Cumming: premature vs. none  

Oralmourner 43F
74 posts
7/24/2017 4:54 pm
Cumming: premature vs. none

As annoying as I might find when guy comes within a minute or two of entering my pussy. I find it really disappointing when a guy gets me off and he doesn't cum at all. Makes me feel incomplete in the act and like I somehow wasn't as good of a fuck as I thought. I like a guy to cum a time or two so I can get a hot load of jizz on my tits or body. Anyone care to share why guys don''t cum?

**UPDATE 7/25** I think I was unclear. I like to get hot cum on my tits and stomach as a sex act. I'm not about pressuring a guy to "fake it". Not sure how a guy would but I'm not a guy so can't say it's not possible. I think I have the answer- I just need to ask the guy or let him know I like cum on my body as a sex act like I like fingers in my pussy. I just need to ask what I can do to get him to cum and try to deliver. Hey if it's simply him jerking off and spraying me. So be it. It's all good as long as I get what I want. Now what can I do about premature ejaculation? 😅



dreamon78 59M  
1201 posts
7/24/2017 9:52 pm

For me, there are times where I am so focused on giving my partner the ultimate pleasure that she simply gets too wet and there isn't enough physical stimulation. At other times the friction from the rapid thrusts she craves desensitizes me. Normally a change of position or a brief return to foreplay will allow the sessitivity to return.

Personally, one of the most incredibly pleasurable experiences is during that second or third session when I can't yet cum but I have this intense feeling of being perpetually on the edge. It gives me an exhaustable stamina that allows me to make my partner climax over and over. If she can stay with me, when I finally regain the ability to cum it is earth shattering.

There are times I hold back and wait too long but it is only because I am savoring the intensity of the passion. Please remember that the number one reason we try so hard not to cum is that we want to hang on to the passion as long as we can.

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pammyb 64F
12 posts
7/24/2017 7:22 pm

I know the feeling. It could be a physical limitation and as maybejustherex4 says, not a reflection on you. No matter the cause... some women have always felt the need to "fake it" for a man's sense of gratification...that's not genuine...and a man shouldn't need to "fake it" either. If you are both getting pleasure out of it, appreciate what you have and let it be enough. Sometimes it is just a matter of circumstances or a combination of many factors. No matter the cause, best way to handle it, is to relax and not make a bigger deal out of it. Hope that helps. If not, maybe you want a partner who cums...or watch porn and see it that way!


clittywhisperer1 55M
1286 posts
7/24/2017 6:53 pm

different men need different amounts of stimuli both physically and mentally to cum, sometimes the correct amount of stimuli pressure friction ,cannot be had from the current situation . sometimes the man is overtired , or distracted, or having pain , it is him not you ,you cannot know his body and mind as he does , how do i teach you just the right combination of pressure, heat , light touch pull and timing that stimulates my cock the right way to get me to cum ? are you open to it? or do you think it's an insult to your skills to learn what works best ? why is everything a reflection on your own value? this is negative self image , lack of self confidence and is a huge turn off to most men , just enjoy the time and pleasure and don't worry so much that is a buzz kill .


valdezvicvic 62M
997 posts
7/24/2017 6:33 pm

There are too many reasons for a simple answer. With proper training men can learn to climax and retain the sperm, this is very advance and most likely not what you have encountered.


maybejustrex4 52M

7/24/2017 6:27 pm

Pressure? Nerves? The occasional fragility of one's partner? Inadequate foreplay?

I am sure you remember back in the unenlightened days that a man who insisted that a woman cum during intercourse was a cad and missing the warmth and intimacy that the sexual act could create...etc etc. They were correctly accused of pressuring the fun and possibility of orgasm out of women.

Your turn baby. Make sex about more than his spurting cock and you will be fine. if you must have jizz every time, fuck a 20 year old. their partners haven't hit their primes yet and don't appreciate all the sex they are being offered.


Softnsweet64 55F
16 posts
7/24/2017 6:22 pm

You are right. It's rather frustrating when a man doesn't cum. It leaves me feeling inadequate. I especially hate hen they want o finish by jerking off, I mean why did hey need a Oman there in the first place?


gardenboy321 56M  
41190 posts
7/24/2017 6:06 pm

I feel the same way when a woman doesn't climax at least once during sex.

Thoughts from the Garden...


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