Easy like sinday mornin  

aflower2c 45F  
6472 posts
7/23/2017 8:39 am
Easy like sinday mornin

I was so tired after work yesterday that I fell asleep within seconds after a quick rub out. A 5 min power nap was definitely what the body needed.
But apparently I left the bullet in the chamber.



It's now sinday, I get to sleep in just a little longer. But it's one of those days where I wish I can just laze around. Livin the dream comes first though.

Anyway, I managed to convince the casual friend that I really needed sex right now. Lol. Rarely is he available on wknds, but thank goodness he was open to it last night. It was an orgasm filled super soaker session, I did warn him that I was horny and feeling squirty. But at least my hunger is at bay for a day.

Now off to find coffee then get to work.

Sexy bloggers,

So I am curious, lately I have had men outside of my preferences (posted or private, they are still preferences) be demanding that I should give them a go. I have also seen enough grumblings from men that women are not dtf or not meeting right now, and so on. I have also seen the frustration from the women that men are not meeting, and they can't find what they seek, and so on.

So my questions are:

Would you meet with someone that you had no attraction to?

Would you drop your preferences or standards or moral code to meet with someone because hey you are looking for sex and I'm looking for sex so let's bone.?


Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 45F  
14091 posts
7/23/2017 8:41 am

My brain is foggy lately because I have difficulty staying asleep at night, so don't judge my words and grammar. Lol

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


Leegs2012 46M
43243 posts
7/23/2017 9:05 am

Very..Very nice!!
As for meeting some one I was not attracted to no, and I would not drop my moral code either. BTW: You have a sexy body!!


aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 10:14 am:
Yes it always makes me wonder at the quality of the experience or if it's sheer desperation (which my answer for that I would recommend the oldest known profession), that you would knowingly put yourself at potential risk just to quickly blow a load with some stranger.

Being open to meeting all kinds of people is one thing, but also expecting sex is just a little much.

benard69 63M/63F  
4434 posts
7/23/2017 9:07 am

Meeting for sex is the object...But lowering ones standards to achieve it is a no no! Oh and Real Nice Chamber that Bullet is in....


aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 10:16 am:
Most definitely if you are meeting for sex there still needs to be an initial attraction online and still have attraction once you meet. Of course attraction is different for every person out there, but everyone usually has a hard limit.

BiggLala 47F  
26748 posts
7/23/2017 10:25 am

Would you meet with someone that you had no attraction to?
-No.

Would you drop your preferences or standards or moral code to meet with someone because hey you are looking for sex and I'm looking for sex so let's bone.?
-I have before and it depended on my attraction to him AND my degree of horniness. It worked one time, but generally those situations don't work out, so I don't do it anymore. Once is not a statistically logical reason for me to continue. I'll just go without.

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MyBaffies 50M
3639 posts
7/23/2017 10:30 am

"I left the bullet in the chamber" - what are the consequences if that goes off unexpectedly?

Nah, I wouldn't lower my standards "just for sex". I have pretty low standards anyway, so lowering them even further isn't going to make much difference!

Baffies

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aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 10:34 am:
You would be surprised at how far or close that bottom of the barrel actually is...

Even having low preferences you still have some, and it is good to know your limits.
Even with just sex I would want to have a good experience otherwise it feels like you should leave the money on the dresser.

As for the bullet, ya that little orgasm inducer I am glad it's battery powered...that way I have to end the session. Lol

Desir4Fire 44M
1896 posts
7/23/2017 12:16 pm

It would depend on your definition of attraction!!
Mental attraction, physical or sexual attraction, mutual attraction and so forth!!
I have met people on one or more of different levels of attraction.
I have gone out on meet and greets with ladies I thought I had nothing in common to find out we had more in common then ladies I was attracted to.
SO you can pan it out how ever you want it!
I have needs, you have needs...if we find that we have a connection, then let's meet each others needs!!!


aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 12:46 pm:
Oh most definitely it varies with people's perception and the "goal". I have different criteria for men that I meet for kink or sex than I do for dating and even potential relationship.
Many people are fine with purely physical attraction and I have had past fuck buddies that at most I could tolerate being social with him but I was there for the sex.

But if that person is only checking off one box ×female / ×male and you don't know anything else about them, do you still go out of your way to have sex with them?

aflower2c 45F  
14091 posts
7/23/2017 12:40 pm

Someone who wishes to stay anonymous on this topic so he replied via pm.

I decided to reply to your post here and not on your post. I feel that sometimes you might not like it when I reply to some of your posts.

I feel that its like looking at the same pond and there are only a handful of fish in it. You ask yourself why isn't there more wish?
That your search preferences are so strict you don't always get what you want when you want it or need it, because you limit yourself.

I feel if you are a bit more open minded that you might find more of the qualities that you are looking for in places that start off as a no. Some of them might be a nice guy, genuine, someone that is more interested in your pleasure then their own. Respects you. Maybe you might find someone just as kinky as you are.

P.S. It's like I love white girls, pasty pale skin. I don't limit myself to just white girls. I am not just looking for sex. I am looking for connection and meaning.

So I think if you and I where to have se Im just saying whats on my mind.)
I like to use toys during sex. I would love to make you dripping wet. I want you to cum one more time/cum lots, give you multi orgasms. Have many rounds like 5 to 10 rounds. Have it last atleast 45 min to something like rwo to four hours. My desire is to have the hardest sex I can give as long as I can give it.

So for me sex is just a bit more then sex. I am sure that you are looking for this kind of depth in someone wanting to pleasure you. Myself am very picky. lolz This is the main reason I havent had sex in seven years.

So I guess my real answer to your question is find the things you are looking for. It might not be in the people you are looking at. I am sure you will have what you want more often.[/]

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


gardenboy321 56M  
40779 posts
7/23/2017 12:55 pm

Would you meet with someone that you had no attraction to?
If they were a blogger, then yes, but the attraction would be a mental one.

Thoughts from the Garden...


aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 1:13 pm:
Yes, slightly different context but I have done similar on the kink site - meet purely to talk about kink/fetish/bdsm interests. But I won't meet with those people if the hinted at wanting sex out of it.

proteus_2a 53M
7628 posts
7/24/2017 1:47 am

No problem with a bullet in the chamber, as long as you nave the safety ON
( Cond 1 )

Take care my lady

P


aflower2c replies on 7/24/2017 6:36 am:
Yes it was in the unloaded position.

Desir4Fire 44M
1896 posts
7/25/2017 6:23 pm

But if that person is only checking off one box ×female / ×male and you don't know anything else about them, do you still go out of your way to have sex with them?

***************

The answer of that question would depend on the progression of the night!!
I have gone out without the intent to have sex and found myself with ankles around my neck at the end of the night!!
Timing, personality, connection....


aflower2c replies on 7/25/2017 8:41 pm:
Guess it is much better to be a guy

FMAOPLS 66F  
26850 posts
7/28/2017 8:59 am

Would you meet with someone that you had no attraction to? Perhaps, if there is a possibility it could lead to a platonic friendship.

Would you drop your preferences or standards or moral code to meet with someone because hey you are looking for sex and I'm looking for sex so let's bone? Never. I'm not that desperate, and I have too much respect for myself to do that.

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aflower2c replies on 7/28/2017 10:48 am:
Yes. I understand both points.
I have met with people to discuss kink interests and not about playing with each other. So it would be a platonic friendship not a fwb.

discreteSteve62 52M  
1960 posts
9/1/2017 10:32 pm

Would I meet with someone I had no attraction to? Certainly. I'm not looking for attraction when I meet people now, or at least not by the same standards one uses for dating. And when I was on the market, I wouldn't necessarily know whether I would be attracted to someone until after meeting them. Sometimes dating profiles misrepresent people by exaggerating their attributes. But sometimes people give themselves too little credit. Meeting tells a lot more about whether someone is attractive than remote communication can ever tell.

Would I lower standards? To a point, yes, but only so far. If my wife told me that she had found a woman who was interested in fooling around with both of us, and she was attractive to my wife's tastes but not mine, I'd adjust pretty far to accommodate her. When I was unattached, I had several levels of standards: relationship potential, friend-with-benefits potential, hook-up potential, and no thanks. There's some degree of flexibility of standards depending on how long I'm deprived, but it's not completely open-ended. And good points in one department might make up for weak points in others.

You mention pay-for-play as a possible solution for some people. I have a lot of problems with it, however. One is that a lot of women who might play for pay are victims of exploitation, and I wouldn't want to have anything to do with that. Even if one could clearly identify women who are into it voluntarily, it's still illegal (with little chance of getting caught, but serious consequences). And even if it's voluntary and were legal, it's still a transaction in a way that takes a lot of the satisfaction out of it; I want to play with a woman who wants to play with me, not one who wants to get paid to play with me. Sometimes in dating there's a feeling of quid pro quo too, but I still think there's quite a difference between paying the tab on shared entertainment before possibly sharing some horizontal entertainment and paying the tab for the sex act itself. So, I guess that falls into my "no thanks" category.


aflower2c replies on 9/2/2017 8:02 am:
But if you have no interest in her anyway and just looking for sex, then why bother even having sex.
I'm all for the legalization of pros, they serve a purpose and fill in where they are needed.

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