LausnesKees = SeekSenusal  

LausneSkees 49M  
5 posts
4/16/2018 1:20 pm
LausnesKees = SeekSenusal


Some of you may have figured out my profile name. For those that haven't, and are reading this blog, now you know!

So, seek sensual...what does that mean?

It means that for a good part of my adult life now, I've been seeking sensuality...seeking it in myself, and seeking it in others, through others.

I define sensuality as the ability to focus on the pleasure of another, the other, the others, often in the context of a sexual relationship or encounter. It is "other-focused" versus self focused.

As I matured, and became sexual through my teenage years, and into college, I, like most men, was very self-focused. As long as I "got off" so to speak, things were all good. And, surprisingly, the women I as with, were okay with that. Women's orgasms? Great, as long as I got mine. I learned just enough, to lure women into a sexual relationship, and then, get mine.

However, something was missing. Some of the women I saw, started to want more...and wanted me to wait..to get mine, until they got theirs. So, I got better at such things as cunnilus, and going slower during sex...and, OH MY GOD...so much more pleasure...for her, and for me, too.

So, that...along with just wanting more from sex than just getting off, has led to the quest for sensuality. It has led to learning...learning women's bodies, how to tease, please, and pleasure women. And, learning even more so, how much pleasure I derive from pleasing. It has led to exploring more...trying to find more means of providing pleasure...and into areas that I may have had limits around before. But, anything she desires...has become my new norm.

I have also learned that sensuality comes from not just knowing the "how", but also knowing the "who" - knowing her...her body...her thoughts...her desires...her fantasies...how her mind works.

I've found for me, this is a journey. I'm not sure I'll ever "get there". My sensuality journey has led to other forms of sensuality, too. But, the focus on "her" is my main desire...whatever that may be.

So, that's how I got this backwards profile name...

japaneseass 50F  
44375 posts
4/16/2018 1:31 pm

"I have also learned that sensuality comes from not just knowing the "how", but also knowing the "who" - knowing her...her body...her thoughts...her desires...her fantasies...how her mind works."

oh gawd..yess...i was just about to say....who ever fucks my mind...successfully fucks me physically...knowing what triggers me...turns me on...yah...


LausneSkees replies on 4/19/2018 11:22 am:
The mind is a wonderful thing, to not waste....and fucking the mind....mutually fucking mindfully...is one of the greatest sources of pleasure we have.

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