Alternates to Intercourse  

abhimav25 35M
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5/25/2017 7:46 am
Alternates to Intercourse

1. Use your hands.
Touch is amazing. Sadly, I think too many couples downplay or short-circuit the extent they can use their hands to bless and affirm their spouse.
Too often, sex becomes overly focused on the penis and vagina, and the couple overlooks other areas of the body that are quite responsive to touch.
When you are naked with your spouse, don’t be in a hurry to get to intercourse. (In fact, consider taking your time getting naked, possibly undressing each other sensually).
When you start caressing with your hands and fingertips, consider all parts of the body.
Some areas where sexual arousal can be enhanced through touch include the hair, scalp, face, neck, ears, arms, under the arm, sides of the chest, inner thigh, around the knees, back of knee, navel and virtually anywhere on your spouse’s backside.
As a wife, it may be extremely arousing (for you and him) when your husband lightly caresses your breasts and nipples. And for a man, he may find it incredibly exciting to have you caress his inner thighs and testicles.
Use a mix of light and firm touches, with smooth transitions. Don’t overthink it. You will do just fine if you just consider yourself on a sweet tender mission to explore every part of your spouse’s body.
Respond accordingly to how they react.
When your spouse is caressing you, give feedback. Offer specific praises or suggestions like, “I really love it when you use your fingernails on my scalp” or “That is so amazing when you lightly touch my inner thigh.”
And don’t be afraid to use your hands (and possibly a lubricant) to bring your spouse to climax. If you spend enough time caressing each other’s body, you’ll find your desire to have an orgasm will increase. Why not allow your spouse to use their hands to get you there?
Remember, you are in the exclusivity of your marriage bed, so consider it your private sexual playground to arouse each other.

2. Use your mouth.
I’m sure at first glance at this tip, you think I’m just referring to oral sex. Certainly, oral pleasure can be such a gratifying way to give and receive sexual love, but using your mouth in other ways to arouse your spouse is enjoyable to explore.
The mouth is full of numerous sensory receptors, so it’s no surprise that when you and your spouse spend more time kissing passionately, your sexual interest and arousal is bound to increase.
And don’t hesitate to use your lips and tongue on your spouse’s entire body.

3. Use your words.
How often are you sexually playful and sexually affirming in the way you speak to your spouse?
There is power in words. Are you using yours to delightfully intensify the sexual arousal between the two of you?
Discretely, yet intentionally, initiate conversations that are sexual in nature with your spouse. (These can be particularly powerful if done when your spouse is least expecting it). Whispering sweetly – and even erotically – in your spouse’s ear will likely stir their curiosity and desire in an all-consuming sort of way, creating intense anticipation.
If handled well, these conversations definitely will lead to two people in bed. And all their clothing on the floor. How delightful is that?!
With the use of your hands, mouth and words, you can heighten the sexual pleasure in your marriage, making sex about more than just intercourse.



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