On the Elusive Out of Town on Business Meet...  

VenusRedux2 44F
338 posts
4/27/2017 10:49 am
On the Elusive Out of Town on Business Meet...






You’re a guy, the company is sending you out in a business meeting, you have a hotel for a night or two … time to get wild!





Let me get this out of the way first: No judgments here, I totally get it.

Being stuck in a hotel is God-awful boring. It isn’t your town, it isn’t your home, it isn’t your couch, it isn’t your bed. No matter how luxurious the accommodations, it is invariably uncomfortable. I don’t blame you for not wanting to find a strange restaurant and have to eat awkwardly all by yourself. I don’t want to do that either. Alcohol is surely going to enter the picture at some point to help take the edge off. So now there’s lowered inhibitions, the stress of being in a strange place, and extreme boredom to contend with … a problem that practically BEGS for sex as a solution.

I get it. I know why you guys are all blowing up my IM looking for it. I totally understand.

So, if I’m going to have a blog giving all my thoughts as to how to pick up women, I should probably address this one. So here goes nothing ...

How to pick up a girl in a strange town for a one night stand

Unfortunately, a healthy dose of reality is what's really needed here.

Just because I’m not judging you for looking for Business Meeting Sex doesn’t mean I’m in any way receptive to the idea of a one night stand with you. I don’t relish the idea of being summoned merely to provide a warm wet hole for your amusement when you’re bored. I don’t like being used purely for sex.

"But I.....*"

No ... stop that train of thought right there … before you say it… you are using me purely for sex. We will not be having a relationship of any kind … not even platonic chat buddies. What would be the point? For the off chance that you find your way back to my town? That’s just never going to happen. Any notion otherwise is you merely trying to ease your conscience by promising something you will never deliver.

What you need is to find someone who IS willing to be used purely for sex.

The local bar scene is almost a lost cause these days. Does anyone still go to them with the expectation of hooking up? Maybe in some college towns, but every time I’ve been in a bar in recent years it was all platonic groups who are just looking to drink together and hang out, nothing more. They are there for their group, not to meet new people.

It’s a longshot, but if you’re lucky enough to be put up in a big enough city, the hotel bar might have fellow travelers looking for the same thing. They’re all in similar circumstances as you. You are already in most of the same demographics. Just be yourself.

Otherwise, I hate to go there, but this is unfortunately your best bet if you’re that hard up:

  • Open up your web browser

  • Go to Backpage

  • Find some pretty young thing

  • Call her up

  • I mean, I don’t approve of the sex trade. Let’s face it, though, this IS what you’re looking for. Someone you can use and subsequently dispose of. She’s not going to mind. I, however, will mind very much if you tried to use me like that.

    In fact, now that we’re on that subject, let me go on a quick tangent here … whether out of town or not, some of you guys I really have to wonder about. You guys reek of desperation. If you’re that hard up, exactly why aren’t you hooking up with ?

    You won’t have to drive 2 hours to meet them (like many of you guys keep offering me), they won’t cost as much as the fancy dinners you keep suggesting, and won’t be needy and start texting you nonstop afterwards. They’ll even respect that you’re married and keep things discreet for you (cause you all know you’re all a bunch of lying, cheating men)

    Again, I’m not supporting that behavior, just making an observation. This is the ONLY way you can get laid without putting any work into it. Isn't that what you're really looking for?

    Who knows, maybe you all are and I just don’t know about it. They’re making their money somehow.


    At any rate, I’m rambling now. The Out-of-Town meet is the Holy Grail of the sex world. Everyone is looking for it, nobody is finding it. That's because it is a lost cause. Give up on the idea.

    So, in conclusion, here's what you should do when you're out of town on a business meeting and you're horny beyond words...

    Find a nice place to eat, rent Star Wars: Rogue One, then call your wife at home and tell her you love her before finally going to bed.



    aflower2c 45F
    14986 posts
    5/11/2017 9:08 pm

    I don’t relish the idea of being summoned merely to provide a warm wet hole for your amusement when you’re bored.
    This^^^ times 10.

    Drive thru sex is just a vag-drier-upper for me. Not at any point does it even sound like he has my pleasure in mind, so now I don't even bother chatting with those profiles. I do suggest to them to find a pro, there are plenty downtown, and they are more than happy to sex them up. I even tell those guys where to go shopping for them, which bars...
    Because that is what they are treating me like - free sex service and then to toss me out the door when he is done blowing his load.

    Interestingly enough I have tried this approach when I used to have to travel lots for work and just traveling in general...and men never ever replied to me when I went to their cities. So that just lends to my thoughts that most or vast majority of men are married or attached. lol

    Little miss flower

    Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


    VenusRedux2 replies on 5/18/2017 5:55 am:
    Again, I totally get it as to why people desire this. On the few occasions where I had to travel for work and be put up overnight, I can't exactly say I didn't desire it. The fact that being stuck in a strange hotel is God-awful miserable is the reason I don't let them send me out anymore!

    But that is what interests me about the sex trade world. Most guys look down on it (I sure do), yet it seems to be exactly what they're looking for. Not merely "close" to what they're looking for ... 100% EXACTLY what they're looking for.

    So why aren't they doing it? I'm not sure.

    Also, the majority of guys here are married. If you can convey that you're not judging them, they'll open up and reveal they're married. I've been doing that lately and have found that every single one came out and said they're "married" (whether truly married or de facto married ... I'm getting too old to distinguish between cohabitation vs serious relationship vs actually married).

    BiggLala 48F  
    27759 posts
    4/27/2017 3:35 pm

    You're not the only one who wonders about this. I'm guessing most women here have had the same thoughts and/or have been outright propositioned. My post, Go See a Professional, was in my snarky, tongue-in-cheek style but I'd love to read your perspective on it.

    The thing is...these types of guys who approach women in this manner are typically THE same ones who refuse to 'pay'...for sex, for dates, hell for a membership here. Yet...as a woman, were I to suggest payment is expected for services rendered, I'm the skank. I had a guy message me a few months ago saying he's a businessman in town and wanted a dinner companion. He offered a dinner at one of our famous steakhouses, so don't think I wasn't tempted, but I would have accepted solely to get the dinner. You don't think that would make ME the 'bad' guy in that scenario, the perceived gold digger?

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    BiggLala 48F  
    27759 posts
    4/27/2017 2:35 pm

    I had to take a break to recover from my hearty laughter at the second suggestion. Oh my goodness, reminds me of a post I've been meaning to write. Ahem...

    Anyway, there is a blogger here who occasionally travels for business and wrote a post where he claimed most business travelers are just looking for company, no pressure...but...hope, hope. 🤞🏽Pul-leeeeeze! Get outta here with that. Number one, were that truly the case, you wouldn't search for 'company' on a sex site. Two, you wouldn't just message women--and probably only women you find attractive--you'd message all kinds of people, perhaps just to get tips for restaurants or other hot spots.

    I wrote a post last year questioning why most guys won't see a'professional'. Not advocating it, I just don't understand since you'll get your needs met when you want. Pretty simple since that's how a lot of guys approach women here.

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    VenusRedux2 replies on 4/27/2017 2:52 pm:
    Ok, so I'm not the only one who's been wondering that.

    I've been wanting to do a post about it, but kept thinking "Nah, they're all going to wonder 'what's this chick's obsession with prostitutes?'" And I was afraid it would be construed as supporting the industry no matter how many disclaimers I threw on it.

    But I'm genuinely curious about the whole thing. Long story in how it all came up ... which got me thinking about it ... which led to more questions ... which got me putting WAY more thought into it than is probably necessary.

    Maybe I should start putting my notes together and do it now.

    As to the pressure: If a guy only has the room for one night, and he's spending half that night taking me to dinner, don't tell me there's "No pressure." He won't have time to find a replacement for me should I exercise that "No Pressure" clause in the contract. That's EPIC pressure.

    Resident_Bitch 102M/102F  
    9133 posts
    4/27/2017 11:43 am

      Quoting seems6666:
      Excellent post, I'm amazed by the number of men who think we will meet a stranger in a hotel. Then when you decline, you get the "I'm not a mad axe murderer" line.
      Yeah,, right!
    ....I am an axe murderer.....



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    VenusRedux2 replies on 4/27/2017 11:55 am:
    Why an axe? Seems unwieldy. Not exactly something you can hide in your pocket until it can be properly disposed of.

    Wouldn't an ordinary set of quality knives be more practical?

    Resident_Bitch 102M/102F  
    9133 posts
    4/27/2017 11:41 am

    Absolutely......
    ....though, I did ask one of them which hotel chain they expect me to provide FREE whore services in.....oh right, the cheap budget ones.....nice.....



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    VenusRedux2 replies on 4/27/2017 11:45 am:
    But "No pressure," right?

    He's only got the cheap budget motel for one night, which he's presumably going to spend with me at dinner, leaving him no time to find someone else should I choose to exercise the "No Pressure" clause of the contract.

    How is that NOT "Free Whore Services"?

    seems6666 49F  
    3489 posts
    4/27/2017 11:21 am

    Excellent post, I'm amazed by the number of men who think we will meet a stranger in a hotel. Then when you decline, you get the "I'm not a mad axe murderer" line.
    Yeah,, right!


    VenusRedux2 replies on 4/27/2017 11:42 am:
    Criteria for meeting someone:

    1. Do not be an axe murderer

    Check.

    What else is there?

    So he's not the worst thing that a human being can be. That narrows down the type of man he is to .... let me check my notes here ... the entire range of human experience

    VenusRedux2 44F
    518 posts
    4/27/2017 10:57 am

    Well, that post sure took some strange turns


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