a guy too thick yet, but a few men who are too long. (I'm curious, though, I need to measure myself somehow to know what is the maximum girth I can take. I'll keep you posted.  )13. And then, my final pet peeve; a guy trying to memorize this list and then do as I ask. The point of this list is that HE needs to feel free to do whatever pops into his head and not think about lists and do's and don'ts, because I pretty much love everything men are told not to do and hate everything they've been told to do. I even suspect that it has nothing to do with the act itself, but my love for male pleasure. I love to feel their pleasure that I cause them. Fuuuuck. Therefore, whatever gets them off, get me off, and whatever they think should get me off probably won't. And other remarks: If I mention other men, don't feel forced to mention your women. I'm a polyandrist and I hope my men are, too, as in men who get turned on by the idea of other men fucking the same girl and sharing her (with his friend)... I don't want to necessarily know about your women or how big of a stud you are (exceptions apply), but I do love a good story about how much you've been disappointed by other women... I don't like anything that is done thinking that should 'please me' and here's not a phrase more a turn off for me as "love to please"... It's a bit of a conundrum because men who genuinely love to please now try to be selfish, and pleasure themselves to please me... And that won't work. 
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Enjoyed reading this post. It's nice reading the real sexual thoughts from a woman. Part of a great sexual connection between a man and a woman is knowing and understanding each others preferences, desires and turn ons! Thanks for that, I'm sure you will make a man happy with your fabulous attitude. Kind regards.
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