Sinday thoughts on toys  

aflower2c 45F  
6246 posts
7/2/2017 10:34 am
Sinday thoughts on toys

So it's no secret I have a hankering for adult toys, even developing a fetish for them.

Yesterday I managed to sneak in a few quick toy sessions.

I love me some extended orgasms and pleasure overload.
But my favorite toy is not up to the task, and I bought this one in Oct, I think. So I am probably asking more from it than its designed for. Lol no surprises there. But now I should start looking for a replacement for it as this is the second one of that brand that I burned through.

Anyway, I ended up looking through different sites searching for a toy that will work for me...........ya talk about sidetracked with 2 hrs of looking at what's available!
Now before you Hitachi fans start hollering, I don't really like the Hitachi because of its non appealing bulk, the noise, and just unsexy design. (Yep it's actually for large muscles on your body, not the tiny ladybits)

I started searching..
I started reading testimonials and reviews on different products..
And it looks like I will be buying a few different ones just to try out (fuck at this point the company may as well send me toys to test out and I can give them performance feedback)

For us "hardcore" toy fans finding suitable toys is just like shopping for a car - your tastes will be different, your engine size will vary, the sex appeal of the body is vastly different from American muscle to Italian sleek.... but performance is key. Lol

Performance varies even with dildos and not just vibrators. Hence why my selection of dildos are different from each other based on material, shape/length/girth, texture/feel.
When I desire penetration with my toy time, I generally have an idea on which dildo or insertable vibe will work for that particular mood. There are times when I would have tried out 2 or 3 toys and ended up still craving, which is when I end up online looking for new ones.

There are times when I require a combination of dildo and clit vibe, or vibe and clit vibe, or just a dildo or clit vibe.
Sometimes I even desire anal orgasms so then I have a whole other selection of toys for anal play.

Now where was I
Ok, I am going to have to do it...

I will have to buy a plug in the wall vibrator for those times I just want to cum and cum some more and then force myself to cum again n again. (That's why I don't own any and why I stayed with rechargeable because those batteries drain out and I am forced to end the session or use another toy)

Sinday day toy shopping,
This is why I have a cap on how much I spend on toys, I can order a toy and spend 100 on it, not like it by the second time I use it, so now it just collects dust.
Some of mine I have paid about 280 for even more for the high end toys....... expensive lustful taste. I even come across a gold plated vibe for 1200. Lol.

Toys, I have found that in the last few years the quality has been getting better plus there is a wider selection of toys for men!

Which it's been awhile since I have asked;

Sexy bloggers,
...especially the men, would you wear a strapon or cock sleeve?

Are you supportive of your partner if she would like to try a toy whether vibe, clit vibe or dildo?

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

aflower2c 45F  
13830 posts
7/2/2017 10:38 am

This one is pretty high on my list of toys to buy.
I think it would be really hot to find someone into trying it out, heck we can even find a strapon harness that allows for DP!

But obviously toys are not for everyone, I get that completely. I never ask if a man would be into doing this....its more wishful thinking for me. Lol

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.

lefty64014 62M
178 posts
7/2/2017 10:52 am

The Magic Wand can be fun as well.

aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 10:56 am:
Ya, if you are thinking of the Hitachi then I found it too big and awkward to do many positions in.

I do have a shibari wand, rechargeable, works fine with piv.

Wok2016 37M  
289 posts
7/2/2017 11:02 am

You'll never know if you don't ask!
I think it's important that each partner be willing to do whatever it takes for the other partner to experience maximum satisfaction. Penetrative sex pretty much always gets a guy there, but not so for the female so I think it's important to make sure she gets to have that moment(s) of ecstasy too. Whether it's a toy, a tongue, 10 fingers, or some combination of them, you should be willing to make it happen!! I'll try anything once! My current gf requires clit stimulation to cum but can't concentrate to do it when I'm inside her. We're thinking vibrating cock ring might do the trick, so we'll give that a try and see how it goes.
Communication is the key I think, even though it is a subject some people still find taboo...

aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 12:04 pm:
Believe it or not, I have net more men that where turned off by toys, instead of men being turned on by it.
I have asked men if they would be open to wearing a strapon....ya it's not a response that I want to repeat.

Even when using my dildos or vibes, I never bring my toys out with new guys because in the past I have been degraded badly for it, so I just masturbate after he leaves and get my orgasms that way.
And if I needed toys with a new guy. ...then why bother having him there? Toys are a part of my intimate times with established lovers, they are not used as a free peep show for some new guy that doesn't want sex with me but just wants to watch me masturbate.

flowerkings2012 56M
4077 posts
7/2/2017 11:25 am

Yes, supportive of my woman, if there was one, trying/using/experiment with new toys

If she wanted me to wear a strap on then i guess I would

aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 12:09 pm:
There are less intimidating strapon cocks than that one. I an just a toy enthusiast so I like the look of a see thru toy! I like fantasy toys, "realistic", phallic shaped, and just plain functional.

But I have come across a few sites that design realistic cocks for men with ED, And they do a great job on those! It's definitely an option for established partners to look into especially if she still enjoys penetration. Sex doesn't have to end just because it is no longer revolving around his penis stimulation. I now people are brought up with the idea that sex is mainly for the man to cum, but if two people are looking for pleasure there are far more options to explore.

BiggLala 47F  
26441 posts
7/2/2017 11:31 am

The last guy I was with used a couple of cock sleeves. I have no idea his size because he decided from the start that he'd solely use them instead of just his cock. NEVER...EVER...AGAIN will I do THAT!

I don't have a large toy collection, but a rabbit tends to be my favorite. I don't use it often as I don't want to become too desensitized. I do hate when vibes give out...BUT... I can still use the dildo part when I desire penetration when I masturbate.

I have a strapon that I've used...once. A challenge to find someone to use it with again (yes, I used a condom with it or would consider him buying a different size attachment...the one I have is rather large, that's why I call 'him' Black Dynamite ).

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aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 12:13 pm:
Yes sleeves are something that should be brought into play when both sides are willing to try it out. Especially since they can be really thick or rigid, or such a different sensation that it should be used for fun but not for sole pleasure. (Lube is definitely your friend)

Strapon - I haven't done that in a few years now. I don't want to even think of it anymore because it makes me want to find a kink partner to explore with....and we all know how hard it is to find men into ongoing, never mind kink. (let's just say it's been a 7 yr search now)

redmustang91 59M  
9406 posts
7/2/2017 11:37 am

With all the guys on Meelp I am sure you could find a boy toy to be used as a vibrating dildo with various other attachments... If I was 1,000 miles closer to you I would volunteer....

aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 12:17 pm:
Bwahahahaa hahaha...
::. ahem...cough cough.::

..... you mean men are open to being called up when I am horny?!
Never mind finding one that is into extended play sessions. Around these parts it's all about the quick fuck.

Finding a guy into having play sessions with toys, about mutual pleasure, keen to try other intimate things, throw in some full body massage - give that fucker unicorn status!!

HamburgDave2 75M
16567 posts
7/2/2017 12:18 pm

I have never used a Cock Sleeve, however I have used Vibrators and Butt Plugs with an Ex GF. I am all in favour of any Toys that will enhance my partners Pleasure

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aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 12:25 pm:
I like the fullness when using a butt plug during sex, and then men I have done that with, for most of them anyway, like the feel of it and the visual stimulation.

I am also a fan of using toys on him when I give blowjobs. But my fingers also work just fine. But that type of play is only for the very rare guy that is open to it.

boobwhisperer69 56M
5315 posts
7/2/2017 1:22 pm

Women have soo many more options than men do! But I like your ideas!

aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 1:30 pm:
Actually there are a few number of toys now for men. Everything from anal toys to realistic sex dolls (which women do not have a similar alternative that is the same quality).
You just have to be open to looking around at the different sources. I find that the gay men sites have the better selection of toys, but there are also toys available on every adult toy site.

I am just jealous that you get the real dolls and we don't have an alternative...yet.

FunPleasurable 55M
3998 posts
7/2/2017 2:10 pm

I think you need to try a Hitachi Heavy duty turbo massager. It will sure ruffle things up. And I am prettt sure it will be your best toy for years and years to cum and cum.

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aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 2:17 pm:
ya....I am just not a fan of the bulk. Plus it doesn't sit well on my ladybits, as I had one for a few years.
Plus the hitachi can be a bad one for desensitizing your nerves.

BiggLala 47F  
26441 posts
7/2/2017 7:51 pm

Yes sleeves are something that should be brought into play when both sides are willing to try it out. Especially since they can be really thick or rigid, or such a different sensation that it should be used for fun but not for sole pleasure. (Lube is definitely your friend)
-Yep...know that now. My guess is he lacked in the length department and decided I'm a size queen or something. The entire time was an exercise in frustrating futility that left me sore the next morning...and not the 'good' kind of sore.

He alternated between the two he brought, but both kept slipping off him...partially due to my tightness and his inability to maintain an erection, or both. He spent the majority of the time stroking trying to keep his dick hard. Yep...sooo should have stayed home. Another lesson learned..say no to cock sleeves! 🙄

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aflower2c replies on 7/2/2017 10:41 pm:
Ah, he was trying to compensate for something he thought he lacked in (size seems more important than skill for many a man). When, I am sure, most women are just fine with some good skills over being rammed by something big with no skill. Which I have been with my share of big cocks and many of them only had limited skill with their sex, pretty disappointing. But the last big cock I had in my life plus could fuck, I kept him around for 2.5 yrs. Lol.

Ya no, I am just looking to add to my sexytime but then I do have a toy fetish. But I understand the awkwardness and the frustration with being with someone that doesn't display any sexual intelligence being in tune with the other person is important even if it's the first few times, you need to read body language and expressions, listen to thier breathing, watch his facial expressions. ... even if I am completely enjoying myself doing whatever if I hear or feel tgat he isn't into it I will stop and do something else.
Even when it comes to letting him handle my dildos, I always guide his hand and give him cues to what is working and when to stop because he doesn't realize that my 12" cock isn't going to fit in a 6.5"hole. Lol. But once they get a handle on it they sure like to get up close and watch it slide in n out.

discreteSteve62 52M  
1958 posts
7/3/2017 1:33 am

My wife likes her Fun Factory rechargeable toys. But she likes me better, so they don't get a lot of use. But she uses them more than any of her other toys (occasionally to warm herself up for me as a surprise when I get home).

She also has a giant size novelty dildo. She mostly uses it for visual stimulation, but she has given it a try a few times. It looks too thick, but it fits -- after all, a vagina can stretch enough to let a baby out -- but it's much too long. We get a giggle when it shows up somewhere unexpectedly too.

One of her friends was a big fan of the Hitachi, but it gave her problems with desensitization (not that she had skin to skin all often enough for that to be a frequent problem). But that's not your thing; I'm acknowledging your comments on it, not suggesting it.

aflower2c replies on 7/3/2017 6:44 am:
Yes desensitization is a drawback but it's better to masturbate than be left hanging all the time.

Not everyone is lucky enough to find a willing partner, so people need to find suitable alternatives.

HamburgDave2 75M
16567 posts
7/3/2017 2:14 am

Quoting aflower2c "I am also a fan of using toys on him when I give blowjobs. But my fingers also work just fine. But that type of play is only for the very rare guy that is open to it."

I don't mind a Finger in my Ass, done that before with a GF! Not so sure about anything bigger though

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aflower2c replies on 7/3/2017 6:45 am:
Lol well prostate massage is healthy for a man.

Otis_Good 66M
3482 posts
7/3/2017 8:11 pm

Sure I would why the heck not ? It would be a cold day in hello before anyone can say Otis-Good was afraid to use a toy . From looking at the picture that one looks like it would be fun and maybe with a little thought just might be able to make it go loop de loop . Or put it on a power drill and watch it go round and round .

aflower2c replies on 7/3/2017 9:33 pm:
When that little toy was brand new it could definitely bring on the multiple orgasms, and with an extra set of hands I would be squirting all over.

But the little motor wears out quick (ya ya I know I shouldn't run it every time till the battery dies and it heated up... but dam it felt good!.)
Maybe I should get into designing toys for us fans

adamw1970 48M  
97 posts
7/5/2017 7:54 am

I'm a huge toy fan, and VERY supportive of mutual experimentation using them with my partner! I'm embarrassed to admit I'd never seen a cock sleeve before, but now that I have, I'm very intrigued, and would love to see what might happen if I used it 😉


aflower2c replies on 7/5/2017 9:22 pm:
Don't let that one intimidate you though, there are several sizes and types available. I also have a "fat boy" jelly type of sleeve that will increase the girth yet stay nice n squishy.

The cock sleeve I have up is relatively new, just came on the market in the last couple of years.

Leegs2012 46M
42195 posts
7/23/2017 9:09 am

You have sexy Legs!! As for Sex Toys...I like anal beads used on me. I am Submissive and I love being cuffed or tied up, so I have been thinking a lot lately about getting Pegged. Face down and bound....just thinking.

aflower2c replies on 7/23/2017 8:35 pm:
Pegging can definitely be fun with the right partner

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