Dirty talk?  

aflower2c 44F  
4920 posts
2/12/2019 10:47 am
Dirty talk?

Click bait and not what you think!

I know that wasn't fair, but it does lead into the topic of dirty talk, sexting, sex chat, ... all of which I pretty much suck at (and not in a good way). Lol
Picture sharing I can do, but to be fair I bore quickly of it now and much prefer skin on skin.

I can play along when a casual partner/lover would want some JOI or sexting, but I'm definitely more of a hands on type of person.
I mean I get that a good wank is fun and that sex can be too strenuous or require effort, but if all you want is custom porn then I need new partners. Lol. Occasional sexting is fine especially because distance and work schedules can be an issue for real life interactions, but if theres no plan in the near future for skin contact then maybe you need a new partner that turns you on in real life.

Its that fine line in between flirting/sexting with an established partner and him just using you for jerk off material.
Its one of the main reasons why I steer away from any online flirting or sex chatting, talking about sex (another fine line), and save it for after we meet ...and then it depends on how often you want skin contact.

I also know that online play can be utilized as shallow validation by many or an escape from reality or "not cheating" for the married/attached people. I am no stranger to seeking validation that I am "desirable" even if it was from internet strangers, but when there is none in real life then its nice to know that someone somewhere notices even if he only sees you as a sex object.

Lets see
I know many covet having a list of chicks to give them custom sexting, but do you also want to meet in real life?

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

aflower2c 44F  
12734 posts
2/12/2019 10:50 am

Are you good at online flirting that is genuine and not the samae cut n paste you dish out to every person?

Are you a flirt in real life? (Naturally friendly n flirty)

Would you still meet with a woman that flirts/sexts with you before you meet in real life?

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

Palsukhi88 52M/43F  
1 post
2/12/2019 10:51 am

lets talk dirty

Tsosdd1 49M
26 posts
2/12/2019 11:01 am

I love a good flirt/sexting session and it's never cut and paste... I think it leads to a great build up before meeting and allows you to get over some of the inhibition and knowing what your future partner likes and wants.

But like you mentioned above.. I am one of those married blokes that's seeking escapes from reality... but not always as I like to turn some into reality.

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 11:24 am:
Interesting that you meet with someone that you flirted/sexted with before actually meeting.
I have learned that those men have sexualized you beyond the point of not giving any mutual pleasure, or they where disappointed that I wasnt as hot in real life and did not want to have sex with me but woukd come back at a later date and ask for more online /sexting play.

Freeonereturns 58F  
482 posts
2/12/2019 11:05 am

Is it wrong that Iโ€™m a bit turned on?

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 2:31 pm:
Laundry will do that somedays

Paulxx001 61M
5809 posts
2/12/2019 11:09 am

Really? You stay away from online sexting and flirting? Hmmm... ๐Ÿค”
For sure.. both real meet ups and the texting type are good, and I'm fine with both here. There's enough diversity that one can have a great time... ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘

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aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 11:21 am:
I no longer fall into that trap of men promising to meet but first lets just sext. I found that the men that wanted online/sexting bever wanted to meet, or they where married/attached.

curious_tigger 48M
20 posts
2/12/2019 11:12 am

unfortunately Im on the other side of the pond. If I wasn't, I'd be interested in chat and fertilising the little miss flower. Good luck there

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 11:27 am:
Read more carefully, I'm not interested in online play or sexting with strangers regardless of how close they are.

Lonely16842 53M  
766 posts
2/12/2019 11:23 am

I enjoy the flirting and sexting but like you I can grow tired of it. I do prefer to ultimately meet in person.

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 11:26 am:
I am definitely at that point that I need real life connections vs fake online play with internet strangers.

Wonder167 52F  
1717 posts
2/12/2019 12:13 pm

I used to be pretty good at it and enjoyed online play, yet it lost it's luster and I don't do it anymore. I think if I had the choice, I'd rather be better at hands on than online play. So, don't feel bad.

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aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 12:18 pm:
It can be frustrating because many of the men in my/our age bracket are newly single/seperated/divorced, and looking to 'explore' meaning to many of those men the whole online interaction is new n exciting. Or they don't want to effort of actual sex and just want wank fodder at thier convenience. Thats my take on it though

mindworker1970 48M  
275 posts
2/12/2019 12:31 pm

Ummmm.... well... I have improved from "completly clueless" to "you are not very good at this". So that is something I guess. LOL. To be honest, I do much better flirting in person, where you can see an immediate reaction. And I am ok when chatting with someone I know well. But with people I have never met? There must be people out there worse than me... but not many.

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 1:47 pm:
I think somedays my ex-casual would just humor me and say it was hot...when I'm usually pretty awkward at the porny stuff. Lol. Hence why sending photos was always an easy way out and required minimal effort from me. Lol

XHamburgDave 75M  
6862 posts
2/12/2019 1:07 pm

Been talking and sexting to a new friend over here, she is over 200 miles from me, but hoping to arrange a meet soon

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 1:45 pm:
Sounds promising.

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2/12/2019 1:40 pm

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aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 2:27 pm:
I chuckled too.

4283 posts
2/12/2019 2:44 pm


"Are you good at online flirting that is genuine and not the samae cut n paste you dish out to every person?"

"Are you a flirt in real life? (Naturally friendly n flirty)"

"Would you still meet with a woman that flirts/sexts with you before you meet in real life?"


aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 3:31 pm:
Hah! Gold star for seeing those questions snd answering them. ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ

Granny872 66F  
637 posts
2/12/2019 3:32 pm

I eschew intentional sexy chat and sexting as well .. and I agree with you that it seems to be a tactic some people use to satisfy themselves when they can't, won't or don't intend to meet in person.

If they are turned on by me, legitimately, they will ask for a meet. I don't consider sexting ad nauseum any kind of a satisfactory arrangement.

Just my opinion.

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aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 5:13 pm:
The not meeting got old real quick! Turned me iff of even trying to meet from this site, as I found most guys where just looking for inline bec they where already attached/married (no real surprises i suppose).

marriedcretin 48M
1233 posts
2/12/2019 3:45 pm

I can validate your desirability.

I hate doing laundry. In the old days it was split colored from whites, but now, it fabric types, jeans, towels, coloureds, I almost feel like each item has to be washed separately.

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 5:08 pm:
I still hand wash some of my clothes, plus work clothes need to be separated from my good clothes. When i was a kid we still had the old ringer washer and it would take 2 days to wash n hang all the kids laundry. I still hang my clothes but we have a newer washer. Lol

LustingInDeLoop 56F  
1361 posts
2/12/2019 4:33 pm

Iโ€™ve found that sexting gets old pretty quickly, unless .... Iโ€™ve been with the man and the dirty talk makes my body respond, in memory and anticipation of his touch, and other things

I donโ€™t even IM anymore and turn down emails asking to chat. I just canโ€™t get into it.

My erotic stories are mainly fiction with certain activities inspired by real life. ๐Ÿ˜

aflower2c replies on 2/12/2019 5:12 pm:
Even with established partners they can start wanting to sext more than actual sex, then i just stop responding to them and even meeting. I find men in kamloops seem to have an unlimited supply of women willing to play along...and most guys I have chatted with juggle up to 6 women at a time so you just become another wank number to try

LustingInDeLoop 56F  
1361 posts
2/12/2019 9:33 pm

Can I ever relate to that Miss Flower. Our little city has some very strange dynamics. Then of course being at the junction of 4 highways thereโ€™s the inevitable, wanna hookup as they pass through town.

If youโ€™re into it, you and I should get together for a drink out some night.

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aflower2c replies on 2/13/2019 9:12 am:
It is definitely a strange city! I have been trying to host kink events and its always more women than men. I have tried meeting men between 26 and 53 and they all seem to have full plates already. Lol

dabrown33 44M
501 posts
2/13/2019 12:27 am

I'm as clueless with online flirting/sexting as I am in real life. But in reality I don't WANT to do the sexting thing anyway. Maybe with someone I've met. I don't think I could do that with a stranger.

I certainly don't flirt well in real life. So I generally don't.

Oh, I've tried being a bit flirty with some single female friends, but they either didn't notice or tried to make it look like they didn't notice.

Would I meet with a woman that flirted online? I'd be willing, but I've never been flirted with by anyone genuine, so I don't know the dynamic.

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aflower2c replies on 2/13/2019 9:14 am:
Friendly flirting is fine and even shows interest in the other person, but I have had more than enough men fake the flirting using canned messages then admit they arent really interested but hoped I would play along long enough to hookup.
So i just take all flirting online as a fake response they are giving me, or they are only looking for fantasy online play.

ProfPlayful 55M
3856 posts
2/13/2019 4:47 am

I have been studying the patterns of sexual conversation and erotic writing. Interestingly, the place where some people (both men and women) seem to flinch is nouns. Adjectives like wet, hard, juicy, firm, etc. seem to be relatively easy for everyone, but people become uncomfortable saying the nouns that describe sex.

The human brain is wired so that nouns are the strongest part of speech, followed closely by verbs. This is perfectly normal. In fact, I would say that people who excel at sex chat are actually quite rare.

I believe it's not just you, lovely Flower. You are perfectly normal. Most men and women are uncomfortable using those nouns.

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aflower2c replies on 2/13/2019 9:23 am:
I have tried to write erotica about 2 people (not about something I did) and I would bust out laughing at how cheesy it sounded.

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