Saturday Night Date
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Posted:Sep 23, 2018 10:08 am
Last Updated:Sep 28, 2018 10:47 pm
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WARNING: There is no sex in this Story so you don’t need to read if that’s what you expect!
Saturday night in New York City and we didn’t have any plans. We didn’t want to go out to eat without a Reservation and sit waiting for who knows how long.
We had thought about going to Atlantic City for the weekend but that didn’t work out so here we were on a Saturday night thinking of what to do.
It dawned on me, ask our wonderful neighbor Evelyn over for dinner!
Evelyn is in her 80’s and lives alone. Her husband died many years ago and her family doesn’t live near. She was the first, of not too many, to Welcome us to the building. She is in pretty good overall health and very mentally sharp. Always well dressed and always very pleasant.
We have had her over a few times before but not recently. I always check in on her when I go to Whole Foods to see if she wants or needs anything so we talk a least two or three times a week.
I called her and she available for dinner. So we had a plan. I told her Richard would be over to get her about 6. We don’t like to see her walk alone just to be careful even though she just lives three apartments down the hall from us.
I planned a light dinner because I already knew she is a light eater. Baked Chicken Cordon Bleu with a light mustard sauce and stir fried vegetables. I also knew she likes cake and cognac so that was ready for desert.
Richard, such a sweetheart, took a bouquet of flowers for her when he whet to get her. OK, my idea and I got the flowers this morning but he liked doing it.
We had a great dinner together and talked about everything you can imagine. Evelyn loves to talk and has so many great stories. We love her openness and sometimes colorful language. She made us laugh so much last night.
A little Tiramisu and cognac polished off a great night for her and us. Richard took her home about 10 because she was a little tired.
Later Richard and I were so pleased she joined us for the evening. It made us both feel so good about what we had done. It’s a nice feeling after you do something nice for someone.
It was better than going to Atlantic City and we didn’t lose $1,000s of dollars.
Jan
PS, I was up early this morning to make Banana Nut Bread because the Bananas I bought earns in the week were ready. I made two loaves and took one to Evenly. She was still in a good mood over last night and surprised by the Banana Bread this morning. Sincere appreciation is so nice to get.
Even Transsexuals have feelings and appreciate a kind word. Especially when it doesn’t involve sex.
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Some interesting questions from a Woman
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Posted:Sep 19, 2018 9:25 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2018 10:35 pm
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Last night I had a most interesting conversation on this site. I was checking Messages when I received an IM from a woman in Italy who spoke very good English. There was only one picture in her Profile and that picture clearly showed a Female body (with her face) so I must assume this was a Generic Female
Right away she indicated she was very curious about Transexuals, not for sex but rather she was intellectually curious.
Her questions again prove to me how little is known by the average person about Transsexuals. I’m not singling out or being critical of this woman, or Italians or anyone else for that matter about the misconceptions surrounding Gender Reassignment, with or without surgery.
I can’t remember all the conversation but some of it was still in my mind this morning. Most of her questions were pretty basic and to the point. Please allow me to list some of this Q & A.
Do I have a Vagina?
No, I still have my Penis.
Is it Functional?
Somewhat, but smaller now (due to Hormones) and less often Erect (also due to Estrogen).
How do I have sex?
Brief answer here, Anally and/or Orally
Do I still have Orgasms.
Yes, I do, with or without stimulating my Penis
Do I masturbate?
Not when alone, maybe during sex with someone
Do I have sex with men or other Transexuals?
Both, but I prefer men
How often do I dress as a woman?
In my case, all the time, everyday but I explained to her the difference between a Cross Dresser/Transvestite and a Full Time Transexual. She had the misconception they were all the same.
Do I have real Breasts or Implants?
I explained the effects of Hormone Reassignment Therapy and that I consider my Breasts as Real.
Why am I a Transexual?
This can not be answered with a short IM. I only mentioned that I had a Physical as well as Emotional desire for Feminization.
Do I or will I go back to being a man?
No, I’ve come too far on this path to ever turn back
Do I have a lot of Sex?
I won’t go in to my full answer to her in detail here but only to say I have a Partner, my Boyfriend, and Sex is an important part of our Relationship.
She said she had thought Sex was the only reason why I, and others like me, had become women.
I agin try to explain to her that sex was important to me, but not the only reason I Transitioned.
I mention to her that there are also Women who Transition to being a Male. Her reaction was something I remember quite well, “What?”
She have never heard of this and was completely amazed.
So, I am just telling you that Transsexualism is little understood outside those who pursue it, are attracted to it or are Bi-Curious. It is very complex subject and one that can not be explained in a two hour IM discussion. I mentioned to her some other web sites that may help her understanding.
Whether she takes the time to learn more is something I can’t be sure of.
I can only say, I tried to help her understand who I am, and I am only one of the millions of Functional, Responsible Transsexuals in the world today.
Jan
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A Most Wonderful Evening
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Posted:Sep 16, 2018 10:51 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2018 12:15 pm
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Last night my partner Richard and I hosted dinner for two other couples. The men work with Richard and are actually above him in the management chain so it was important to Richard that we do everything extremely well.
I had never met these couples before but I am always eager make new friends and get to know them socially.
I planned a nice dinner of Shrimp Scampi appetizer, marinated Flank steak with roasted Baby Red potatoes, sautéed mushrooms and stir fried vegetables. This it somewhat of my “go to” meal as it easy to prepared and doesn’t tie me to the kitchen when we have people over.
These two older couples were really nice people and I like them both immediately, specially the women.
I need to mention at this point between the Appetizers and main course I asked Richard to give me a hand in the kitchen. Out of view of our guest Richard came up behind me and gave me big hug and said I was doing perfect. I could feel his manhood was already getting firm.
During dinner one wife mentioned she use to be a volunteer research assistant at the National Achieves in Washington. During that time she became very interested in researching Family History. Everyone started telling stories about their ancestry and she finally asked about mine.
I can’t lie to these people so I had to tell them the truth.
I don't know who my Father was and have always suspected my Mother didn’t know who it was either. I did skip over the fact that my mother was but admitted she never talked about her family, even when I asked about them. My Mother had a way of avoiding questions like she didn’t even hear them.
That got the dinner discussion changed to something else probably so as not to embarrass me. Again, very nice people.
After dinner the men relaxed with scotch in the living room while the women helped me clear the table. In the kitchen the woman who use to volunteer at the National Archives mentioned that she had worked on similar research for people who knew almost noting about their ancestry and if I wanted, she would try to find out what she could about mine.
Over Cheesecake and Cognac I asked her about how this was possible.
“ It usually start with a simple DNA Test” she said and asked if I had ever had one, which I hadn’t.
This got the other wife involved. She was a Psychology Major in College and mentioned that it’s very common for people with an unpleasant childhood to suppress their curiosity about family ancestors or distant themselves from their past.
This may be the underlying reason I became a Transexual she when on to say very matter-of-factually.
We, Richard and I, don’t hide my Transition to womanhood anymore.
I spent hours talking with these two intelligent, fascinating women about many, many things. I could have taken all night but one of the husbands thought is was time to go so both couple left around midnight.
Richard and I have the most exciting, passionate, vigorous sex as soon as the door closed. Both of us were excited beyond description for different reason.
Richard said he knew both men were watching me and wanted to fuck me without saying it aloud. That turned him on to almost the crazed level.
For me, it was everything combined. A wonderful (if I may say so myself) dinner with the perfect wine, wonderful discussions and Knowing my man was horny for me.
I was aroused in all four ways. Gastronomically, Intellectually, Physically and the perfect amount of drink to put me in romantic mood.
The Perfect Night!
This morning I woke up naked next to Richard and still feeling erotically pleasant. I brought Richard into me again and drained him with elegantly
thrusting hips and deep passionate kisses.
The perfect start to the day!
Jan
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Unintended Consequences
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Posted:Sep 10, 2018 10:07 am
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2018 7:42 am
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I wrote in my Blog recently how I Dominated (Domm’ed} my Boyfriend for the first time. I mentioned that he had came home late on a Friday night and I played the angry Girlfriend who became a evil Dominatrix to teach him not to be late when I’m ready for sex.
Weekend was fun with me in Charge and was meant as a one time, or only an occasional, role playing activity. However, this last Friday night he didn’t stop with his male friends for Happy Hours and was home at his normal time, about 6 PM. When I asked why, he just said they had other plans.
I had planned to go out that night expecting him not to be home early. I had arranged to meet a guy at a hotel in the East Village. I had my cover story all arranged and girlfriends in on the plan.
I wanted to go ahead with my evening so got ready to go out but at the last minute decided to stay home and entertain Richard on this Friday night.
Details of what we did that night are not important.
What is important is that I may have lost the one night a week I can get out and meet another date. This was not my plan when I started this. If Richard is going to be home every Friday night, I will have to find a new way to have excitement.
Here are some things I thought of;
Go out anyway but that that has the obvious risk of being caught.
2. Maybe convince Richard to bring in a third to play with, maybe one of my Transexual girlfriends.
3. Find a like minded couple to invite over.
4. Domm Richard more and demand to have as many lovers as I want.
5. Accept this loss of freedom for the time being and see what happens after a few weeks.
I’m still tossing this around in my mind. There may be other options as I think though this.
I’ll share this with you also. We came up with code words for our Domination game. The evil Dominatrix is named DeMonica, not Janice. We use the words Salt or Pepper for who shows up at night.
Salt is for the sweet, loving Janice.
Pepper is for the Bitch DeMonica.
This morning when Richard was leaving for work he asked “What’s for dinner?”.
“I don’t know yet, any request?” i replied.
“Not really” he said “but can you add a lot of Pepper please”.
Looks like DeMonica will be here this evening! Maybe we’ll find out what the future maybe.
Jan
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One Wild and Different Weekend
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Posted:Sep 2, 2018 1:23 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2018 10:31 am
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It all started with some advise from my good Friend in Las Vegas. I mentioned to her that I wanted my Boyfriend to open up. He was becoming very predictable when we had sex. I mean it was good but I just knew there were something in his mind he wanted to try. I wanted to “Spice” things a little but wasn’t sure how he would react.
Let me explain a little. I’m a Transexual and I know Richard (my long time boyfriend) has a somewhat suppressed Gay tendency. He want to project the Mr. Macho image as part of his everyday persona even when we make love. He doesn’t play with my small penis too much during Foreplay instead he loves to play with and suck my tits and we kiss a lot.
She suggested I get a Strap-On Penis and Dominate Richard and see how he likes being Fucked and made to suck a big cock. I decided to try it on him.
I’ve mentioned on here several times that I don’t “Top” men, especially my boyfriend for two reasons;
The Estrogen Therapy I’m on has shrank my Penis tremendously. This is good for my Transition to becoming a more Feminine person but
With a such a small cock, I just don’t have enough penis to sexually satisfy anyone.
I have never been a Dominatrix to anyone, male or female, before so I was entering unknown territory. Guess that’s has a double meaning this time.
To know what to do I watched a lot of porn. This alone got me excited about the new role I was going to try. I studied what to wear and how to act as a “Domm”. I when shopping in Chelsea sex shops and picked up a few new things to wear and to use. I even found the perfect Strap-Ons. Hollow, so I could put my dick in it. I bought a black one and a white one.
I was ready!
Friday I knew Richard, as usually on Friday, would be home late after Happy Hours with his Macho buddies from work. I dressed in Black skin tight Latex, Fishnet black stocking and Thigh High Black Boots to greet him when he got home.
About 10:30 he came home. I had been waiting in the bedroom. He called my name and that was my cue to take charge.
I walked out with a new small Whip I have also purchased in my hand. He just stood there looking at me in total surprise. He was too stunned to talk.
“Your late” I said. “I don’t like waiting Fuck Boy” I added angrily.
“You smell like a cheap bar. Get in the shower and clean up before I lose my patience with you” I commanded as I grabbed his crotch and squeezed hard. Off he went still trying to understand what was happening.
After he showered I gave him a pair of my lacy underwear and told him to put them on. Without a word, he put them on. I led him to the Living Room and told him to turn around and show me his ass.
“I’m going to like fucking this tonight’ I said while rubbing his ass with my whip. He started to tremble.
“First get me a glass of wine you shit” i said. I had been picturing this in my mind earlier tonight and as I had imagined, he went off to the kitchen and brought me back a glass of white wine.
“Not white you stupid piece of shit. Get me Red and hurry your worthless ass”.
For the next couple hours I called him every nasty, degrading thing I could think of. He took it all with saying hardly anything. When he did speak, I told him to shut up and only talk when I told him too. He was totally obedient to everything I said.
I made him wait alone while I went in to the bedroom to put on a Strap-On. I picked the Black one to try on him first.
Back in the Living Room I told him to get on his knees and suck my new 8” Black cock. He was all over it in seconds. Licking it, sucking it, kissing it. I could feel he was excited and loving the moment.
I would make him stop from time to time while I drank my wine and insulted him over and over.
“You don’t know how to suck a cock you worthless piece of shit. Do I have to teach you everything you miserable fuck?”.
“Try again Fuck Boy and do it right this time or I’ll beat the fuck out of you”.
He would suck harder and faster each time.
“Get in the Bedroom and get ready for a Big Black Cock in your white ass” I commanded.
Without hesitation he almost ran to his bedroom. I waited awhile before going in there after him. Making him wait.
I made him lay on his back with his legs held up in the air while I fingered him with lots of my lubricate.
When I entered him he moaned and wiggled around trying to ease the delightful pain he was feeling. I didn’t know how deep to fuck him so I started slow, not pushing too deep. Soon he was thrusting his ass up to get more cock in his hole.
I started jerking his erect cock while I fucked him. He came quickly with a loud deep throaty groan as he pulled me in him all the way to the hilt. I’ve never seen man orgasm so intently.
I fucked him two, maybe three times more that night. He could hardly get up when I ordered him to the bathroom to get some wet wash cloths and clean my Strap-On.
Saturday was more of this. I would put on different sexy clothes and boots, torment and humiliate him. I made him lick my boots, kiss my ass, fix me food and wine. I even spanked him a couple time for being slow or bringing me the “wrong” thing.
He would do anything I asked. He was now my SLAVE.
I never felt this way before, Being in Power.
It now Sunday afternoon. Richard is passed out from exhaustion. I’ll wake him later and Fuck him some more. I getting to like this. It’s a whole new Chapter in our lives thanks to a little advise from a close girlfriend.
Jan
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Jan the Candidate
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Posted:Aug 27, 2018 9:07 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 4:5 am
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A friend of mine sent this to me as a joke;
It's a Sticker that says "Janice Janes for Congress"
Gave me a good laugh. I’m not the least bit political and have no real intensions of ever going any further then voting. I’m registered as an Independent and have gone “Both ways”.
Anyway, I had a Dream about this last night.
I was leaving my apartment building when dozens of news reporters surrounded me, sticking microphones in my face and they were all yelling questions at once. Shoving, shouting, chaos.
In my Dream I had trouble understanding the questions in all the noise and bedlam but I believe it went like this;
Q. “What is your Party?”.
Yes, I love to Party. Do it all the time.
Q. What Platform will you run on?
A. I don’t recommend running in Platforms. Too dangerous. Shorter heels maybe.
Q, What is your position on Climate change?
I can Climax in almost any position so I do change positions a lot.
Q. What do you think of the bull Stock market?
A. The Cock market is fantastic. It’s good when it rises and goes up. Especially a Bull cock.
Q. What is your position on Immigration?
I usually squat in the shower when I Irrigate, Opens me up for a good cleaning.
Q. Will you accept Private Funds?
Fun in Private is best, not Public. I don’t like people watching.
Q. What is your Position on Capitol Punishment?
I used to live in DC so it’s available there too. Now I get Punished in New York. About the same, bent over.
Q. What will you Stand for?
Kissing, other than that I usually lay down or on my Knees.
Q. Will you go after the Feminist vote?
Yes, I try to be Very Feminine everyday.
Q. Are you on Twitter?
No, just Hormones at the time.
Q. What do you think about our Fiscal position?
I’m in pretty good Physical shape so I’m OK in almost any position.
Q. What will you Focus on if Elected?
Oh yes, Erections should be Focused on as much as possible.
I think it went pretty well for my first time as a Candidate.
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Transexual Buddhism
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Posted:Aug 25, 2018 10:39 am
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2018 12:11 pm
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This Blog post was triggered by conversations I had last night.
Richard called and asked if he could bring a couple guys from work home after Happy Hour/s. He said he would bring food so I didn’t need to do anything for them. I said I had started an Asian Stir Fry for us so he said he would bring Chinese. OK, great, see you when you get here!
They got here about 10 PM with huge orders of Chicken Fried Rice, Chicken Chow Mein and Egg Rolls. I opened some white wine and we started a late night dinner.
I had met one of Richard’s friends before but not the other one. Both nice guys that work with Richard but not in the same department. Richard being in the IT area, meets everyone at one time or another.
One of them asked me about the small statue of the Buddha I have in the living room so I explained that I followed the teaching of the Buddha but not devoutly. This started them asking a lot of questions about Buddhism which started me to think about how little people know about the philosophy of Buddhism.
Let me start by saying these are my own thoughts on the meaning of Buddhism and that they may be adjusted a little for the current world and the dilemma I was going through before my Transition.
First, I don’t see Buddhism not as a Religion but as a Philosophy for a happy Life. I don’t attend a Buddhist Temple, I don’t celebrate Buddhist Holidays or Festivals, I have never shaved my head or worn an orange robe but I do prescribe to the Buddhist Philosophy of Life.
The best way to understand Buddhism is to know the foundation of Buddhism as told in The Four Great Truths;
In Life there is suffering. You must accept this. No human life is without some form of difficulty.
You must identify your suffering. Break it down to it simplest form and think of it as an obstacle to true happiness,
Think of what you can do to end this sadness. How can I overcome this blockage to the happiness I desire.
Accepting the answer is the only way to Happiness. Even if the answer is that the desire can not be eliminated the answer opens the way to peace in your life. Not everything in your life can be resolved but understanding why not can bring you Peace.
I applied these concepts to my own life in this manner;
I, like so many others, suffered dealing with my Biological self and the Emotional desire.
Being a full time male would not end my Emotional needs. I tried putting my mental wants behind my physical presence but my emotional desire could not be suppressed.
I decided, after much deep thought (meditation so to speak) and fully understanding all the consequences, to become a Woman.
I accepted this answer as the only way to end my Suffering and committed to this path.
I guess I felt the need to say this because I couldn’t say it all last night to Richards friends.They were interested in learning about Buddhism, not my personal story.
Maybe they can apply the Four Great Truths to their own life and coming to understand and deal with whatever personal struggles they may have.
I hope Everyone can find True Happiness. I have.
Jan
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The Perfect Penis
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Posted:Aug 23, 2018 11:22 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2019 10:32 pm
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In several recent conversations, both on here and with friends, we have talked seriously about the Perfect Penis. OK, maybe a few jokes thrown in, but I think we are in general agreement of what is the Perfect Penis.
To the best of my knowledge, all of the people I’ve talked to about this are sexually experienced Transexuals or Crossdressers. not including those who hope or dream of having sex as a woman or feminine being.
Unfulfilled desires weren’t not considered.
When I say sexually experienced talking about the average Transexual or Crossdresser that have dated more than one man but not hundreds of men.
Opinions vary somewhat on this subject like in any other controversial subject, but here’s what we all agree for the Perfect Erect Penis;
Length of a Penis is important BUT too long or too short are not always sexually pleasing. Too short is generally considered as less than 4 inches and too long is over 8 inches. A Short Penis may not reach deep enough to stimulate the erogenous areas. Too long a Penis may actually be painful thus reducing or eliminating the pleasure we all want.
Girth of the average 4 to 8 inch Penis is just as important as length and with the same limitations. A Penis circumference matters for penetration mostly. Too “Fat” a Penis can be painful whereas a “Skinny” Penis doesn’t always stretch an anus to be felt enjoyably. It’s like a Fist or a Finger, both are too extreme for most of us.
Firmness is a must. Simply put, they don’t make floppy Dildos because nobody wants one. You can’t hit a Home Run with a rubbery bat either.
A Large Penis is visually exciting, No doubt about that. We all agree that a Large Penis catches our eye and imagination. It may not be for fucking but for other things you liked to do with it. It easier to enjoy a large Penis orally. A large Penis is also fun to satisfy by hand and letting the sperm fly onto your face. We all admitted to doing this some times.
A Penis lacking great length or girth can be pleasurable when Love is involved not just Passion. If the man with the smaller Penis is attractive in other ways, e.g. fun to be with outside the bedroom or there is a strong emotional connection, he can be just as satisfying or even more satisfying as a young hung bull.
On the last point, here’s where being a gentleman or a really nice guy matters as much as a prodigious cock. Be kind, respect us, send a little time to talk with us and you’ll have more great sex than the guy who just wants to fuck us with a big dick. Excuse my bluntness.
So, in conclusion it is difficult to define the Perfect Penis for everyone. They can all be wonderful and there is a place for all.
Maybe it was best summed up by a very good girlfriend of mine. When asked “What is the Perfect Penis?” she replied,
“The one you’re with.”
Jan
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A Wonderful Weekend in DC but,
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Posted:Aug 20, 2018 8:57 am
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2018 8:50 pm
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I’m originally from Washington, D.C. I grew up there, left when I joined the military but came back and went to college near there (University of Maryland) and began my working career in D.C. I have lived in New York City for the last couple of years but plan to return to D.C. later this year hopefully.
A few weekends ago several of my old friends had something like a Reunion Party there and my Partner, Richard, and I were invited. Many of the people at the weekend party were friends of both of us and some were friends of just one of us. Also, some of the people there had been out of the country for several years and recently returned. Some of the attendees flew in from other cities just to spend time with old friends.
So the Party planning kept getting bigger and bigger. All together about 30 people were there either for both days or just dropped in briefly. It was decided the best plan for both accommodations and Party space was an Airbnb. A great place was found a little away from downtown that turned out to be perfect. Large home, up to 11 bedrooms (one used to be servants quarters), plenty of bathrooms, huge kitchen, outdoor covered patio, a Pool Room for the guys and a large dining room.
Some of the people that were planning to attend knew I was Transitioning and some didn’t. Some hadn’t seen me for years. Some only knew me as a male in my prior life. Some hadn’t seen me since my HRT Therapy has really changed my appearance recently. So I wasn’t sure exactly what to expect but I was anxious to be there as the new me, Janice.
I must tell you, everything was fabulous. Everyone was surprised by my recent changes. I don’t know how many times I heard “Oh my God, you look wonderful” or “I can’t believe how you’ve changed”.
Everyone had noting but compliments for me. It was so gratifying and rewarding to hear. All supportive, not even one bit of negativism.
I almost got embarrassed by all the praise and admiration. It was a little uncomfortable at times having such nice things said to me.
For my part, I tried to blend in as much as I could. I really just wanted to be someone else at the party and not the main attraction. I wanted to relax and find out what was new in other peoples life but the conversations kept coming back to or about me.
While I truly appreciate all the adulation at the party, I must also say “Enough is Enough”. I want to be one of the guys, but not as a guy. From now on please treat me as good old Janice, just one in the group of close friends.
I still have the same mind, the same values, the same opinions and the same beliefs as before. Only now in a different package.
Jan
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The Hard Truth is
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Posted:Aug 10, 2018 10:30 am
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2018 8:49 pm
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Not everyone appeals to everyone!
Had an incident last night on line that really upset me. I was chatting with a guy that I have talked to before, causal conversation like before mostly about sexual preferences and the like. Just late night rambling.
All of a sudden he goes off about me not wanting to meet him for kinky sex. Started calling me a BS’er and fake.
I tried to remind him that we never talked about a personal meeting to my recollection. He kept on with his rant about me lying to me until I closed the dialogue screen.
Here’s why I know I never mislead him. The one picture that is in his Profile I did not find appealing. It only shows his genitalia in what appears to be woman’s panties. No face at all. This was not physically or sexually arousing to me. Not enough for anyone to consider an encounter.
I can’t recall for sure but he probably contacted me first in the beginning. I will usually answer a IM even if just a simple “Hello”. I don’t reach out to many people to start conversations.
Here simply put is the Hard Truth;
Everyone has their own taste and preferences. What appeals to an individual is manifested in every aspect of our life, after about the age of 12. This is what makes everyone different.
So if a man or woman doesn’t react to your proposal for sex, it’s probably because we don’t align in our preferences or taste.
Here’s a easy test of what saying. Go to the “My Stuff” tab on your Profile. Go over to the far right column and click on “Viewed Me”. See how many people looked at your Profile and I guarantee you the majority never contacted you.
Either something in your Introduction or Information or maybe in your Photos didn’t match their preferences. Nothing wrong with that, just a matter of choice.
So don’t get angry just because someone doesn’t get excited over you. Accept it and move on peacefully.
Jan
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My Apology to whoever thought I neglected them
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Posted:Aug 9, 2018 11:05 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 4:5 am
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Since I don’t remember the name of this particular person, this is an Open Letter to everyone.
The other night I was on Passion ’ing with one of my oldest girlfriends on there. She lives in a different state so this is the easiest way to get together. We talk about a lot of different things and enjoy being in touch with each other.
After we said Good Night and I closed the screen, I noticed the symbol indicated I had another waiting so I clicked on it.
As you know, only a few words are displayed until you click on REPLY, which I did.
It was an angry message from some guy that said something like,
“OK bitch, guess you’re not interested”.
Prior to that were short one liners from him asking if I wanted to fuck and a picture of his erect cock, which wasn’t that bad looking, was included.
In my defense, I was busy chatting with someone else and didn’t know you were trying to reach me. If I had known, I would have at least said Hello.
It dawned on me that this probably happens quite often. You get contacted by one or more people while you’re giving your full attention to someone else. The IM screen does’t tell you that you have other IMs waiting while in a conversation with someone.
When ’ing with someone, that person gets my complete attention. I don’t open multiple chat screens, like I suspect some others do.
I realize an expects to get a reply quickly but that just isn’t always possible.
Please be understanding.
I guess this is similar to”First come, First served”(no pun intended) but in this case it’s “First opened, First answered”.
So, my apology to anyone that felt I ignored or neglected them. Sorry I couldn’t get back to you.
I’ll try to do better. I’ve had wonderful dates with men that started with an .
Jan
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Non-passable? Are you sure?
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Posted:Aug 5, 2018 1:12 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2018 11:01 am
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I see “Non-Passable” a lot in the Profiles of many on this and other sites. It always causes me to question this.
I believe “Non-Passable” means that you feel you would be outed in public as a guy, not a woman. It also means, I believe, you will meet in private, away from people that may be suspicious of your real gender.
OK, if it’s a bread or mustache that makes you “Non-Passable”that a separate issue. Your hairy face is not going to get you many dates but if you have to keep it, well you have to keep it but to me that doesn’t make you “Non-Passable” it make you “Undesirable”.
First, are you being too critical of your Feminine look? Maybe you just need to refine your make-up some. Or have different hair.There are several places on the internet that can help you get a better look, even make-up tips for CDs.
Maybe it’s something physical in your appearance. Large Adam’s Apple, a manly nose or just general masculine features. Whatever it is, there are ways to mask or minimize these also. Woman use them all the time. Look them up.
Lastly, take a look around you on any given day or anyplace. How many real females do you see that are actually “Non-Passable”. Too tall, too large, poorly dressed, hair not done or just plain not generally attractive. Notice something else, they’re with a man usually. Someone accepted them as Passable.
So, don’t be so sure you are “Non-Passable” just because you think you are not a Glamour Queen. Few are. We in the CD/TS/TG community tend to be too conscience of our looks and therefore we become our own worse critic.
Jan
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Little things I Now Embrace
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Posted:Aug 4, 2018 9:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 4:5 am
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I have mentioned many times that to me, Transitioning to the Female world is more that just looking Female. It really is the nexus of Mind, Body and Spirit.
I have assumed the duties and responsibilities of the “wife” in my relationship with my partner, Richard. We are not married yet, maybe never will be, but we each have our role. Some of each of our responsibilities just happened as part of our everyday life together while others resulted from decisions we made together.
For example;
I’m in charge of the Kitchen, my favorite job. I do the meal planning, shopping and cooking/baking. I’m sure by now, Richard doesn’t even think about dinner during the day. He knows I have that under control.
Cleaning the apartment is my responsibility and something I enjoy doing. Sure, not a big job, but vacuuming, dusting, mopping (just kitchen and bathroom), straightening and whatever I do almost everyday. Even cleaning the bathroom is something I take pride in doing really well.
I make the bed or beds. On occasions, I have to get some work done after dinner (or play on the internet) and I may crash in our second bedroom room instead of disturbing Richard’s sleep.
Managing our finances is my job also. We have joint accounts so I am the Bookkeeper. I make sure the few regular bills are paid, I track our investments and savings, I make sure we always have some cash in the apartment (mostly for tipping delivery people) and look for ways to save money.
I get the laundry done. Really not a big job, we have a Laundry in the building, but I make sure it gets done.
I also work from home and am very conscientious to not abuse this privilege. I make sure I give 8 hours (or more) to my job everyday.
So those are most of responsibilities I willingly accept as part of my role as a domesticated woman. These are things I never worried about 10 years ago but now embrace as part of my Transition.
Oh, you may be wondering what are Richard’s jobs? Well, he has three that are very important;
1. Plan, or suggest, our social life. Could be going out for a dinner, entertainment or having friends over.
2. Keep me happy in the bedroom.
3. Tolerate my occasional affair or other “wifely” sin.
If he does those things, I’ll take care of the rest.
Jan
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