Clitoral Orgasm vs G-Spot Orgasm
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Posted:Dec 27, 2010 4:53 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2011 4:57 pm
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Clitoral Orgasm
This orgasm occurs at the peak of clitoral stimulation. It begins with an intense sexual excitement within the clit and then as the orgasm peaks it surges waves of pleasure throughout the body. Some years ago research blow away the myth that this was the only kind of orgasm that women could have, when they showed proof of the g-spot orgasm.
The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body and sexual arousal is always felt in the clitoris no matter where the orgasm takes place. It is usually that the sexual arousal first originates in the clit, and is considered an orgasmic starting point.
What Does It Feel Like?
Clitoral orgasms can be very intense, but may not be as "deep" as others. These orgasms are no doubt very, very pleasurable and helpful in achieving female ejaculation. Stimulating the clitoris can be a very good place to start when trying to achieve female ejaculation, after providing stimulation to the g-spot.
A Reminder- Remember that after an orgasm the clit can retract, and becomes highly sensitive to any further stimulation, often to the point of being painful.
Fingering The Clitoris
A woman's lover will want to respect that the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. Rough rubbing directly on it (especially with rough skin) is not usually the ideal. Another area that if often misunderstood, is that most women want to have constant, repetitive motion to one or both sides of her clit.
Many women have a favorite side, so it is always good to ask which side your baby likes, or if you are the receiver of such divine fun, to tell your lover. Communication is always key during GOOD sex.
Variation of speed and moving all around the clit is not generally preferred. Most women need a constant, repetitive, stimulation with little to no variation just as a vibrator would offer. That is one reason why women love those beautiful toys so much!
Next Time We will look at the G-Spot Orgasm
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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make
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Posted:Jun 29, 2009 6:31 pm
Last Updated:Apr 11, 2011 5:30 pm
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Ladies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum, out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up. Guys tend to get a bad when it comes to understanding women’s bodies and what turns us on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane. And sure, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own. Here’s what they have to say about the six most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.
Sex Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner
It’s 2009 and still, many of you worry about ladylike behavior. You don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive. Failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.
“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship,” Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.
Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience.
Sex Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like
Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm.
“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face, Concentrate on the pleasure of the act. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.”
“Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if you are anxious about your physical concerns,” Men don’t notice half the things women obsess about anyway.
Rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest in him,” Fi
Sex Mistake #3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man
For some men, sex is a very important act. Don’t minimize it.”
The research supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.
“Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of ‘casual sex,”
In a study of university students engaging in one-night stands, the numbers show that men are just as serious about sex and relationships as women. In fact, more than 50% of women and 52% of men who went into a one-night stand, according to Fisher, reported that they did so hoping to create a longer relationship. One-third of them actually did so. What’s the lesson?
“Never assume that a man is not romantic,” Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].”
Sex Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex
Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life -- family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something you take personally.
“It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,” You know that you are not always interested in sex but you still love the man. But when women discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me.’ Not true. He just doesn’t want to have sex.”
Sex Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance
Talking very directly about sex, what you like and don’t like can make women feel uncomfortable, even with a partner they have been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.
“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter, No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”
The good news is that men very much want to please women.
“If you can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, men will appreciate it, But men do listen, particularly if you’re quite clear about it.”
Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New
After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personally.
“Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality,” “If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”
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Beware of Sexual Partners
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Posted:Apr 15, 2009 7:37 pm
Last Updated:May 25, 2009 6:13 pm
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Your Sexual Partner’s Activities Predict Your STD Risk Better Than Your Own
The phrase "sleeping with the enemy" has a whole new meaning.
A new study shows that a sexual partner’s activities may have more to do with whether or not you gets an STD than your own behavior.
All reported having had heterosexual sex.
Each year, roughly 19 million people in usa contract a sexually transmitted disease. About half are between the ages of 15 and 24.
Researchers measured six characteristics to gauge the risk of a sexual partner:
· The partner had a problem with marijuana or alcohol.
· The partner was at least five years older or younger.
· The partner had been in jail.
· The partner had had sex with other people in the past year.
· The partner had had an STD in the past year.
Study participants were asked about their sexual characteristics and their partners’ characteristics. Among those whose partners’ activities were labeled as high risk, 53% were diagnosed with an STD. Among those whose own behavior was labeled as high risk, 38% were diagnosed with an STD.
The riskiest characteristics were age difference and if the partner had had an STD in the past year.
“If you are choosing high-risk partners, you are much more likely to have an STD, even when you account for your condom-use patterns,”
“The theory is simple: You need to have sex with someone who has an STD to get an STD. Based on the prevalence of STDs in the world, it seems like the public may not fully understand their risk.”
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10 Flat Belly Tips
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Posted:Apr 4, 2009 9:23 pm
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2009 6:56 am
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You'd love to have a flat belly for the party tonight, but thanks to one too many sodas or that basket of tortilla chips, zipping your pants is a real struggle. Abdominal bloating not only looks bad, but can cause physical discomfort. The good news? Experts say stomach bloating is a condition you can avoid pretty easily.
We're not talking about extra pounds of stomach fat here, but the temporary abdominal distention that plagues most everyone from time to time. Unless your stomach bloating is because of a medical condition, such as liver or heart disease, the only real cause is intestinal gas ‒ not "water weight
“It is a myth that bloating in the stomach is from fluid accumulation in healthy adults, because the abdomen is not a place where fluids accumulate first,"
So what causes gas to accumulate and wreak havoc on how you feel and look? Experts say there are several causes, from food intolerances to constipation.
Flat Belly Tip No. 1: Avoid Constipation.
Too little fiber, fluids, and physical activity can lead to constipation, which can result in bloating, Jensen says.
To avoid this, eat a diet high in fiber (25 daily grams for women and 38 for men) from whole grains, fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, and seeds. Also, drink plenty of fluids (aim for 6-8 glasses a day) and aim for physical activity for at least 30 minutes, five times a week.
If you're eating a low-fiber diet, gradually bump up the fiber level, making sure you also drink plenty of fluids for better tolerance.
Flat Belly Tip No. 2: Rule Out Wheat Allergies or Lactose Intolerance.
Food allergies and intolerances can cause gas and bloating, but these need to be confirmed by your doctor. Many people self-diagnose these conditions and unnecessarily eliminate healthy dairy and whole grains from their diets. If you suspect you have an allergy or intolerance, see your doctor for tests.
You may benefit from reducing the amount of the suspected food and/or eating it with other foods. In the case of dairy, it can help to choose aged cheeses and yogurts, which are lower in lactose
Flat Belly Tip No. 3: Don't Eat Too Fast.
Eating quickly and not chewing your food well can cause air swallowing that leads to bloating,
So slow down and enjoy your food. Your meals should last at least 30 minutes. Also, keep in mind that digestion begins in the mouth, and you can decrease bloating just by chewing your food more.
There's another benefit to slowing things down: When you take your time to thoroughly chew and taste your food, your snack or meal becomes more satisfying. And studies have shown that if you eat more slowly, you may end up eating less.
Flat Belly Tip No. 4: Don't Overdo Carbonated Drinks.
The fizz in carbonated drinks (even diet ones) can cause gas to get trapped in your belly, Blatner says.
Instead, drink water flavored with lemon, lime, or cucumber. Or just reduce the number of fizzy drinks you consume each day. Try some peppermint tea for a soothing beverage that may help reduce bloat.
Flat Belly Tip No. 5: Don't Overdo Chewing Gum.
Chewing gum can also lead to swallowing air, which can cause bloating.
If you've got a gum habit, alternate chewing gum with sucking on a piece of hard candy or eating a healthy, high-fiber snack like fruit, vegetables, or lower-fat popcorn.
Flat Belly Tip No. 6: Watch Out for Sugar-Free Foods.
"Many people suffer from bloating because they consume too much sugar alcohol in artificially sweetened foods and drinks," which can lead to bloating,
Experts recommend consuming no more than 2-3 servings per day of artificially sweetened foods and drinks.
Flat Belly Tip No. 7: Limit Sodium.
Highly processed foods tend to be high in sodium and low in fiber, both of which can contribute to that bloated feeling, Jensen says.
Get in the habit of reading food labels, When buying processed, canned, or frozen foods, shoot for no more than 500 mg of sodium per serving in any product -- or a total of 2,300 mg of sodium per day
Flat Belly Tip No. 8: Go Slow with Beans and Gassy Vegetables.
If you're not used to eating beans, they can cause that gassy feeling. So can the cruciferous family of vegetables, such as broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and cauliflower.
That doesn't mean you should give up on these super-nutritious, high-fiber vegetables.
"Don’t be nervous about beans," "Just work them into your diet slowly until your body adjusts to the compounds that can initially cause gas."
Or, you can take an enzyme product like "Beano," which can help reduce gas from beans or vegetables.
Flat Belly Tip No. 9: Eat Smaller Meals More Often
Instead of three big meals per day, try eating smaller meals more often. This can keep you free of the bloated feeling that often follows large meals Eating more frequently can also help control blood sugar and manage hunger.
So go for five to six small meals each day, but make sure the quantity of food and calories are proportionate to your needs.
Flat Belly Tip No. 10: Try Anti-Bloating Foods and Drinks.
A few studies suggest that peppermint tea, ginger, pineapple, parsley, and yogurts containing probiotics ("good" bacteria) may help reduce bloating.
"These are safe foods that are good for you when used appropriately, so why not try them and see if they help you de-bloat?"
A Final Word About Stomach Fat
Experts agree that laxatives, water pills, fasting, and skipping meals are not recommended, either to help you de-bloat or lose weight.
If you're looking to flatten your belly for the long term, there's no substitute for losing a few pounds,
"For most everyone, when you lose total body fat, your body reduces belly fat preferentially," he says. "Even though people lose weight differently, there is a little more lost in the abdominal region than elsewhere.”
Experts also say that doing ab exercises all day long won’t get rid of the excess belly. Although you can’t necessarily spot reduce, you can strengthen abdominal muscles with routines like Pilates and exercise ball workouts. And, stronger muscles can help your belly appear flatter.
"Toning and strengthening the abdominal muscles can help you look less fat [and] improve your appearance, muscle tone, and posture, which is also very good for your back,"
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The Right Way To Suck A Womans Pussy?
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Posted:Mar 22, 2009 10:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2009 6:54 pm
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Having worked in an environment that has mostly females, the topic of most men not knowing how to suck a womans pussy has come up time and time again. After having listened to the pros and cons and the rights and wrongs as each female gives her side of the story, I have come to the following conclusion based on what they have said and on personal experience.
There seems to be no right or wrong way to suck a pussy. Some like it when its licked slowly, some when its licked fast, some when the clit is sucked gently, some when the clit is sucked firmly, some when they are on their backs, some when they are on top, some sideways and some all of the above.
The variations go on and on leaving one to conclude that the only right way to suck a pussy is the way that suits the person who you are with.
Therefore communication is the key ladies, let the man know what pleases you and you will be the winner.
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Secrets All Men Keep
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Posted:Mar 11, 2009 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2009 6:09 pm
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Secret #1:
Yes, we fall in lust 10 times a day
-- but it doesn't mean we want to leave you we men are well aware that our sizing up the other lady doesn't sit well with you, given that we've already gone through the checkout line together. But our passing glances pose no threat.
"It's not that we want to make a move on her," "Looking at other women is like a radar that just won't turn off."
Secret #2:
We actually do play sports to get away from you
Secret #3:
We're unnerved by the notion of commitment, even after we've made one to you
Secret #4:
Earning money makes us feel important
Secret #5:
Though we often protest, we actually enjoy fixing things around the house
Secret #6:
We like it when you mother us, but we're terrified that you'll become your mother
Secret #7:
Every year we love you more
Secret #8:
We don't really understand what you're talking about
Well, we don't understand. It doesn't make any sense to us at all. And although we'd like to do better next time, we could only do so if, in fact, we had an idea of what you're talking about. We do care. Just be aware that the part of our brain that processes this stuff is where we store sports trivia.
Secret #9:
We are terrified when you drive
Even if your man is too diplomatic to tell you, we are terrified that you will turn us into a crash-test dummy
Secret #10:
We'll always wish we were 25 again
Secret #11:
Give us an inch and we'll give you a lifetime
This is the most important thing a man never told you: If you let us be dumb guys, if you embrace our stupid night out with our friends, if you encourage us to go liming -- by ourselves -- our silly little hearts, with their manly warts and all, will embrace you forever for it.
And that's the truth.
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Vaginal Itching, Burning, and Irritation
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Posted:Feb 23, 2009 10:36 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2009 5:56 pm
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Vaginal Itching, Burning, and Irritation
Itching or irritation anywhere on the body can cause discomfort. But when it occurs in an area as sensitive as the vagina, it can be especially uncomfortable. Most genital itching and irritation isn't a major concern. But because they can be symptoms of an infection, it's always a good idea to call your doctor if you have any discomfort in that area.
What causes vaginal itching, burning, and irritation?
There are several common causes of vaginal itching, burning, and irritation, including:
Bacterial vaginosis.
It's normal to have a healthy mix of bacteria in the vagina. But the wrong bacteria growing there can lead to an infection. Besides itching, other symptoms that come with bacterial vaginosis are inflammation, burning, discharge, and a fishy-smelling odor.
Sexually transmitted disease (STDs).
Chlamydia, genital herpes, genital warts, trichomoniasis, and gonorrhea all can cause vaginal itching and irritation and other symptoms.
Yeast infection (vaginal candidiasis).
About three out of every four women will develop a yeast infection at some point in their lives. Yeast infections occur when the yeast, candida, grows excessively in the vagina and vulva. Pregnancy, intercourse, antibiotics, and a weakened immune system can all make women more likely to get a yeast infection. In addition to irritation, a yeast infection will produce a thick, white, cheesy discharge.
Menopause.
The drop in estrogen production that occurs at the end of a woman's reproductive years can cause the vaginal walls to thin and dry out. This can lead to itching and irritation. Thinning of the vaginal walls is also a problem in some women who breastfeed.
Chemical irritants.
A number of chemical substances, including creams, douches, condoms, contraceptive foams, detergents, soaps, scented toilet paper, and fabric softeners can irritate the vagina.
Lichen sclerosus.
This is a rare condition that causes thin white patches to form on the skin, especially around the vulva. The patches can permanently scar the vaginal area. Postmenopausal women are most likely to develop this condition.
How are vaginal itching, burning, and irritation treated?
Vaginal irritation will often get better on its own. However, if the irritation continues, is severe, or comes back after treatment, call for an appointment with your doctor. The doctor can do a pelvic exam. The doctor will probably also take a sample of the discharge to find the source of the problem.
How vaginal discomfort is treated depends on what condition is causing the problem:
Vaginosis and STDs are treated with antibiotics.
Yeast infections are treated with antifungal medications. They are inserted into the vagina in the form of creams, ointments, or suppositories, or they are taken orally. You can buy these medications over the counter in different doses -- one-day, three-day, seven-day. However, if you've never been diagnosed with a yeast infection, see your doctor before taking any over-the-counter medication.
Menopause-related itching may be treated with estrogen cream or tablets.
Other types of itching and irritation respond to steroid creams or lotions, which reduce inflammation. A prescription-strength steroid cream can relieve the irritation of lichen sclerosus.
In , it's important to report any itching, burning, or irritation to the doctor because they can be signs of sexual abuse.
Are there home remedies for vaginal itching, burning, and irritation?
Here are a few tips for preventing and treating vaginal irritation at home:
Avoid scented pads or toilet paper, creams, bubble bath, feminine sprays, and douches.
Use water and a plain, unscented soap to regularly clean your genital area. But don't wash more than once a day. Doing so could increase dryness.
Always wipe from front to back after having a bowel movement.
Wear cotton panties (no synthetic fabrics), and change your underwear every day.
Change the diapers of infant girls regularly.
Use condoms during sexual intercourse to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
If you are experiencing vaginal dryness, use a vaginal moisturizer. Apply a water-based lubricant (K-Y, Astroglide) before having sex.
Avoid sexual intercourse until your symptoms improve.
Don't scratch -- you can further irritate the area.
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Does Playing Hard to Get Work?
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Posted:Feb 22, 2009 8:27 pm
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2009 5:57 pm
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Does Playing Hard to Get Work?
We've all had the experience. You meet someone and there's a connection. Maybe you go on a date or two. But then you call them and... they don't call you back. You wait, and you wonder. What did you do wrong? Did she meet someone else? Then, when she finally does call, you're so relieved you want to never let her go.
There's little doubt playing hard to get can increase romantic desire. "When you don't seem quite so available, it makes you seem mysterious, feeds the other person's imagination, makes them doubt whether they have you," says Robert Greene, whose The Art of Seduction is the ultimate playbook for the hard-to-get game. "Anything you do that makes the other person's imagination take flight furthers the seduction process."
If you're excited about someone, uncertainty about how they feel toward you can actually heighten your attraction to that person, explains Paul Eastwick, a psychologist at Northwestern. You have a drive to reduce the uncertainty, which causes you to obsess - which in turn deepens your feelings.
We all want what we can't have - and we value more what we work harder to get. When someone plays hard to get, it forces us to invest more, and the more effort we put in, the more we assume it must have been worth it.
Playing hard to get works because it increases a person's perceived value. "It's simple sexual economics," explains Peter Jonason, a researcher at New Mexico State University who studies the phenomenon. "You give the impression of lower availability, and thus increase demand." We're programmed to be attracted to the best mates possible, and as with other types of negotiations - such as a job offer - cues that you have other options signal your desirability.
"Those who are high in mate value are indeed hard to get for most, since they are highly sought and in great demand," explains David Buss, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas and author of The Evolution of Desire. "Being overly eager is a clear signal that you are lower in mate value."
But playing hard to get is a dangerous game. We like people who like us back, and if you seem too unattainable, you risk causing the other person to lose hope and give up altogether. But stretching out that period of anxious anticipation can be a powerful weapon of courtship.
Use with caution.
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Top 5 Reasons for Skipping Sex
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Posted:Feb 13, 2009 11:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 12:26 am
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Top 5 Reasons for Skipping Sex
The national poll, conducted by phone in January by the Consumer Reports National Research Center, included 1,000 adults 18-75. Women made up 52% of the group. Most participants, 57%, were married or living with a partner, and 48% have younger than 18 living at home.
Most participants, 81%, said they sometimes avoided sex last year. Here are their top five reasons for not having sex, along with the percentage of participants who chose that reason (they could choose more than one reason for not having sex):
1. Too tired or need sleep: 53%
2. Not feeling well or health reasons: 49%
3. Not in the mood: 40%
4. Taking care of and/or pets: 30%
5. Work: 29%
The flagging economy wasn't one of their reasons. Of the 595 participants who reported being sexually active in 2008, 78% said that the economy hadn't affected how often they have sex.
Other findings from the survey include:
· 45% of sexually active participants say they've ever planned a time to have sex with their partners, but only 7% schedule sex on their calendar or PDA.
· 56% of men said they think about sex daily, compared to 19% of women
· People who rate their health as "poor" are less likely to have sex, but they're not less likely to think about sex.
· Parents of younger than 18 were more likely to report having sex in 2008 than people not living with .
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Vaginal Satisfaction From A Thick Penis
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Posted:Feb 10, 2009 9:04 am
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2009 3:40 am
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Why women prefer a thick penis
· more friction and deep stimulation of sides of vagina
· dilation of vagina (feeling of being "open")
· stimulation of g-spot and AFE zone
A thick penis causes more vaginal satisfaction because the extra girth increases the friction and pressure on the vagina walls. The first few inches of these walls are packed with touch sensitive nerves. A thick penis enhances her pleasure also because it dilates the vagina and it gives more pressure and friction to the g-spot zone and the AFE Zone. Women usually like the feeling of being "open", the feeling of being filled by a thick penis. Women seem to like especially the "being pulled inside out" feeling they experience from a thick penis on the outwards stroke. The thicker the penis, the more the vagina walls cling to it and the more she will have such sensations.
A thick penis gives also more sensation to the clitoris
Many people believe that clitoral orgasms won't benefit from extra penis size. However, the clitoris is larger than just the visible part on the outside.
The 'body' of the clitoris, which connects to the glans, is about as long as the first joint of your thumb. It has two legs up to 4 inches long that flare downwards and backwards into the body. Also extending from the body of the clitoris are two bulbs, one on each side of the vaginal cavity, consisting of erectile tissue. It is obvious that a thick penis will create more stimulation on these legs and bulbs.
A thicker penis can also contribute to a clitoral orgasm for another reason: during penetration the tightness causes more pulling on the inner lips (labia minora). Since these connect to the clitoral hood, their movements often make the hood slide up and down over the clitoris.
With an average penis, women usually don't get a clitoral orgasm from penetration alone. Although some couples can achieve this by practicing a position called CAT "Coitus Alignment Technique" in which the man's pubic bone rubs continuously up and down on the woman's clitoris
A few men told me that their wives often can't cum during penetration because "her vagina is too wet", she says. In fact she is only trying to make up an excuse so her guy doesn't have to feel bad about his penis. That loss of sensation is not caused by the abundance of lubrication but by the lack of penis girth. If your penis is not thick enough to cause sufficient pressure on the vagina walls, she will lose some sensation. If she argues about this then ask her if she ever told a man with a very thick penis that her vagina is too wet. Rest assured that she can never be wet enough to handle a very big penis.
In short
During intercourse, most women will not experience the same sensations from a small penis as from an average penis. Moreover, the sensations caused by an average penis will usually not match those from a large one. So if you belong to those men who have a small penis and you want to satisfy your girl then you have to use other methods than purely penetration because that usually won't satisfy her enough.
On a good day when she is very excited, she might get a g-spot or vaginal orgasm from penetration alone, but in general she will always need simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris to make her orgasm. Moreover, you should apply all the tricks of oral and manual stimulation if you want to keep her sexually happy.
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Some Advice For Men With a Small Penis - Part# 2
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Posted:Feb 10, 2009 8:38 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2009 5:48 pm
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Some Advice For Men With a Small Penis
- Part 2 -
(continuation)
"That doesn't mean you should just get your rocks off real fast and go to sleep. Sometimes that's ok though. You are the man; it's your pumping energy that's at stake. You decide how long the pumping will last. But when you feel like it, take your time exploring and enjoying her body for your satisfaction. Don't be self-conscious, but be SELF-CENTERED. You don't have to worry anymore about maybe not giving her maximum vaginal pleasure, because you won't. Problem is solved. You are left to enjoy the party by yourself.
Look at your penis and say how much fun he is going to give you. Not her, you. Don't listen to other's advice that you should concentrate on good technique and other ways to satisfy your girl. That will only confirm in your head that you are not good enough. Don't ruin your pleasure by trying to pleasure her. Let your animal instinct do the talking. If you have a small penis then that's reality. It's a selfish world and that's reality as well. Don't let your mind get insecure. You might sometimes think about what big penises she has been penetrated with before. You wonder if she liked it better. Reality is that she probably has had much bigger ones than yours, and she probably liked it. But you don't care. Her pleasure is not your concern anymore. Do you think the big guy worried that much about her pleasure? So why of all people should you! Tell yourself that she really liked that big penis. You know that for a fact. Don't ever lower yourself by asking her about it. Reality is also that she might think of being with a bigger guy again sometimes. Realize that your small penis freed you of all your obligations to pleasure women. Live your fun for yourself. And you know what, while you are having your fun, as a side-effect she will get some real fun as well. And as a side-effect of that, she might want to have sex with you more than you can handle. There you go, you are getting your confidence back. If you are not in a relationship and your small penis inhibits your dating then think about this. You can stop worrying and go enjoy life out there.
There are many girls who want affection and sex, and you and your penis are going to have some real fun all along. And if you happen to fall in love along the way, good for you, but don't forget to enjoy yourself. Life is only as complicated as you make it. If you are making it your task to be able to satisfy the women of the world then you are making your life complicated for nothing. Even if you never truly learn how to accept your penis, just respect it for one thing, that is for all the fun and orgasms that you had and will have."
"This talk is all about that you have to get that "obligation to satisfy" out of your head. Looking out after your own fun doesn't mean however that you should in any way disrespect the woman you are with. On the contrary, respect her as you respect yourself now. Respect her especially for her right to prefer any size penis she wants. Don't hold her somehow responsible for that. She didn't even choose for that preference. Just like you didn't choose one day to prefer fast cars to slow ones or whatever. Things are the way they are. And stop being so afraid to be turned down. Most women will never turn down a man for his penis size, whether average or small. It is not because they prefer big that they are obsessing about it as you are.
Many women are lacking sex in their life and they would surely accept any penis. And maybe some would rather prefer no penis than a small one but then don't get hung up on that and go to the next girl. Just realize that there is still an awful lot of fun for you. Stop being so afraid that you won't satisfy her. You already know that you won't satisfy her the same way a big penis could, so what are you so afraid about. Afraid maybe that she will be disappointed upon your penetration. Look, when she sees you naked she already knows that she probably won't have spine-shattering orgasms that day.
Stop feeling that you have to make her day or her week or something. Just do what you want to do and have fun at it. If she enjoys it, the better for her. Don't worry about that part. You are here to explore and indulge in your own fun. If you get that simple idea in your head, you should feel a lot less insecure already. Of course, some women might throw you a nasty comment or chuckle when they unwrap your little stub. It's rare but it happens. There are enough stories from men who experienced it to mention it here. But then, is it the end of the world? You too can say anything back you want. Besides, there is a good chance that women will much more appreciate a man who defends himself than one who just takes an insult without resistance."
If you need a break...
Men, although I believe that the above is good advice, there is other advice out there that will help you as well but it has nothing to do with penis size. The author Mike Pilinski recently wrote a phenomenal book that explains everything about the dynamics of men-women interactions.
By learning about this, you will destroy any fear of being rejected by women because you will know exactly what women find attractive and sexy in a man. Although looks and penis size do matter to women, they play a minor role in the seduction process.
to be continued...........
[Final part# 3.......coming soon]
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Some Advice For Men With a Small Penis
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Posted:Feb 5, 2009 11:30 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2009 8:50 am
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Small Penis Problems,
Penis Size Advice For Men With a Small Penis
But first, a comment to womenMany men confirm that at least at some time in their life a woman has humiliated them with a comment about the inferior size of their penis. One piece of advice to any woman reading this: if you think of spending serious time together with your lover then don't ever make any negative comment about the size of his member, not even as a joke, because the relationship is over right there and then. Jimmy, a twenty-five year old taxi driver, has this to say to women: "Never tell a man he has a small penis. He will leave you. Even if for love's sake your guy stays with you, he will likely become unfaithful over time. The penis is a sacred subject to any man. If you think of insulting it you might as well rip his heart out.
"And now the rest...
Small Penis Problems
As a smaller endowed man you don't have it easy. As if you don't suffer enough from having to live with a small penis, you also feel guilty from not satisfying your partners as you "should". You have probably heard many times that you should do everything you can to please your woman, whatever it takes. So their you go, breaking out in a sweat and turning your love session into a workout rather than a trip of joy.
Every half inch of length counts and just to make your penis reach as far as possible, you have to flex and curve your body so much that it makes your sex life feel like hard labor. Men with big penises have more fun during intercourse because they can do the ride calm and relaxed. While the big guy can concentrate on his own fun, the smaller one has to force himself if he wants his woman to enjoy the penetration a little more.
So that's what you do, you force yourself. After five minutes, while your lady thinks you are having a great time, you are actually exhausted from abdominal muscle cramps. So, you take a break from the humping and continue the job with finger work until both your hands are in cramps as well. All that because you feel that you have to make your partner orgasm and because you read somewhere that smaller endowed men should use all techniques in the world to please their partner.
This page is not about sexual techniques however. There are dozens of books available that cover an exhausting amount of sex techniques. Although they are surely useful to anyone who strives to bring some spice to the bedroom, they are not what this chapter is about.
The real problem that you as a smaller endowed man face is not that you can't satisfy your partner, but that you can't accept the fact that your penis is too small and that you are less adequate. What you as a man who suffers from penile inadequacy anxiety are dealing with, is that your self-esteem is usually as low as the esteem you have for your penis, zero. Somehow you have to get your self-esteem back by learning to accept yourself as you are. Sticking your head in the sand and not facing reality won't do you any good. Reality is what you have hanging (or sticking out) between your legs and that the size of it does play a big role in the sexual pleasure you can give to a woman. Now, having said that, there is a lot you can do to get out of the rot, as for instance taking note of the ton of advice following below.
Some Advice
A guy who agrees that the currently available information does not suffice had an interesting solution to the problem and I am presenting his entire text as is. His advice comes down to this: if you are plagued by a small penis then give up the idea that you have to satisfy women at all cost. Accept that you are not made for that. Get back to basics and see sex as what it was meant to be, a gift to enjoy tremendous physical pleasure, not a quest to perform, not a race to satisfy the woman you are with. Think of your own pleasure and let her be responsible for her pleasure. Satisfy yourself and her satisfaction might WILL follow
It goes as follows:
"I am not saying that you have to accept your penis, there is a big chance you never will. Now, ...you have to see reality as it is. First, forget about ever giving ultimate penetration pleasure to your woman. That's reality. Another reality is that there are two parties involved here: there is your penis, and there is you. You are not the same thing. You will learn to separate between the two. Maybe you will never find confidence in your penis to satisfy a woman. But that's ok. You will find confidence in yourself, not to satisfy her, but to satisfy yourself. That's right. It's your pleasure that counts. Know and be aware that you are limited and just go out there and have fun for yourself. Whatever you do, think about your excitement and don't just concentrate on hers. If you think about her excitement you will fail, because you will start thinking about how much better you could do if only you were bigger. Don't think about how much you want to satisfy a woman. Reality is that you can't satisfy her with penetration the way she would like to. So why break your head over that. Think selfish. Just think that no matter how small your penis, it will always give you pleasure. If you penetrate her then concentrate on your sensations, stroke it the way it feels good for you. If you meet a girl whose vagina feels just too loose for you, then experiment and use your imagination. Have fun! That is what you have to concentrate on. You can have your emotions for the girl while you are having sex, but don't ever try to feel or analyze how much she is enjoying things, because that will always lead you to want to satisfy her. If you feel love and intimacy, fine, but don't let it make you feel like you owe her total satisfaction. Keep your head cool and just think about your own pleasure for now. Don't feel like you have to do anything. You don't owe her satisfaction. It is not your job. Not with your penis and not with anything else either. No matter how good you might be in oral sex or finger play, don't concentrate on it because it will make you only feel how much more you would want to satisfy her with your penis if only you could. Do it if you really feel like it. But don't do it just for her. Don't do it just to give her orgasms. Don't think you have to give a woman an orgasm. Let the sex do the talking, not your head. If you decide to penetrate her, do it because you feel like it, not because she asks you. Of course, don't do anything against her will. Mutual consent is always important. Just enjoy her body for your pleasure, not hers."
[To Be Continued in Part 2]
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Vagina Size
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Posted:Feb 2, 2009 9:57 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2009 3:25 am
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Vagina Size
A vagina can be either relaxed or aroused. When it is relaxed the walls are collapsed against each other and the cervix lays closer to the front. When it is aroused the cervix pulls up and the vagina walls open apart. This makes the vagina longer and wider.
Whether relaxed or aroused, the vagina walls are very elastic and can stretch enormously in length and in width. The difference is that stretching them while relaxed will cause discomfort or pain whereas stretching them during arousal causes pleasure (up until a certain limit of course!)
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
length 3.5 to 4 inches
diameter < 1 inch
Aroused ('tented0
length 5 to 6 inches
diameter 1.5 to 2.5 inches
[narrowest at vaginal opening]
Stretched
length 8 to 9 inches
diameter 2.5 to 3 inches
[more during childbirth]
Note that the bottom wall of the vagina is longer than the top wall and the cervix protrudes which gives the impression that the vagina is shorter than it is.
Variations in Vagina Sizes
Vaginas vary in sizes just like penises do, although less extreme. Here also we can see a correlation between vagina depth and vagina width, meaning the deeper vaginas usually dilate more than the shorter ones.
Compare the following tables (estimated values):
women - vagina size - percentage of women
x-small - 0.1
small - 10
medium - 60
Large - 20
x-large - 10*
Men - Penis Size - Percentage of men
x-small - 5
small - 25
medium - 40
large - 25
x-large - <5
* Due to childbirth, there are many women with large and x-large vagina sizes. It is one of the reasons some men will start to look elsewhere after a woman has given birth since they become intimidated by the extra space.
Women are recommended however to get their vaginas fit and in shape again. There are exercises that will help them to achieve this (kegels etc.) but that is beyond the scope of this document. (In fact, a vaginal fitness program should be started way before childbirth, so tearing is kept to a minimum.) One thing that is NOT recommended as a remedy is surgical "vaginal tightening". Often it will make the vagina lose most of its elasticity and sensitivity. Don't do it unless in extreme cases.
What is your partner's vagina size?
I can hear you guys thinking: "Gee, I wonder how big my girlfriend's vagina is?" Let us say you have a six-inch long penis at full erection. Maybe you think your girl is also six inches deep because when you penetrate her fully you touch the end of the vagina. Keep in mind however that her previous lover with eight inches also touched the end of the vagina when he penetrated her. It means that he simply stretched the tissue two inches further.
So what is the maximum length of her vagina?
Difficult to say. You would have to insert a long enough object so that you could measure the part that can't be inserted. Maybe you don't want to go that far but you still wonder how many inches of penis length your partner can take. Just count on it that the average woman can handle penises 9 inches long and 2 ½ inches wide (8 inches around). True size queens can often take up to 12 inches long and 3 inches wide!
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