Conditionally Bisexual  

Cpl3wayusebi 59M/59F  
12 posts
7/2/2017 9:16 am
Conditionally Bisexual


Been playing about 12yrs now I guess and we know what we like. Lot of guys out there do not know what they like and this does certainly complicate the game! Our profile is pretty complete as to what we enjoy and who we will include in our play. We seek a bisexual man younger than ourselves (yes ...see profile lol) who is truly bi. A man who will join a couple for fun and also willing to be a friend. Our current reg guy will stop in now and then and suck cock as it is a turn on for him. Yes ....one on one.
When people message us yes they say they're bi and want to join a couple. When asked if they have experience with a couple some do some don't, normal. When asked if it's a turn on for them to suck cock they say, "With a couple I will do anything." There's a the rub lol. Next question, "Are you bi with men one on one?" They answer, "No I want a woman to be present in the couple." I can only shake y head in amazement.
So there appears to be another level of bisexual we were not aware of. "Conditionally Bisexual" seems to nail it. The man is only willing to be bisexual if he is joining a couple, period. Or to put it another way the guy will suck cock if he's getting the pussy. Not truly bisexual but- "bisexual with the condition...."
With the way we enjoy ourselves and our friends a conditionally bisexual man is not one we would ask to join us. We're set up with a regular partner who is constantly willing to join either without conditions (not same as limits.) Tried to explain this in the profile but I guess it's not clear enough somehow. We have many many views, emails, messages when we're online and we do try to answer these inquiries as we can. If your profile says you are straight we take that as your word and probably won't reply or simply say we're looking for different things. Each to his own as they say. Honesty goes a long ways with us.
As far as the complaint voiced by more than a few men that the couples they have interacted with were in reality single men seeking men, well wade through them just like we do. How do you know? Chat and email go a long way toward sifting out the real people. Your profile says no ongoing email/chat? Well, we won't be talking much to see how it feels, see if it clicks, nor anything else. We don't just fuck anyone and we will get to know folks before/if we decide to meet. Read the testimonials. When your third sentence in chat is "When can we meet?," it really needs go no further as you have shown your inability to comprehend who we are and what we enjoy.
We titled the tagline on the profile (that everyone sees) with we're not looking right now and only willing to email/chat. We do have a regular guy and we're not interested in sleeping with the world at all. Someone new comes along who is interesting we will give consideration of course, where the profile is honest and the person fits our preferences.

BiggLala 47F  
25503 posts
7/2/2017 10:45 am

Sexuality is fluid and can change for many people throughout their lifetime. What you describe is not 'new' and what Dr. Alfred Kinsey coined as hetero-flexible. Dr. Kinsey was a biologist, professor of entomology and zoology, and sexologist who conducted research in the 40's and 50's on human sexuality. Among other things, he developed the Kinsey Scale of sexuality.

That aside, if hetero-flexible people are not for you they just aren't. That's okay...frustrating, but okay. Just have to keep searching for those that fit.

Good luck!

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Cpl3wayusebi replies on 7/2/2017 11:03 am:
I agree. It's the honesty that needs to come first. Why drag it out just state your desires upfront and let's move on.

BiggLala 47F  
25503 posts
7/2/2017 11:39 am

Cpl3wayusebi replies on 7/2/2017 1:03 pm:
I agree. It's the honesty that needs to come first. Why drag it out just state your desires upfront and let's move on.
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Oh hell...that a deeper question and mystery. Too many answers to why some people just won't be up front, and it's frustrating for everyone. We'll be here all day.

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aflower2c 45F  
12947 posts
7/2/2017 1:55 pm

I also use "bi-situational" meaning that I am only open to couples under certain conditions like a swingers party and not on my own time.

I use hetero-flexible on my kink site to mean that I am open to meeting either a woman or a man (but my profile states I am not interested in couples or meeting one half of the pair)

But yes it really comes down to being open to what you are seeking and many men do not like the stigma attached to meeting other men one on one, vs him meeting a "couple". The former could come across as him having gay tendencies and not bi, whereas the later comes across as he is bi.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


rdrkt51 50M  
55 posts
7/3/2017 3:00 pm

Wow Cpl3way, what an interesting conversation. I have been following your blog for a while and enjoyed reading about some of the control factors woven into your words - even before I was comfortable with them. I am now and further along in my growth experience. I am very versatile in my bisexuality and hereroamorous. as you stated honesty is important especially honesty with one's self.


Cpl3wayusebi replies on 7/6/2017 8:35 am:
Thank you for the comment.

Cpl3wayusebi 59M/59F  
19 posts
7/6/2017 8:32 am

Thanks for the comment. Where we state I (Husband) meet the guy first ...came about due to the number of flakes. Wife had just about decided she'd had enough when a guy didn't show as planned. Soooo went to a 1 on 1 first where my time is much more flexible than hers. There is no expectation for a first meet ....just see if it clicks. Has worked well so far.


Cpl3wayusebi 59M/59F  
19 posts
7/6/2017 8:33 am

Thank you for the follow up. Have a great day!


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