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Posted:Feb 26, 2018 9:02 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Hey, I don't mind chatting with anyone. I think everyone has something interesting to say. I do, however, think people should try to update pics if they post them. Photos over 10 or 15 years old probably don't represent what most of us look like now. My other issue is that you shouldn't put light/social smoker if you have an ashtray full of cigarettes in your car or place. That is a smoker, period. Nonsmokers typically don't care for the smell or being subjected to daily smokers.
To use a phrase so widely used these days, especially in business, let's be as transparent to each other as we possibly can.
Nobody wants to change anyone's life. We are here to talk, chat, possibly meet up, and have some adult fun on whatever level we agree upon. Let's try to leave it at that, huh?
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Posted:Dec 28, 2017 2:00 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Hi. You may know me or someone like me. I'm one of those easy going people who like to chat and just see what happens. I do not judge people or question what they want or what they're looking for.
My question is, why can't everyone be like that?
This is supposed to be a loose, no pressure atmosphere of chatting and finding a match for what you're looking for, right?
So, why do people keep bringing the CRAZY?
you have to laugh when someone calls you a liar when they find out you've been chatting with someone else that you had previously mentioned not really being that interested in.
Why would they even care?
It's also funny when you get comments about who is in your friends network.
Why would that matter?
I also find it strange when someone actually argues with you about what you like and what you're interests are.
Why? What reason could there be to argue with someone on here?
This is not a place for complete commitment or requirement to explain who you like or who you choose to interact with.
But those types are out there.
So, stay cool, open, and easy going.
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Posted:Nov 30, 2017 10:57 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Hey everyone, how's your holidays going?
I've been on here quite a while and have enjoyed many, many conversations that I have had......even the crazy ones. There may be a lot of uptight, nutty ones on here but there are also some really cool people to chat, talk, and meet on here. I've made some good friends and have had a bit of fun too.
There is, however, an issue we've probably all been dealing with on here. The dreaded Instant Message Center. Why is it, that after all this time and all these members, the IM simply doesn't work. How many of us have had it freeze up several times or just not connect period? It stinks.
Am I the only one who has sent a message to complain about this?
Maybe if more of us send messages, it will get resolved.
Anyway, happy holidays and let's chat soon.
Posted:Oct 14, 2017 9:29 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Let me just say that I love women!!!! That being said, I'm still selective in who I chat with. The Stigma and generally true statement is that men will answer any IM from any woman or anyone, for that matter. The other truth or generally true statement would be that woman don't. They don't need to. Women get much more attention than men, get exponentially more messages and IM's.
Again, although this is true, there are still good men that would respect and be kind to the right woman on here. Maybe not too many but there are. I think we are stereotyped as being desperate and willing to meet and screw anyone or anything that shows us attention.
Again, for some that is true. But not me.
I love women of all shapes and ages but I am not desperate to meet every one of them or have sex with every one of them I chat with. One would be just fine with me if we have that connection and sexual chemistry. For me, that takes some time.
I may chat with every woman that I come across but that may be as far as it goes for the most part.
Ya gotta have standards.
Posted:Sep 11, 2017 5:40 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Friends, Views, Winks,'s all good.

If I look at a thousand profiles and pics from my phone does it matter?
For some, apparently, it does.
If I accept a friend request from an older woman or even a man does it matter?
For some, apparently, it does.
If I chat with bi couples or bi men or older women who like bi men or younger woman that like older men does it matter?
For some, apparently, it does.

If we do all or some of these things, it doesn't mean we've met them all, want to meet them all, or are interested in the same sexual dynamic.

I bring this up because I've had people that have, for whatever reason, said, "you look at a lot of profiles", "why do you have friends that are men, older men, and bi men?", "why do you friend so many older women?"

The simple answer is, I like nice people, regardless of what their age or sexual interests are. A majority of the chatting is about life and our own experiences. It's not all about taking about sex or when can we meet.

This just in........there are many easy going, great people on here that like to chat and get to know you, not just ask for a face pic to decide whether you're worthy of them.

I like people.......period and if you don't like the fact that some of us on here like to chat with many and look at many.........just chill and move on.
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Posted:Aug 13, 2017 5:47 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2017 5:26 am

Get a grip.
I've had some great conversations lately but there are still some really, really nutty people out there.
I love the ones that say if I can say something extraordinary in a message to them it MIGHT put me at the front of the line. What line is that and do I want to be in a line?
Sounds a bit egotistical and self-involved.
Many of us just like to chat and see where it goes. I'm not here to try to impress anyone with my rapier wit or show of intelligence. You either click or you don't. I'm not competing for anything.
There are truly some really great, normal, easy-going, people here that completely understand what I mean.
Unfortunately, I know there are very desperate and needy ones out there that will enlist in such shenanigans.
Has anyone out there (men) gotten a message from a woman that up front invited you over right away and, quickly into the conversation, told you that you would be charged money for services rendered? I got a message from a local woman here in CT, whom I wasn't even looking at, that IM'd me to invite me over. I asked her why so quick; don't you want to chat a little? She said no, I just want a man to come over. Then she said that she charges men to go over. I told her she was out of her mind and she responded with several expletives...Shocking.
Anyway, enjoy the day and be careful out there and here.
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Posted:Jul 22, 2017 7:58 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Married, Single, Prefer not to say.

I'm trying to be somewhat diplomatic but if you are on here looking for something or someone to fill a void, feed a fetish, or just shed your inhibitions, why judge so harshly. I'm looking at different perspectives.

If you are on here and married, looking for someone or something that you are lacking, I kind of think it's your business. I'm not saying that everyone should be open to meet up with an attached person but don't condemn them for living their life differently.

If you are on here to chat and are looking for pleasant conversation, then don't demand anything before you've done that. Why would anyone send a face pic before evening chatting? What if the conversation goes badly or your schedules don't end up coinciding at all? Then you sent that pic to perfect strangers for no good reason.

I know I've said this before but don't be so judgmental to those you know nothing about. What is the worst that can happen when you start a chat? You find that you're not looking for the same thing, can't meet at the same time, or there was a 6th sense that told you this just doesn't feel right or the chemistry isn't there. You really don't need a face pic to figure that out right away, do ya?

I know this is a sex site and physical attraction is a big part of it but our conversations are what create the interest in the first place.
Posted:Jun 27, 2017 3:53 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Back to Gold.
After careful deliberation, I did decide to renew my membership because I truly like chatting with people. All sorts of people. Even the crazy ones.
I learn something from basically every single person/couple I chat with. There are certainly a wide range of personalities and levels of intellect out there.
I laugh about things that used to irritate me. When a couple demands a pic right off the bat, I'm pretty honest and say no with an explanation. But I have to chuckle in that a pic doesn't project much, especially a not so god one. People usually look much better in person to me anyway.
There are so, so many people on here that there will never be a shortage of them to chat with or, in rare cases, decide to meet up when the planets align and it all fits.
So, look out for me to chat if you like and if you don't, it's okay with me. I'm not looking for love, I'm looking for simple, uninhibited fun.
(talculhere4u) blog
Posted:Dec 23, 2016 10:19 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Hey there, Christmas is upon us and I hope a lot of you out there have had some good experiences.

I'm writing today to again say that chatting and getting to know people on here is really what makes going on this site more pleasurable. I've had some really great conversations and even approached the intellectual level where sex, many times, wasn't even talked about. Even though this is a "sex site", I appreciate all of those that can hold a conversation and also show some class in keeping conversation fresh and interesting. It takes time to weed through the crazies, illiterates, and downright rude ones but finding those gems to connect with kind of makes it worth while.
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all those who I've had the pleasure of connecting with and also those that I haven't yet.

(talculhere4u?) blog
Posted:Nov 23, 2016 4:03 am
Last Updated:Aug 13, 2017 5:48 am

Face pics! !!!. I don't want dick pics.. blah blah. So, my question is, what do you want to see when you go on a sex site? I love the, "send us a face pic abd we'll get back to you if we're interested." What self-respecting person would even do that, especially those who have no pics of their own. People can be pretty unreasonable when it comes to making silly demands. We're all grownups here. Chat for a while, see if you click, see if the schedules fit, then move on from there. If you meet for coffee and there's no chemistry, mature adults will be honest and let each other know, right?
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Posted:Oct 29, 2016 3:08 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

Friends and people you chat with don't define your preferences.

Somehow intelligence and open-mindedness are becoming less evident on here. If you chat with someone or are friends with someone on here, it doesn't mean you necessarily have met or intend on pursuing anything with them. I'm always asked why I have men as friends on here if I'm straight. A couple of reasons.

I usually don't turn down a chat, at least at first. I like to chat with most people, regardless of who they are. There are a lot of very interesting people and guys talk to guys just to shoot the breeze or even to bounce things off each other. It's not really that big of a deal. If some one requests to be friends with me, again, regardless of who they are, I usually accept. Why not? If anyone wants to look at my profile and pics, that's fine with me.

So, I hope a few people read his and get a better understanding about, not only me, but others that fall in the same category. It's a fact that men are much easier to reach for conversation on here. We are more eager to chat. Women are more inundated with messages and I do understand will not always readily respond. That's a given.

Men can chat with another guys, sometimes to air their frustrations of a lack of responses, from anyone. I think sometimes, we are willing to chat with most anyone that catches our eye, within reason of course. Although I'm pretty selective, let me reiterate, I will at least chat with most anyone who sends me an IM or a message.

In my opinion, you can learn or take away something from every conversation.
Posted:Sep 25, 2016 3:26 am
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2016 7:52 am

Face pic, Face pic, Face pic.
Many of us like to chat and get to know each other a little. Conversation is the first thing that connects you. See if there is any chemistry or similar sense of humor. Chatting on here or anywhere, for that matter, can be very stimulating.
So, why do people ask for a face pic up front before you've even said a word? Are any of the people asking for one willing to send one of their own right off the bat? Chances are.....NO.
So, I ask, why would anyone expect me or someone else to compromise ourselves by sending one to a perfect stranger that we haven't even decided whether we're going to chat or even have the schedule to meet at any point?
People need to lighten up about the face pic. No self-respecting person will give in to this ridiculous request unless they're completely desperate.
I do love it when I'm asked for one and that I'll get one in return if they are interested....Gee, thanks for even considering me (sarcastic). a good thing. Developing conversation can be so much fun. Face pics should be secondary and most of our face pics either suck or not a very good representation of what we truly are.
Chew on that.
(talculhere4u) blog
Posted:Aug 23, 2016 3:55 pm
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2020 2:11 am

There are millions of people on here and a million different kind of people. Being on here for quite a while, I've had my share of conversations with a myriad of individuals, couples, and groups. But, all of a sudden , something is kind of different.
There are more pleasant , easy-going people to chat with now. Or is it that I'm just picking the right people to talk to? Either way, I haven't had an unpleasant conversation in quite sometime. Are people evolving and becoming less uptight and more upfront. Have people stopped demanding information from you before you've had even a short conversation?
Gadzooks!!!! People are becoming "Chill". They want to chat about life, adventure, the weather, sports, etc.
What a concept!!
Let's keep this ball rolling with intellectual conversation and interest in each other's ......interests.
Isn't part of the fun??

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