Yearnings.....Redux.....  

KtMnDu 66M
7603 posts
7/9/2016 7:03 pm
Yearnings.....Redux.....


Some things never change........I put up this post almost 3 years ago, as I was getting my feet wet, again, on this site in this current iteration........

It’s all about the yearning.........how we long to find that partner who we are so in sync with, that soul mate……that “ one”.......that when found, would make all things right. I suspect that most of us believe that they are out there, though the probability of crossing paths with them may be highly improbable. Even so, I think we all consider the possibility every so often in our lives, some more than others, obviously, and may make a concerted effort to find that partner in life.

The internet has made it easy to reach out to large numbers of people, for whatever reasons, and as such, the proliferation of dating sites feed this, and provide an outlet to actively, in real time, to reach out and make ourselves known to others.

And then there are sites such as Meelp, which allow members with a particular focus or interest area, to seek out other like-minded people. But even here, with its’ orientation toward the physical, sexual side of things, there are many who ponder the thought of finding that “one” who completes them. And while considering that possibility, I suspect that they are not holding their breath in anticipation. But still, that thought, that possibility, lingers in their mind.

We’ve all come here for our own reasons, but I consider Meelp primarily a site for the “alternative”, “swinger” lifestyle……those who are seeking multiple sexual partners of all kinds, in a variety of situations……..thus the large number of couples seeking other couples and select singles allowing them to pursue their desires in those ways. But there is also the large number of single members who don’t want or need a relationship beyond the occasional sexual encounter. But beyond those, there are a great number of members seeking that “one”………some come right out and say it, but most imply it in their profile, slipping in their strong sexual desires as an aside, but their real focus is the whole deal, that one life partner who will bring it all around.

It’s a worthy activity, listening to those yearnings and reaching out in the off-chance that something will come from it. Imagine, that after honestly laying one’s self out there, that those paths cross, and what may have once been improbable is now possible, or even within reach?

Our minds deal with all our day to day stuff, overwhelming at times, and yet we hang on to a few things, way In the back………our dreams are there, as are our fantasies……and then in the corner, there is the thought that there is someone out there, that "one" person, that together, we would make all things right……….

LiveLifeDoU 63F  
2133 posts
7/9/2016 7:23 pm

Hmmm I don't know if there are a 'great many' of us still hoping...and looking for, that one that will add to our happiness in all those small, so important ways...and vice versa....those old-fashioned relationships some of us remember from days gone by. Sometimes, I feel like I am the only one on this site that feels that way...then I hear from many of the fine ppl who read and respond to my blogs or that i chat with and I know that I am not alone...though I do feel there are not all that many of us on this site. I could be wrong. In any case, friends are very important and that's my focus these days.


KtMnDu 66M
6201 posts
7/9/2016 9:30 pm

    Quoting LiveLifeDoU:
    Hmmm I don't know if there are a 'great many' of us still hoping...and looking for, that one that will add to our happiness in all those small, so important ways...and vice versa....those old-fashioned relationships some of us remember from days gone by. Sometimes, I feel like I am the only one on this site that feels that way...then I hear from many of the fine ppl who read and respond to my blogs or that i chat with and I know that I am not alone...though I do feel there are not all that many of us on this site. I could be wrong. In any case, friends are very important and that's my focus these days.
Those friends do matter.......but I think a whole lot of us carry the idea of that "one" in the back of their head..........


KtMnDu 66M
6201 posts
7/9/2016 9:33 pm

    Quoting  :

There is real value in moderating one's expectations......this site leads one to believe that it's all just a click away............and indeed, that possibility exists, but still........


VenusRising11 66F
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7/9/2016 9:41 pm

I am not looking for the 'one,' as I don't believe such a thing exists.......but I am looking for like minded people to enrich my life. After that, I try to stay open to possibilities.



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KtMnDu 66M
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7/9/2016 9:48 pm

    Quoting VenusRising11:
    I am not looking for the 'one,' as I don't believe such a thing exists.......but I am looking for like minded people to enrich my life. After that, I try to stay open to possibilities.
Staying open to the possibilities is really as good as it gets............


BiggLala 46F  
24046 posts
7/9/2016 9:58 pm

I stopped believing in soul mates over a decade ago, and I'm not sure I believe in The One. I do think there are people we connect with more than others, from which A one can be found. However, I've come to fully comprehend that, while you might think you've found A one...a good A one that you connect with above all others in your life, timing is everything in whether you get what you want. If the timing is not there, audios to that one.

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KtMnDu 66M
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7/9/2016 10:03 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    I stopped believing in soul mates over a decade ago, and I'm not sure I believe in The One. I do think there are people we connect with more than others, from which A one can be found. However, I've come to fully comprehend that, while you might think you've found A one...a good A one that you connect with above all others in your life, timing is everything in whether you get what you want. If the timing is not there, audios to that one.
Personally, I think there are more than one, and that whole "soul mate" concept is nice, but kind of a myth......and there is a whole lot of chance involved.....just need to be open to it.......


KItkat1415 56F  
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7/10/2016 12:40 am

Huh. Yearnings to be heard. Yearnings to be seen. Yearnings to be included in someone's life. Yearnings for romance. Yearnings for intellectual stimulation, as well as the physical.
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misskissin 55F  
72940 posts
7/10/2016 6:35 am

Since you and I have talked privately about this topic offline I know that we are very much in sync about this. That balance of mind, body and soul connection... it doesn't need a title.


BiggLala 46F  
24046 posts
7/10/2016 9:30 am

    Quoting KtMnDu:
    Personally, I think there are more than one, and that whole "soul mate" concept is nice, but kind of a myth......and there is a whole lot of chance involved.....just need to be open to it.......
".....just need to be open to it......."
-Yes, both people need to be open to it. That's my point about timing...again, if not there....audios!

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