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I think you touch upon the difference between a "hook-up" site and a genuine swinger site. You can't be into the swinger thing unless you respect your partner and their wishes, their needs and pleasures. People that fail to understand that aren't swingers in the least; just simple randy bastards! People do want different things from this type of site, but if it were a genuine swinger site, it would be a much, much better place. I hope that 2019 will pleasantly surprise you.
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Bang on.
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My Dear Wonder... At my age, there ain't no such thing as "just another pussy." It's more like... "Thank You, GOD--A Pussy!" I've come to realize certain things ( after having survived decades of mishaps, misappropriations, mistaken identities, and any other number of Misses ), such as this tidbit of wiz-dome-- BTW: substitute any gender-specifics... for the purpose of "PC-ness", if you will... Once you realize the best piece of ass yer ever gonna get you already had, it becomes apparent yer gettin' old. Then, again... once you realize the last piece of ass yer ever gonna get you already had... you can bet yer bottom dollar you actually ARE old! Moral to those statements: Get it while ya can! Like I said... At my age, there ain't no such thing as "just another pussy'--no matter how much they might taste quite similar. Solar...
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That doesn't mean it requires emotion or anything, but it does require some trust and respect. .... No it doesn't. Maybe for you, it does, but generally, no. For instance... a man meets with a hooker , does there need to be trust and respect? ...No. He's taking a gamble she doesn't rob him, and he certainly is not obligated to respect her to have sex.... in fact "Respect" is not necessary to have sex with any woman. ..Why? Because if the male , or the FEMALE, is more concerned about respect and being respected... they're not all that attracted to the other. Trust needs to be in place, .... No. Isn't necessary. Trust , is , in a way, an illusion. Just always take necessary precautions. This should be second nature. you are trusting this person to not spread disease, not harm you and hopefully fulfill some sort of need.,... ha.. yeah good luck with that. Some men and or women, don't want to be treated like, "just another pussy/cock," even if that is the situation. .... Then perhaps those people should put themselves on sites , or in situations, where that is least likely to happen to them. .....Not on this site, for example. I've been involved in what was seemingly was going to be a one night stand and even in that situation, the other party was respectful. .... So you were comfortable with them... but not "Hot" for them. I don't get why men or women think it's cool to assume they can talk to another that way..... What way? ... Anyway, don't worry about how they talk... you only need to be concerned with , "Attraction"... You want to play, or you don't. You may be polite in public, but when you're a jerk on the net, your true colors are exposed.....You may think that, but really you're standing on a track, not seeing a train... but the train hits you from behind..........Someone could just as likely be polite on the net, but be a jerk in public. ..... This is because women say they want to speak to a gentlemen..... so Larry Shut-in in dire need of sex, he poses as a gentleman to get the woman to let down her guard.... they meet and he's a complete loser. Be real, even if real isn't appealing, .....Don't expect, "People to be real" , to ever happen on the net. People are barely real in public, let alone on the net. People are always different in someway, behind closed doors...... They are at their most "Real" in private. .....But , okay.. since you mentioned "being real"..... wouldn't a person "Being real" be a person speaking without the facade of manners and politeness? I'd say , yes. When you are behind closed doors [not in public] even you have a different demeanor/face, that the public never sees. at least we can make an educated decision on how to proceed. .... Throw away "Educated decision"... you're dealing with people...people will only show you what you need to know , so they can get what they want from you.... you always should proceed with some degree of caution. On the net... there are no faces. A polite person on the net can wreck your day in a meeting, and a jerk on the net, can make your day in person....point is......you take a gamble. The gamble is even more riskier when you choose the person seemingly the most comfortable to you.
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Wonder167 replies... "Your wisdom leaves me in awe. I think both those statements might be true in my case, yet I didn't think I was that old!!! I think I'll get them printed on a t-shirt as a reminder, I've had the best and possibly last sex, I'll ever have. Please don't ask for royalties." No royalties will be collected. I have all that I need--well, other than a pussy. At 51yrs (and I'm assuming yer bein' honest), you can't possibly think my wiz-dome would apply directly to you--right?? You've gotta have a good 2-3 decades to go before considering you're possibly losing out on something. I just felt obliged to present the concept of age as a means of lightening your mood... by pointing out the fact that any pussy/cock might be just another one... is a fatally flawed take on possibly the most exceptional experience life might offer. Having been sufficiently awestruck, you may visit my blogs, if you wish--I promise to be respectful. Solar...
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Good to see you again and hope you're well soon. I do wonder what you would be like in person. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I wasn't talking about paying for sex..... I was using that as an example. Meeting anyone, trust and respect takes a back seat to initial visceral attraction to the person. So, if I am asking for respect, I'm not attracted to a man?.... If you ask for respect before you meet... you might still be attracted to him... but you're too busy in your own head being too much concerned with being hurt. You can't 'ask' for respect anyway.... "Respect" is earned. If you meet the guy, and ask him for his respect... again, you're inside your own head, but this time, you're not really all that attracted to him, you're not focused on him, you're inside your own head, worrying about not getting respect. ....So at this point you should just walk away... you're not all that into him. Attraction supersedes respect? ..... Yes....serious attraction supersedes rational behavior. We see examples of that all the time.... you've seen friends or family with the wrong person, yes? That's because they are infatuated. "Attraction" blinded . If I am attracted to a man enough, I'll ignore him being an asshole? ,......Yes. In fact , his asshole behavior may be what excites you about him. Is that rational ? No... but being an asshole usually always gets a man laid more than a man being all nice and big brotherly. ........Sexual attraction, is visceral. Usually not always rational. Well shit, I've been doing this all wrong.... Maybe you have. But then you don't really have any control over primal attraction ..... I'm sure you have had sex with some jerks and he made your toes curl.... but then you snapped out of your mind fog , and moved on. But your still think of that toe curling sex you had with the bad boy who did not respect you. Anyway... asking/insisting on respect before meeting or at a meeting... doesn't work. Respect is earned , for one, and telling man he has to respect you , only gives him the play book to get you into bed. ... Then after sex, he makes a pass at your girlfriends. As for the one night stand, there was comfort and attraction, go figure.... You got lucky. And respect too, what are the odds? ... I don't know, but respect is not a primary thought when there is strong primal visceral attraction. ... I do agree that people let you see what they want you to see, in order to get what they want..... Okay, so don't expect people to always be genuine online. The goal is to meet you and perhaps get you into bed. Women know this game of , "Give them what they want , to get what I want".... very well. Men play it , too. Yet, I disagree that everyone here or otherwise, aren't genuine..... I didn't say everyone isn't genuine.... When you want to attract what you want, you use bait. Even genuine people use bait to get what they want. Again.. a jerk online doesn't always mean a jerk in person.... as .... a polite person online doesn't always mean they are polite in person. Being online, is a gamble , all around.
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Raven.. Has a point.. in my experience.. Respect is earned or demanded or expected! I agree... it's a surprise when it's not there. It hasn't happened to me yet, but only because I haven't nibbled on every invitation.. Perhaps I'm not desperate enough? Yep... I don't really get it.. But I hear it.. So.. Keep trying? Or give up? I'd say keep trying.. It's a gut feeling... Right? But I hear you! 😶 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Respect... Is a bare minimum... It can be demanded, expected and delivered !!! Only animals have no respect.. Animals! Respect is a human trait and has nothing to do with how you play this game or what your goals are. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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He is most definitely correct on this point. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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Swingers want you, more than you want them...especially when the Swinger is seeking a single woman, so Swingers are going to put up whatever facade it takes that will get them you. Are Swingers more respectful? ... Not necessarily. Just more careful in their approach as not to scare you away.
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