Bad site  

HotDev1l 46M
42 posts
5/24/2017 4:09 pm

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Bad site


Occasionally I see other sites that look promising. However, having been an active participant of adult dating sites over the last 15 - 20 years I've learned how to suss a site pretty well.

Whenever I join a site, I use a junk mail account. It's valid....I use it but it's my mail account that I know crap ends up in. I start off my profile with virtually nothing.....the bare minimum that I need to register. I click the link that some of them send to verify the email. Then I wait.

I joined a site 2 weeks ago. So far, I've had 100 views and 50 messages.

My profile says "bloke seeks a shag". That's it.

The people viewing me and sending messages have mostly been foreign sounding names.

My guess....the site is a waste of time.

Trick #1 - costs nothing to defend against.....good sites don't need to send false profiles to tap you up. A site that sends messages and alerts you to profile views but requires you to pay money to view the message or the profile is more than likely trying to relieve you of your hard earned reddies....at worst it could be an organised crime site.

Any self respecting site will allow you to view emails and profiles but will ask you to subscribe to send messages. Meelp is clearly heading in the wrong direction

gismeuc 58M  
14 posts
5/24/2017 6:29 pm

yes they are heading in the wrong direction, and even with buying a gold membership, what you get in return isn't all that great. they like to sell you on all the diversions they employ on this site, but the actual meeting of others has dropped off as they continue to isolate the free members. plus they love to boast about how many profiles the site has, but i would say 2/3 rds are unused ones which haven't logged in for a year or more. when i see a site which keeps profiles open, 1,2 years of no activity, to me that is a red flag on actual active users are far below their numbers


redrockrascal 60M
19400 posts
5/24/2017 6:57 pm

There are a number of ways around the message center restriction for standard members.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


sassy1595 54M/50F  
69 posts
5/24/2017 7:38 pm

What good would it do if one could read email and look at profiles but not return/send a message? All these sites are about making money just like any other site. Auto makers create new accessories to make more money...you try out a car...you like it...now the dealer tries to sell you gadgets to add. Go to an apparel store to buy a top and they will try to sell you pants, shoes, and accessories to go with the outfit. It's all the money-honey and if you don't want to pay it someone else will.


BiggLala 46F  
25187 posts
5/24/2017 8:11 pm

You'd be hard pressed to find a 'reputable' (by your definition) site these days. You can find articles affirming that even the popular [supposed] vanilla dating sites employ baiting tactics to get people to continue paying money. They've (even Match and eHarmony) used these methods for years. It all boils down to making money. They're businesses after all. Other than a non-profit organization, I don't know of any business that does not seek profit. For these sites, profit streams come in the form of 'new' members and members who continue paying.

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HotDev1l 46M
1363 posts
5/25/2017 3:50 pm

    Quoting sassy1595:
    What good would it do if one could read email and look at profiles but not return/send a message? All these sites are about making money just like any other site. Auto makers create new accessories to make more money...you try out a car...you like it...now the dealer tries to sell you gadgets to add. Go to an apparel store to buy a top and they will try to sell you pants, shoes, and accessories to go with the outfit. It's all the money-honey and if you don't want to pay it someone else will.
The point is.....the auto maker lets you try the car out....the apparel store allows you to try the clothes on. Then, here's the key point, when you order....you get what you've paid for. The mustang, with the v8 and leather, air, sat nav yadda yadda. The nice blouse, the shoes etc etc. What you don't get is laying out $80,000 for a Tonka car or paying for an Yves St Laurent suit and getting barbie doll clothes. Don't get me wrong, I'm a businessman and I have nothing wrong with people making money. But a false profile being used to lure people to spend money is quite simply fraud. I.E. Deception for financial gain. That's illegal. There are other sites that balance things (making a profit by monetising certain features) that don't need to rely on false profiles to generate revenue. It's just pure greed.

This site, in its heyday, had a lobby of over 100 people at any time of the day. You struggled to find a quiet room. I met many people from here and am still friends with a couple of people. I subscribed a number of times. Yeah you got your fair share of trolls but false profiles were few and far between. My opinion is its a sign that the site has lost its way and is in decline.


HotDev1l 46M
1363 posts
5/25/2017 3:56 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    You'd be hard pressed to find a 'reputable' (by your definition) site these days. You can find articles affirming that even the popular [supposed] vanilla dating sites employ baiting tactics to get people to continue paying money. They've (even Match and eHarmony) used these methods for years. It all boils down to making money. They're businesses after all. Other than a non-profit organization, I don't know of any business that does not seek profit. For these sites, profit streams come in the form of 'new' members and members who continue paying.
As I replied to sassy above. I'm not against profit, profit is good and healthy. My issue is the way you make that profit.

If you create a false profile or have an algorithm and use that to entice people to subscribe by making them believe the person behind the enticement is real then that's fraud. Suddenly your pursuit of profit is illegal. And if you have to resort to that, sorry but you've screwed up, your marketing mix, your unique selling point is wrong. You've lost your way


HotDev1l 46M
1363 posts
5/25/2017 4:00 pm

    Quoting  :

I know, it's great...but I'm not on social media I did the FB thing for a while and then decided I preferred life off the grid a little bit.

But you are correct, there are many sites that crop up and offer something different to those seeking adventure......perhaps our paths will cross


BiggLala 46F  
25187 posts
5/25/2017 8:59 pm

    Quoting HotDev1l:
    As I replied to sassy above. I'm not against profit, profit is good and healthy. My issue is the way you make that profit.

    If you create a false profile or have an algorithm and use that to entice people to subscribe by making them believe the person behind the enticement is real then that's fraud. Suddenly your pursuit of profit is illegal. And if you have to resort to that, sorry but you've screwed up, your marketing mix, your unique selling point is wrong. You've lost your way
f you create a false profile or have an algorithm and use that to entice people to subscribe by making them believe the person behind the enticement is real then that's fraud.
-Understand your point. However, I will restate that even [supposed] reputable vanilla dating sites use these tactics. So they're all committing fraud. I'm not saying it's right, just pointing out that these tactics aren't solely used by this site.

I still find it fascinating that people are willing to think so little of a site they join to find sex, but have a difficult time thinking a 'real' dating site does the same.

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HotDev1l 46M
1363 posts
5/26/2017 4:11 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    f you create a false profile or have an algorithm and use that to entice people to subscribe by making them believe the person behind the enticement is real then that's fraud.
    -Understand your point. However, I will restate that even [supposed] reputable vanilla dating sites use these tactics. So they're all committing fraud. I'm not saying it's right, just pointing out that these tactics aren't solely used by this site.

    I still find it fascinating that people are willing to think so little of a site they join to find sex, but have a difficult time thinking a 'real' dating site does the same.
I agree...and I'm not cussing this site...it's one of the better ones but once upon a time it was better...its losing its way and being dragged into the quagmire....but your point is perfectly valid


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