What is the recourse?  

Rocjninja 56M
8 posts
5/14/2017 5:41 pm
What is the recourse?


If you have a partner, and they decide that sex is no longer an activity they will pursue with you, what is the recourse? So many times others are ready to weigh in on the situation with experience or knowledge. What does take precedence in the partnership, is that an agreement is reached that satisfies both sides needs and desire. Otherwise friction and unpleasantness are unavoidable.

BiggLala 47F  
26464 posts
5/14/2017 5:56 pm

I think there are a few recourse options:
1. Discuss the situation, figure out the problem and then work together to fix it;
2. Agree to open the relationship up, while remaining married/attached; or
3. End the relationship

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Rocjninja replies on 5/14/2017 7:21 pm:
Partner won't entertain discussion, mention, or thought of it. Does not want to engage and likes things the way they are, ending it may be the beginning.

mufdiver69er2 59M  
1175 posts
5/14/2017 6:21 pm

    Quoting Darren1971a:
    I agree with bigglala on this... life is short Why fucking waste your time.
common sense..why is it so uncommon these days?


BreastLuvrNeeded 56F
1 post
5/14/2017 6:32 pm

I agree with the above. There has to be a reason why your partner reached that decision. If sex is important to you, attempt to reach an agreement and if it doesn't work out in the interest of both parties, time to move on.


Red_Elf 46F  
618 posts
5/14/2017 7:17 pm

Attachment is an odd animal, and independent of sex, even though having sex definitely impacts it. Having sex with someone means I take it a lot more personally when they are upset with me, or do things that feel disloyal.

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BiggLala 47F  
26464 posts
5/15/2017 11:46 am

Rocjninja replies on 5/14/2017 9:21 pm:
Partner won't entertain discussion, mention, or thought of it. Does not want to engage and likes things the way they are, ending it may be the beginning.
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If she won't discuss the issue(s) with you, and be willing to work through them, then she doesn't sound like a partner. It's probably best to end the relationship, but obviously that can be easier said than done. Bottom line question to ask...what motivates you to remain married to someone who disregards what your wants, and relegates you to a sexless existence? As Darren said...why waste your time? I'd add...why be with someone you're not happy being with?

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