wat, who, me, blocked  

aflower2c 44F  
3748 posts
10/11/2016 9:28 pm
wat, who, me, blocked


Whatever shall I do

Oh ya, little miss flower gets blocked on occasion.
So there men, its not just you that is so "whoa as me, the wimmens are so mean" ..
lol, just kidding.


I do find it funny when I can't quite figure out why was blocked, beside the usual list of things like "won't put out on the next message", "she said No, wtf, bitch", "won't hookup", "eeks, she IS 42...wher the fuck is that block button b4 she responds"
Oh
And of course the few times he triggered the beotch comebacks (ok ok never said I was perfect, but I think you wouldn't expect any less eh )

So,
What a slow day in the sunshine. I think I was a little short with someone today, but small talk is tedious to the INTJ types Ah well, I will respond to his message later.


Sexy bloggers,
HOW are you with the small talk?

You know the "get to know you" phase, Do you just sail through it like a pro (wait not like a "pro")..how about a champ then?
I find small talk boring just like plucking my leg hairs, but its a necessary evil (the talking that is..ok and dealing with the leg hairs yah for being single)

But I practice and practice the "small talk"....ya nope still bugs me.

sigh...maybe I will just block myself

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 44F  
11581 posts
10/11/2016 9:31 pm

Apparently I didn't answer his message fast enough today after I looked at his profile
Ain't the first, certainly not the last

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


AriesMan04 47M  
92 posts
10/11/2016 9:37 pm

Always enjoy your insights.. such a lovely and delicious flower!


aflower2c replies on 10/11/2016 9:41 pm:
Just a little bit of real life stuffs for a bit of humor

aflower2c 44F  
11581 posts
10/11/2016 9:57 pm

Actually looking at that block message.... even the fishing site is doing this ->
.....no wonder the men folk get a little irate and pushy after awhile. I mean they could be more nicer about being blocked, like have a big "KAPOW!!!"
instead of "try someone else..." (they even add the dots just to rub it in)

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


CARROTSPIRAL99 29M
113 posts
10/11/2016 10:29 pm

so far i have been block by seven member on here


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:34 am:
I was talking about dating sites, but on here...I am sure I am on a list or two

hinj1 33F  
11292 posts
10/11/2016 10:35 pm

I wear all my blocks like a badge of honor ..The Top Blogger always blocks me... LOL. Then again I have 1 blogger blocked... and 13 assholes who can't take no for an answer.


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:36 am:
I have 37 blocked, mainly from when I did cam play though.
On dating sites, I think I had blocked a couple of guys that couldn't remember chatting to me before (and being dicks last time) so I will block them instead of trying to chat to them.

heartshapedcock2 35M
1583 posts
10/12/2016 1:35 am

I wouldn't block you.


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:37 am:
Lol...until I said no to hooking up

Otis_Good 66M
3414 posts
10/12/2016 1:59 am

When you're hot you're hot when you're not you're not . Apparently you're not

reminds me when I went to the whorehouse there was a sign at the door that read

" Closed Beat It "


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:40 am:
I know
Makes me saadddd

Well not really,
Think the first I was blocked I had a bit of a confused "what did I do wrong" doubting myself and appearance. But now it's just a part of online dating.

flowerkings2012 55M
3934 posts
10/12/2016 2:18 am

It depends what you mean by small talk, as surely there has to be some kind of filtering/quality control before thinking some qualify (regardless of the nature of the 'hookup'. If the personality is that stiff or wooden, it may reflect on their comfort in their own skin, and therefore impede any pleasure to be had from a meeting.

There comes a point when there is too much small talk that has no purpose, and some that is just like pulling teeth.

If you get blocked then just assume it's by people who are too weak to allow anyone else a POV that differs from their dogma.


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:46 am:
This particular block was because he sent me a message, I looked at his profile but I didn't reply right away. Later I went yo reply and seen I was blocked.

As for small talk -> tedious is "hey how's it going?" Or "hru" messages over n over again. Or talk about the weather over n over again.
I will only ask a few questions now to engage him in the "conversation" but if I have to carry the whole thing....ya nope I get bored quickly. I need to find him at least a little bit interesting in order to go out of my way to meet. But if we have nothing to really talk about, then why should I meet?
I get it that men just want a cattle call, then you go and stand in front of him so he can decide if your fuckable or not....but I am looking for dating/fwb not a quick hookup.

proteus_2a 52M
6196 posts
10/12/2016 2:28 am

Small talk depends on the personality - can be stimulating though

As for blocking , well, who cares ?,
as long as you know you are in the clear,

Let them rule their minute domain of cyberspace the way they want ...

Cheers my lady - P


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 6:53 am:
But small talk is usually the same type of questions or responses
Him: "hru"
Me: I am doing good, how have you been? How's work?"
Him: "gd n u"

But if you have nothing in your profile for me to ask questions or to intrigue me to ask for more, then small talk is boring.
Do you like coffee? No
Do you like this or that? No
Do you like hiking? No
Do you like movies? No
Well what the fuck interests you? All your profile says is generic stuff and I am trying to engage you in a conversation. Of course my questions aren't quite so generic but that is what it starts to sound like. I don't like the 20 question game to get in her panties. Lol

As for blocking, doesn't bother me at all. I get blocked on the kink site a fair bit because I dont hookup or deliver instant kinks.

heartshapedcock2 35M
1583 posts
10/12/2016 9:00 am

Lol, if you said no to hooking up, then why would you care if you got blocked?


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 9:10 am:
You seem to have missed the humor in my post. I don't really care if I am blocked or not, I would actually prefer if they blocked me. That way they don't message me a few months later asking the same questions. Same reason why I block some guys, if he said no once to a meeting, then I just block him from my profile searches.
But the fishing site doesn't actually keep the blocked profile from view, it still let's you look at it, while the cupid site hides the blocked profiles from view that way you don't even look at the profile again.

aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 9:11 am:
You would block me if you asked for a hookup and I said No. That's just how the online thing works. Lol

gardenboy321 55M  
39185 posts
10/12/2016 9:16 am

Eventually the small talk on my side turns to chirping crickets, so I prefer to meet sooner rather than later.

Thoughts from the Garden...


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 9:39 am:
Yes. But I have a hard time meeting a man that is purposely being vague or generic.

I guess I am just not into being pranced around like a show pony at an auction yard, just to see if he wants it or not.

I have tried the quick meets, and those have the highest fail rates for compatibility.

aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 9:51 am:
Oh. And I am looking for ongoing dating/fwb/kink play partners, not just a quick hookup.
Even though some of the quick meets I did for a sex date ended badly or just made me question why I have to be a sexually active woman and want to remove my vagina. Lol

aflower2c 44F  
11581 posts
10/12/2016 10:15 am

As for the meet quick thing......I am completely in the fence about that.
If you want to see me in real life, but don't want to chat with me, I do host enough meet n greet nights that you can join the other creepers to see if I am fuckable or not.

I hate to meet with men, get naked, then find out he has ED or has no interest in kinky things. Waste of my time because he just wants me to lay there like a wet hole or if he has ED I have to listen to his 100 and 1 excuses about why his cock doesn't work.......so I end up masturbating anyway - then why should I bother to meet.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


scott6250 56M  
10051 posts
10/12/2016 4:45 pm

Nice sense of humor. Happy Wednesday!

"Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250


aflower2c replies on 10/12/2016 8:17 pm:
lol... I have to find humor in life, even with the small things

BiggLala 46F  
22578 posts
10/12/2016 9:08 pm

"But I have a hard time meeting a man that is purposely being vague or generic."
-THIS^^^ Then again, aren't most guys in the dating pool vague and generic when they're just looking for 'fun'?

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aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 6:42 am:
It's frustrating when you are trying to give them the benefit of the doubt that there would be a connection in real life if you just meet with them quicker. But for all the times that I did that I felt either like a steer at the auction or he would just sit there and not say anything.
If I wanted to do quick meets and be judged for my appearance only then I would go to the pub or club.

But if there is next to nothing for common interest online, then what are we going to talk about when we meet....oh ya that's right you just want me to stand in front of you so.you can determine if I sm fuckable or not.

PyschoLoco 55M  
1489 posts
10/13/2016 7:29 am

G, I hope he didn't have a carpet service What does INTJ stand for? Internet jerk? Hope you don't block me for my cluelessNess I like blogging back and forth but am such a poor typer and auto correct is so aggravating that it's difficult to get aroused unless lots of pics are involved. Talking on the phone gets me way more erect. I find your blog very stimulating

Standards are people too.....kinda


aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 8:40 am:
I don't sext or cam or sex chat on the phone with men that I have not met with and also developed a fwb/casual thing with.
If you are looking for online play then there are plenty of women out there for that.

But the disconnect is between the initial message and getting to the point of arranging a meet. Seems social niceties have been tossed out the door because of the anonymity of social/online media.

author51 55F  
60395 posts
10/13/2016 8:45 am

It is a pre requisite for any man to have any hope in Hell of meeting me.I am selective for a reason when looking for a FWB as I look for one only.i HAVE LOST COUNT HOW MANY TIMES i HAVE BEEN BLOCKED AS i HAVE A TENDENCY TO SPEAK MY MIND WHEN PROVOKED OR PISSED OFF but it is pretty much by women with just the odd asshole male moron...

One can never have enough JOY in their life...


aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 9:00 am:
Having common interests should be basic grounds for fwb and even with sex.
I have no interest in being a wet hole that has to lay there while he does his thing for 3 mins, I look for partners that want mutually satisfying sexytime...and those can only be found with men that actually like women and who are emotionally open to enjoy sharing the experience.

I don't mind if they block me, that way I don't waste my time looking at thier profile or messaging them. And once they block me I am off of thier viewing list also.
But strangely enough the fishing site doesn't allow you to block profiles until you have sent a message, and the site still allows you to view his profile -> sounds pretty stalkerish to me to encourage that kind of behavior.

redrockrascal 60M
18224 posts
10/13/2016 10:13 am

I think calling it “small talk” diminishes its importance in creating comfort, in the "getting to know you", phase. Diminishing it can have a negative effect on the interest in making “small talk”. If it is comfortable you just talk and go from there.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 1:25 pm:
Yes. I get what you are saying, but if it's just an endless loop of "hru" or "wanna fuck" messages, then there is no interest in wanting to meet. I get that many want to meet with as little effort as possible but there has to be something besides a photo.
Before you nay say me, I have experimented with this also. Meeting men purely based on very limited chat or because I liked a photo. Pretty much a 99% fail that we even had anything to talk about face to face. I don't know about you, but my free time is pretty limited. I value my time, my sexuality, and in what I bring to the table, I would hope that he values time also, and has interest in mutual satisfaction with sex....but if all he offers is being a walking penis, well I have a whole 2 suitcases full of dildos and vibes. And those that only have thier dick on offer, rarely have mutually satisfying sex on the mind.

redrockrascal 60M
18224 posts
10/13/2016 5:21 pm

aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 2:25 pm:
Yes. I get what you are saying, but if it's just an endless loop of "hru" or "wanna fuck" messages, then there is no interest in wanting to meet. I get that many want to meet with as little effort as possible but there has to be something besides a photo.
Before you nay say me, I have experimented with this also. Meeting men purely based on very limited chat or because I liked a photo. Pretty much a 99% fail that we even had anything to talk about face to face. I don't know about you, but my free time is pretty limited. I value my time, my sexuality, and in what I bring to the table, I would hope that he values time also, and has interest in mutual satisfaction with sex....but if all he offers is being a walking penis, well I have a whole 2 suitcases full of dildos and vibes. And those that only have thier dick on offer, rarely have mutually satisfying sex on the mind.

an endless loop of "hru" or "wanna fuck" messages is not small talk that is just dumb drivel.

there has to be something besides a photo. Of course, there are a lot of people (men and women) who want to meet with as little effort as possible.

I value my time and all I bring to the table too. When someone from here, or any dating site wastes my time I generally won’t give them a second shot, unless circumstance say otherwise. And anything other than have mutually satisfying sex is a waste of time too.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 7:15 pm:
is not small talk that is just dumb drivel.
YES... finally, the endless chitter chatter about nothing really does nothing to whet the appetite to meet you.

It really amazes me how many just want to meet by the second message, I get to why though - it saves wasting time - but my time is limited and I need to know that we have something in common to talk about. If anything ask me questions about fetish and bdsm (just don't make it all about sex or wank fodder) or about living off grid ..something . Keep the conversation going and show interest in the person that is ME. I may have a vagina, but it isn't the only thing that I have

aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 7:22 pm:
I rarely hand out second chances nowadays. I used to have a 3 strike rule, but that has since gone to 1 and your done. I do understand that people are busy, but I make the time to meet with those that interest me. If all your time is so disposable and you are always bored, then we really don't have much in common.
hence why I am looking for someone that is needing occasional companionship without the whole "fulltime emotional involvement".


But is it too difficult to ask for a bit of conversation to judge some compatibility before meeting ?

redrockrascal 60M
18224 posts
10/13/2016 7:37 pm

But is it too difficult to ask for a bit of conversation to judge some compatibility before meeting ?For some knuckle draggers it is.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


aflower2c replies on 10/13/2016 9:46 pm:
But (and there is always a "but") I have given a pass pending how physically hot he was (yep shallow flower she is) ...somedays just trying to engage in conversation becomes tedious that I just want to give up...but like any man I just go and find someone hot to meet with. Even if they don't hit the brain waves, at least they offer the physical appeal ...Sometimes, well... just have to get that ball gag in before he tries to talk

BiggLala 46F  
22578 posts
10/14/2016 8:43 am

"...just have to get that ball gag in before he tries to talk"
-Bwahahaha! I do so love you!!!!

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aflower2c replies on 10/14/2016 9:04 am:
Well....Sometimes the pretty ones you just want them to and not wreck the moment
Because as soon as they try to talk the ladybits start to dry up like the Sahara

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