Women Too Critical Sometimes,,,,on Themselves  

altlooking 65M
23 posts
6/5/2017 11:43 am
Women Too Critical Sometimes,,,,on Themselves


I've been on Meelp a while and it seems to me that women are a bit too critical on themselves. I see a bunch describe themselves as "Ample" when really IMHO, they're not. Maybe they don't achieve the media's paradigm of an emaciated twentysomething so there a bit harsh on themselves.

My image of a beautiful woman isn't a gal with a broomstick figure. So perhaps its my standards that aren't really in line. Don't get me wrong, I don't think being grossly overweight is attractive. But it seems that with more than a few pics I've seen the gal describes herself as Ample, I see the pics and say "Wow, she's not bad at all, and surely NOT my idea of Ample".

So what do you think?

altlooking 65M
322 posts
6/5/2017 11:44 am

Obligatory comment to get past Meelp filters.


porterpiper1 53F
3767 posts
6/5/2017 12:04 pm

Most are like that because the media and society has told us and shown us, that being thin is the perfect woman, And men also give that vibe also, just look around, Most successful men have these very thin women on their arms, It has gotten a lot better, I know you remember era perfect 10, when if you had large hips or butt you were fat and unattractive, being 300 isn't attractive or healthy,


papis_baby_girl 41F
5278 posts
6/6/2017 4:57 am

I think you're trying to come from a good place, so I'll be gentle.

I see a bunch describe themselves as "Ample" when really IMHO, they're not.
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You said it perfectly... it's your opinion. How a woman sees herself is her own idea/feeling and doesn't need your opinion to 'make her feel better' about herself. I'm sure she's getting lots of play by being ample and feels confident enough in herself to say she's ample.

"Wow, she's not bad at all, and surely NOT my idea of Ample".
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So is she suppose to be thankful and grateful to you because you don't see her as 'not bad at all'? That kind of sounds like 'she's got a very pretty face even though she's so big.'

Women are judged constantly about their weight both vocally and silently. It's the last bastion of prejudice that's 'acceptable'.

Don't think you are 'empowering' women by giving a backhanded compliment. It doesn't work.

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BiggLala 48F  
28335 posts
6/6/2017 6:15 am

    Quoting papis_baby_girl:
    I think you're trying to come from a good place, so I'll be gentle.

    I see a bunch describe themselves as "Ample" when really IMHO, they're not.
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    You said it perfectly... it's your opinion. How a woman sees herself is her own idea/feeling and doesn't need your opinion to 'make her feel better' about herself. I'm sure she's getting lots of play by being ample and feels confident enough in herself to say she's ample.

    "Wow, she's not bad at all, and surely NOT my idea of Ample".
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    So is she suppose to be thankful and grateful to you because you don't see her as 'not bad at all'? That kind of sounds like 'she's got a very pretty face even though she's so big.'

    Women are judged constantly about their weight both vocally and silently. It's the last bastion of prejudice that's 'acceptable'.

    Don't think you are 'empowering' women by giving a backhanded compliment. It doesn't work.
I tend to agree with PBG here.

I highly doubt the women to which you refer are condemning themselves (of course, we don't know those women so none of us can speak to their mindset). I'll guess that they simply selected the body type option the feel best fits their physique, and not as a means to state 'I'm not attractive'.

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altlooking 65M
322 posts
6/16/2017 6:56 am

PBG:

You don't have to be thankful to me for shit.

I was really trying to be nice, and understand why some women are overly critical of themselves. It seems to revolve around the media's image of a pencil, emaciated female figure as being a goal, and an unrealistic goal at that.

I'm not critical of women at all, in fact I was trying to be just the opposite. Not giving a backhanded compliment at all.

But I guess you may be the type of bitchy woman that takes everything the wrong fuckin' way. You might have a knockout of a figure, but I can imagine your attitude ruins it.


fredlet517 55M

12/2/2018 11:21 am

In my opinion, if a woman is comfortable with herself, she is attractive. For some reason, I am attracted to extremes--extremely thin really excites me, as does your typical BBW. But really, it's personality that makes all the difference.
And, for what it's worth...a Desi girl is *always* attractive to me!


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