"You There?" -- No, I'm not, get over it  

VenusRedux2 44F
338 posts
11/21/2017 7:24 am
"You There?" -- No, I'm not, get over it

Men hate when women get hostile on them "for no reason." Yet this question universally instills hostility.

Before discussing this any further, let's get it out of the way:


Ask yourself, do you really want me saying that to you before the conversation has even started? So then why ask the question?

Now, getting into it, here's why she's not "there":

I'm Busy

Whether I'm talking to someone else or putzing around elsewhere on the internet while the site is open, either way you somehow drew the short straw.

You know something, too bad. Seriously. I recognize no obligation to spend X number of minutes talking to X number of new chat requests. Get over it.

I'm On Mobile

I thought everyone knew this, but apparently not. When you log into the site from a mobile device, it automatically puts you on IM.

So I may be checking in for various reasons, yet have no intention of talking to anyone. That has nothing to do with you. So no reason for you to be offended.

I Don't Like You

That's right, I said it. You know something, I'm standing by it too.

Honestly, I don't want to hear your whining on this. I was polite enough to keep it to myself. You were the one who pushed it out of me by insisting to talk to you. So there it is.

But you don't even know me, you're not giving me a fair chance

I don't need to know you. You're 54 years old and you're coming at me with a dick pic and a username along the lines of HARD4U or some other nonsense. I know everything there is to know about you. There's only one type of guy who fits that mold, and you are NOT the exception.

If you're a sophisticated and worldly man, you wouldn't have used that pic or gone with that lame and thoroughly uncreative username. Plain and simple.

Plus, your age bracket and lack of experience in this arena also tells me you're married.

But I didn't call you out on that, I simply ignored you. You forced it out of me. Happy now?

In conclusion, asking someone "You there?" after she's repeatedly ignored all your earlier attempts is a one way ticket to being permanently ignored.

There's really nothing you can do instead. Take it like a man and just try again next time. And if she still doesn't talk to you, then accept the fact that she doesn't want to talk to you. If you can't handle that, then this is a sandbox you shouldn't be playing in. This one is for big boys.

Ok, I ranted enough for one day

Brownie202 63F  
1526 posts
11/21/2017 12:25 pm

I deleted my preferences and have no answer means no answer. Also have it on my auto reply. A few wrote a second time thinking if they mention something like love giving oral I will answer. Ummm no. If men could respect what a profile says ALL men who wrote before deleting my preferences would not of wrote. No but I love older women or I am a fast learner. They just wasted their time. They THOUGHT they was special.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 12:47 pm:
I've commented about that in the past about how many men think they're offering something special because they like to give oral sex.

I think they all read the same Cosmo magazine about that or something. Whatever, they don't realize that every single guy here is offering the very same thing.

Every. Single. One.

s2ndegree 61M  
9670 posts
11/21/2017 12:22 pm

I'll concur wholeheartedly.
If he is married he should keep
who he has.For the death knell rings
at 50 in here anyway.

Using more than all the road!

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 12:50 pm:
It's not necessarily the age that gives it away. Married men all have the same idiosyncrasies, to the point where you can just smell it on them when they approach you.

aflower2c 45F
14986 posts
11/21/2017 9:20 am

Try as I might and explaining to those kind of profiles that they are not as attractive as they might think ...I tend to get the "well you have nudes so your just a slut anyway!"
But I can still try and explain the difference in audience and alll the blogs I have read on this subject, I still just sigh wish them well and log off.

It's a whole blog in itself about women being allowed to also look for the sex they want. And glad to see you back even if it's just a visit.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 10:59 am:
The difference between what women do and what men do in that regard:

For men, that difference is too subtle to differentiate.

For women, the difference is so vast it might as well be on a roadside billboard in ultra-bright LED flashing letters.

maybejustrex4 52M  

11/21/2017 8:41 am

lol well, this might be the motivation I need to clean out a few of the less responsive folks on my friends list.

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 9:13 am:
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, there's little that can be done to prevent that. Maybe a holiday greeting to let them know you're still alive, then leave it at that. Hopefully the more responsive ones make up for it

pocogato12 67F  
31590 posts
11/21/2017 8:34 am

Bless you for this post. The majority of females on here are not rude women. We have busy organized lives and when we have time to inter-connect with you we will respond. In the meantime, grow up and take it like a gentleman if we are not responding to your "pleas" please.

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VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 9:11 am:
That's just it, we don't WANT to be rude, but we're being backed into a corner.

Gina_L07 63T
362 posts
11/21/2017 8:18 am

My biggest pet peeve is when they start off with gentlemen conversation and then after a few lines of chat when you don't answer right away they get upset and then start calling you names. I guess it shows their true colors.

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 9:10 am:
A lot can't even get that far. They're struggling just to figure out how to not shoot themselves in the foot on the opening line.

jaffles90 29F
2 posts
11/21/2017 7:58 am

A million times yes! I even answer all emails that ask a question or give me an opening to continue the conversation.

Now we need a post about messages that start with just, "You interested?".

VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 8:04 am:
I know, right! The thing is, after a while you start recognizing the local people who you see lurking around day after day. So I know they've been here for YEARS. You'd think they'd have picked up a thing or two in that time. Guess not.

BiggLala 48F  
27759 posts
11/21/2017 7:46 am

I saw the title and died a little inside, given your absence of late. I revived at the content.

I'm always amazed at how incensed some guys seem to become when a complete stranger doesn't talk to them. I don't get that.

Oh how I do miss you. Hope you're doing well, lady!

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VenusRedux2 replies on 11/21/2017 7:57 am:
I'm doing alright. If I'm not around, that's usually a good sign, means that things are going well. I tend to be here more when I'm depressed. I've been lurking a bit from time to time, but didn't feel much like re-engaging.

VenusRedux2 44F
518 posts
11/21/2017 7:25 am

I wasn't even planning on writing this. But seriously guys, 3 times in one morning??? Are you all reading the same playbook?

If so, it's failing you. Stop it.

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