If A Woman Chooses To Share Her Freedom Of Sexual Expression Does That Make Her a Bad Parent??  

hotmamamm 43F  
11139 posts
7/18/2017 9:28 am
If A Woman Chooses To Share Her Freedom Of Sexual Expression Does That Make Her a Bad Parent??


Today I received a email from a lovely gentleman. It stated..Hey I am not trying to be rude but why do you post those kind of pictures if you are a mother? I am concerned for your children. I will spread your nastiness... Most of the time i can take this kind of negativity with a grain of salt however this really struck a nerve. I will tell you why. In the back of my mind I have had the same question. If a woman chooses to share her freedom of sexual expression does that make them a bad parent? However I have never heard of a man being questioned for his parenting skills for posting a cock pic.. He might be considered a pervert or a dirty old man but the comparison is not the same. Yet another double standard in society.I am use to it. I can only speak for myself but my sexuallity has nothing to do with my parenting skills.If I was not sexual my kids would not exist. I am more than just a mother I am a human being with sexual needs. If I do not bring men into my home. Surround my family with my choice of activities why is this matter even in question. Am I not allowed to have a sex life?. I just do not get it !! Do you??

hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/18/2017 9:30 am

I really do not expect many comments I am just pissed off and need to vent!! However your opinions would be wonderful


Aden0069 50M
109 posts
7/18/2017 9:35 am

I totally agree! Our sexual desires and fantasies have no correlation to our parenting skills! This site is one of my only outlets to for my sexual desires and fantasies, but I do not expose my children to it. Most who would meet me in everyday life or on the street would have no idea what I really think about in my dirty mind. I would not waste much time thinking or worrying about the email from this gentleman, because he apparently does not have a clue. And it doesn't matter what the gender is, male or female, the same standard applies to both.


Maxi0377 46M
450 posts
7/18/2017 9:35 am

te doy la razon corazon tu manera de pensar y ver las cosas son muy valida uno tiene derecho de expresar y hacer lo que realmente quiere y desea eso no lo hace ni mal padre o madre ni mala persona . te apoyo totalmente


Zinny1953 66M  
226 posts
7/18/2017 9:39 am

The double standard here is as obvious as it is obnoxious. It's the same BS about a man should have "experience" before he gets married but a woman has to be a virgin! Same shit; different century. You have every right to be angry, every right to vent. And I'm right there with you . . .


Ienjoythetaste 70M  
2560 posts
7/18/2017 9:39 am

The "Green-eyed Monster" strikes again.

Sounds like he cant get sex, so no one else should.

Not all people are like that thank goodness.

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Trapper69 61G  
2111 posts
7/18/2017 9:40 am

Don't let an idiot get to you. Sadly, there are A LOT of men and women out there who feel the same way. I hear from those type of people every so often.... I just ignore them! After all, they're the type of people who rarely have sex, and when they do, it's done in the dark with the light off under the blankets so their eyes won't be burned.


coolhunk2017 29M
16 posts
7/18/2017 9:41 am

ofcourse not
because both things can go together untill unless they are not conflicting


wd40w 66M
6991 posts
7/18/2017 9:44 am

"Lovely gentleman"...Riiiiiiiiiight...Real men do not try to shame anyone about their sexuality or preferences...Period...Block...Shun...

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HamburgDave2 75M
16569 posts
7/18/2017 10:02 am

Gentleman? Jeanie that is Total BS ~^~ Block the Asshole

What you choose to do on this site, has no relationship to your qualities as a mother


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Lonely16842 53M  
769 posts
7/18/2017 10:13 am

No it does not make you a bad parent.


all_about_you73 45M
164 posts
7/18/2017 10:14 am

I know it is hard to do, but try not to let peoples ignorance get under yourr skin. Just do what you do and ignore them as much as you can. We have your back here. Not that you need us to, but we do.


skippp61 65M
28 posts
7/18/2017 10:17 am

What an asshole this guy sounds like. My wife and I have an open marriage and Our kids know she dates other men and that I date men so just ignore this prick.


Tmptrzz 56F  
56472 posts
7/18/2017 10:17 am

I think we should all do what feels right for us, it doesn't matter what others think. And it's important to be open with our children when it comes to sexual issues. Not all of us think alike and you make a great point my friend about the double standard you mentioned. Well Stated!!!!

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


goodatpoetry2 69M
16571 posts
7/18/2017 10:24 am

Oh no.... just ignore that idiot.
Ask him if his MOM would be proud of HIM being here. .


Horny_Cat68 50M  
580 posts
7/18/2017 10:28 am

So basically according to that guy, a divorced mom should become totally celibate, and never have sex, or even think about having sex again? The idiot is probably a long time member of the not getting any tribe, and just wants to project his misery onto others.

I love the way you make me horny without even doing anything.


Italianlover42 58M  
17 posts
7/18/2017 10:58 am

It's apples and oranges, I love my kids, but wouldn't expose them to my profile on Meelp. Parenting and your sex life are two totally different issues. Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one!


ToolsBeauxMewed 49M
273 posts
7/18/2017 10:59 am

No Jeanie it does not make you a bad parent at all. I meet single gals b4 that were parents to. They still had a sex life hun. Your a great gal Jeanie - don't let it bother you to much. The guy must be mad cuz you won't sleep w/him.
Always here 4 you Jeanie if you need to talk


justskin1 67M
11043 posts
7/18/2017 11:34 am

Too many children fail to see , often do not want to see, their parents as sexual beings. One odd thing is they can usually see their friends parents that way but not their own. One way many children fail to grow up and a way that can cause a lot of problems for both parents and children when the kids are adults.
One advantage of being more open is it presents the opportunity to express values of more depth than NO! and of making sex a normal part of being a human being with ways of explaining the pitfalls, joys, cautions to observe and reasons to wait. In short, shape an informed, well rounded human being.


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amwfcurious 48M
298 posts
7/18/2017 11:39 am

I have always believed that the only person who can be the true judge on whether another person is a good or bad parent is their children. [No, not when they are still a child but once they become an adult, and even perhaps after they have their own children.]

At least that's how I viewed myself. I don't give a damn that I won't let me kids go out partying when they should be studying. They are my kids, they are my responsibilities and mine alone.

Having said that, you and you alone should know whether you are holding up your end of the responsibilities as a parent.


bubbacjr56 62M
782 posts
7/18/2017 11:44 am

Well he is talking to make it in his mind it is ok to be on this site. As long it dose not interfere with your family time and attending to your kids there is a lot more bad things we all could be doing.


maybejustrex4 52M  
2471 posts
7/18/2017 12:05 pm

Tell me again how you didn't expect comments?

You have of course heard of man being pilloried for his dick pics -- Anthony Weiner (seriously, how could this guy have been the poster child for poor control of dick pics). To be fair though, I don't recall his parenting being called into question.

If you were (a) fucking, (b) talking about fucking, (c) displaying pictures of your self either fucking or being actively and overtly sexual anywhere where you would expect your kids would see you, there is a problem. Otherwise, everything that guy said is bullshit and should be ignored.

You want a scary bit of perspective? The NY Times has a story today about a woman who has been arrested in Saudi Arabia for going out in public in a very demure skirt and bare midriff shirt. To hell with that kind of close minded woman hating crap. Thank you for calling out your asshole correspondent for his nonsense.


pointman2016 61M
1 post
7/18/2017 12:14 pm

You will be considered a bad parent by some one, somewhere no matter what you do or say.


Heathen_G 60M
5894 posts
7/18/2017 12:17 pm

In reply to your venting:

It stated..Hey I am not trying to be rude ... So if he's truely not trying to be rude, then he , himself, is venting a feeling of his own. Maybe he had that "Madonna complex",- the inability to maintain, or have, sexual arousal within a committed, loving relationship.

but why do you post those kind of pictures if you are a mother? .... Being a mother, or being a father, really has nothing to do with ones sexuality, but their attitude does. "Attitude" can put a damper on all kinds of fun for women,- like "I won't have sex with a man my son's age". The mood killing "Attitude" a man could have , is that "Madonna complex". Once he's reproduced with his wife, now only another woman can arouse him to full attention.

I am concerned for your children. I will spread your nastiness... That doesn't make any sense at all.

In the back of my mind I have had the same question. ... Maybe with some folks, after they have completed their obligatory reproduction for society, sex becomes a matter of seriousness, no longer fun, but only to have completed a purpose. To reproduce.

If a woman chooses to share her freedom of sexual expression does that make them a bad parent? ...No. Person first. Parent second. The exception; the safety of the children, in that case, "Parent first" , "Own wellbeing second".

However I have never heard of a man being questioned for his parenting skills for posting a cock pic.. ... Neither have I. Probably for the same reason [income] a man is objectified sexually, so he would be judged [objectified] as a fit or poor parent based on his income.

Am I not allowed to have a sex life?. I just do not get it !! Do you?? ... He may be attempting to project his "Madonna complex" onto you, a woman. I don't know what that would be called, "Hercules complex"? I don't know.


FMAOPLS 65F  
25959 posts
7/18/2017 12:58 pm

Your sexual it and how to express it has nothing to do with your parenting skills.

However, open and honest communication about sexual issues, with your children as they become adults; will set them on their future path. Far better they should know that sex is beautiful , than to be brought up thinking there is anything nasty or dirty about it.

As you said, it is a part of human life, and I believe never discussing it does nothing more than raise a new generation of puritanical and judgmental prudes. Of course, how much you share with your children is entirely up to you, and you need not offer any explanation or justification here.

There will always be a double standard, as long as young men are encouraged to "sow their wild oats" while young women are admonished to "keep their legs closed".

Just witness the news stories of a high schooler being expelled from Prom, because her dress and the manner of dance caused the male chaperones to have "unclean thoughts". These grown should have been the ones who were Sent Home.

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seahoss5455 64M
1520 posts
7/18/2017 1:02 pm

darling you have a right to be upset and yes there is a double standard, and hopefully mankind can grow out of it.
I believe you set one fantastic standard for women to aspire to, thank you for all you share with us


tyedyeh 67M
472 posts
7/18/2017 1:11 pm

Interesting topic. My views are simply as long as you do nothing openly apparent to your children, anything that would disgrace or harm them, your sexual life is up to you. In other words keep open sex away from your family and those close to them. Just my view.


wellhung8inch4 56M
100 posts
7/18/2017 1:59 pm

You are an amazing woman....I am offended by this man's email!! I have no doubt you are an amazing woman, I have no doubt that you are an amazing Mother!! You deserve to live your life as you want!! it is none of his business!!! In fact if he is following your blog on Meelp, isn't he the proverbial "pot calling the kettle black"???? I see you as an amazing woman who loves who she is, proud of who she is and loves her life. I respect you for how you feel about yourself , how you view yourself, who you are, and your values in life!!! I am sure you are one amazing Mom!!!

You are an amazing, strong woman!!! Don't let this one man's selfish and stupid opinion bring you down one bit.......I think you are so awesome!!!


tmacshane26 34M
2092 posts
7/18/2017 2:01 pm

The the first thing I would like to know is what business is of his what you do with your life. If you so choose to post pics, videos, or perform on cam that is your business not his. He had no reason to send you a email and go off on you like that. I can understand he was concerned for you and your children, but again it is not of his concern. You have the right to do what you please, you are not hurting anyone. Yes you are allowed to have a sex life. Your a divorced mother, so you are allowed to have fun. Like you said your not having strange men come over to your house and have sex with you.


citizen4722 61M  
60839 posts
7/18/2017 3:02 pm

Why should you be made to feel guilty? He doesn't know you and has no right to tell you that you shouldn't be on this site. Your children are not his concern.


wellhung8inch4 56M
100 posts
7/18/2017 3:03 pm

Sorry, I have to chime in again....... I'm still pissed of at this guy for what he said to you!! Your life is not his to dictate to you how to live it!! You are an amazing woman, proud of how she lives her life.....how dare he try to take that away from you!!

Thank you for being who you are, I admire you for who you are.....NEVER let anybody ever dictate to you how to live your life!! ALWAYS remember.......you are one hell of an amazing woman!!!!


LikeToEnjoyU16 63M  
196 posts
7/18/2017 3:12 pm

You are right there is a double standard. I think the key is that if you are showing you sexuality on here and not posting or flaunting it in front of you kids. It is your right to express yourself.

A person who may just be bringing men or women in and out of their homes for sex and multiple partners in front of their kids as a kids role model sets their children up for a warped sense on relationships.

I hope that you have an open communication relationship with your kids and if not that you work towards this. Able to discuss anything with them. I guess my question is to the man who voiced his concerns is why is he on this site let alone looking at your profile if he does not approve.


oldbstrd55 62M  
3115 posts
7/18/2017 3:25 pm

Some people have no clue about life. They have a need to judge others to take eyes off of them. Aren't most of the women here mother's? I must be a big pervert, I have grandkids.


CeriosEros 34M
611 posts
7/18/2017 4:06 pm

It's the Madonna/whore complex. A lot of guys have trouble with it. Once you become a mother they don't see you as a sexual being anymore. You become a vessel in which life comes into being. When you express your sexuality then it throws a monkey wrench in their idea of what a mother is. Mother's don't express any form of sexuality so that must mean you are a bad one. That is not true you can be the greatest mother in the world and express your sexuality any way you see fit


luvexotic 57M  
3811 posts
7/18/2017 5:00 pm

You being a sexual woman does NOT make you a bad parent. Like you say, why aren't men treated the same. In fact I have known some bad parents in my time, and you wouldn't have called them sexual beings - some in fact were so prim and proper, you felt if they bent over they would snap in two.
If he thinks that your lifestyle (or anyone else here for that matter) makes you a bad parent, then he isn't worth the time to chat to, let alone meet. Just my opinion


wantaplay8 65M
5593 posts
7/18/2017 5:03 pm

I agree with you that parents have sex lives and can be great parents for their children.
That kind of 2 way opinion person pisses me off too. Almost all of the women on this site have raised children or are raising children. So what would he be doing if they all followed his opinion and left the site? LOL What a kill joy he is.
I am a pervert and a parent that has raised three good children and those children are raising good children.
Do like many posters have said ,,block or ignore the person. Live your life the way you choose to.


sexydad1167 51M  
1357 posts
7/18/2017 5:18 pm

More than likely he is only here to give people a hard time for their choices. He is not actively looking for sex or a person. Sad he has so much time to waste or doesn't have much of a life that he resorts to harassing people for their choices in life. No Absolutely not does it make you a bad parent you are right if you were not a sexual being your kids would not be here. Same thing for the rest of us, some just more than others. What you choose to do in your "me" time is your business as long as its not physically or mentally hurting your kids. I assume they do not know you are on here and that you may potentially meet a guy for sex or show your lovely body to us perverts. Now i will say this it can be a bad thing. if you were bringing home an new guy 3-5 times a week parading him around the house in front of your kids making so much noise it wakes the kids or they see the sex taking place. Depending on how old they are that could have a devastating effect on there psyche. I have been divorced since my son was 3-1/2. he is now 18. During that time he has only met 4 women. I have had a lot more than that in my life since then. If I have chosen to meet someone for a sexual relationship not a dating relationship there was no need for him to even be aware of that persons existence. If it became more, sure i would have eventually introduced them. I was not going to parade a whole bunch of women in front of my son. let him get attached and then they vanished for some reason. If he met them that meant i wanted them to be around for a while and were important enough to me for the 2 of them to meet. he has had his share of heartbreak when i had a relationship end too. So while i do not post naked pictures of myself anywhere on the internet, I am here for the same reason most of us are here for. Does that make me a bad parent? I say No because I separate my private "me" time from my son's time and there is no reason for the 2 to be intermixed. He is off to college in a couple months so i will have a lot more of that "me" time and don't have to worry about him showing up unannounced. I have a whole other bunch of worries to deal with now but that is another subject.


bigblackman21221 48M
4092 posts
7/18/2017 8:19 pm

I've noticed from friends and comments I've seen in certain blogs that there seems to be a lot of hate going around in this place.

Is it the fucking heat?

All that negativity is coming from a small group of people that seeming hate every damn body.

Please don't let them get to you. There are plenty of people around here that adore you, focus on us.

I know that's a lot of people so you can just focus on me if it makes things easier.

HAHAHAHA!!!!





pacnwlover42 50M
6674 posts
7/18/2017 8:52 pm

No, it doesn't make you a bad parent at all. The labeling needs to stop. I am very sexual myself and I'm sure that I get labeled as shallow and rude for what I express and the pics I show.

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


reallyready46 59M
1112 posts
7/18/2017 10:04 pm

Guess my first thought was, is he a Dad? Then what is he doing on here? I mean why stop at pictures, if you are on here you must be bad. Another example of the big double standard. Women are judged one way guys another.


SirlickalotNM 56M  
111 posts
7/18/2017 10:06 pm

That guy who criticized you sounds like a asshat. He has some damn nerve.
Most times I would advise you to ignore such a jerk but in this case sending him a big fuck off reply followed by a block would be appropriate.


Story435 71M
2564 posts
7/19/2017 5:39 am

No that is not right you can still be a very good parent.
Butch


gowildscorpion 46M  
565 posts
7/19/2017 6:09 am

Nope...just.Nope.


Milfdiver2k 44M
76 posts
7/19/2017 7:35 am

Send him 15p and telll him to fast somebody that gives a fuck πŸ˜œπŸ‘…πŸ˜œ

And I'm, old enough, to know better, But young enough to not give a fuck


wjb1958 60M  
3622 posts
7/19/2017 8:53 am

Our sexual fantasies and desires have nothing with parenting skills. He is trying to justify his being on this site


PyschoLoco 55M
1518 posts
7/19/2017 10:15 am

I didn't know you had a kid. Congratulations. While I'm not above being guilty of double standards, this is not one of them. You're allowed to be as nasty as you wish to be. Children shouldn't change that

Standards are people too.....kinda


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:36 pm

    Quoting hotmamamm:
    I really do not expect many comments I am just pissed off and need to vent!! However your opinions would be wonderful


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:38 pm

    Quoting Aden0069:
    I totally agree! Our sexual desires and fantasies have no correlation to our parenting skills! This site is one of my only outlets to for my sexual desires and fantasies, but I do not expose my children to it. Most who would meet me in everyday life or on the street would have no idea what I really think about in my dirty mind. I would not waste much time thinking or worrying about the email from this gentleman, because he apparently does not have a clue. And it doesn't matter what the gender is, male or female, the same standard applies to both.
That is very true. Sadly some people do expose their children but if you make the right choiced it should not matter. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:39 pm

    Quoting Maxi0377:
    te doy la razon corazon tu manera de pensar y ver las cosas son muy valida uno tiene derecho de expresar y hacer lo que realmente quiere y desea eso no lo hace ni mal padre o madre ni mala persona . te apoyo totalmente
That is a good point!! Thank you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:40 pm

    Quoting Zinny1953:
    The double standard here is as obvious as it is obnoxious. It's the same BS about a man should have "experience" before he gets married but a woman has to be a virgin! Same shit; different century. You have every right to be angry, every right to vent. And I'm right there with you . . .
LOL It is just silly..Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:40 pm

    Quoting Ienjoythetaste:
    The "Green-eyed Monster" strikes again.

    Sounds like he cant get sex, so no one else should.

    Not all people are like that thank goodness.
Thank goodness is right!! LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:41 pm

    Quoting Trapper69:
    Don't let an idiot get to you. Sadly, there are A LOT of men and women out there who feel the same way. I hear from those type of people every so often.... I just ignore them! After all, they're the type of people who rarely have sex, and when they do, it's done in the dark with the light off under the blankets so their eyes won't be burned.
Thank you Trapper..that would be a real boring sex life..LOL I appreciate you commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:42 pm

    Quoting coolhunk2017:
    ofcourse not
    because both things can go together untill unless they are not conflicting
That is true, If you make the right choices and they do not conflict it should not be a issue!! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:43 pm

    Quoting wd40w:
    "Lovely gentleman"...Riiiiiiiiiight...Real men do not try to shame anyone about their sexuality or preferences...Period...Block...Shun...
Yes ..I really do not block many people but he was put on the list..LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:44 pm

    Quoting Digiduder:
    I can understand your concern for the topic and your frustration. I am sorry you have to deal with cowardly insecure men like this.
It is expected..LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:45 pm

    Quoting HamburgDave2:
    Gentleman? Jeanie that is Total BS ~^~ Block the Asshole

    What you choose to do on this site, has no relationship to your qualities as a mother
I wa trying to be nice LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:46 pm

    Quoting Digiduder:
    The irony if it is that the man is on the site reading your blog. Would he like to explain to his children what he is doing here and why he is reading your blog?
I do not think he reads my blog. He was referring to my profile pictures which are tame complared to my blog! LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:47 pm

    Quoting Lonely16842:
    No it does not make you a bad parent.
Thank you Lonely!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:48 pm

    Quoting all_about_you73:
    I know it is hard to do, but try not to let peoples ignorance get under yourr skin. Just do what you do and ignore them as much as you can. We have your back here. Not that you need us to, but we do.
Thank you..I usually can brush things off but this struck a nerve..LOL I appreciate you commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:49 pm

    Quoting skippp61:
    What an asshole this guy sounds like. My wife and I have an open marriage and Our kids know she dates other men and that I date men so just ignore this prick.
I agree he was not very nice!! Thank you for commenting skippp


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:51 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I think we should all do what feels right for us, it doesn't matter what others think. And it's important to be open with our children when it comes to sexual issues. Not all of us think alike and you make a great point my friend about the double standard you mentioned. Well Stated!!!!
It is a double standard but like I said expected. Nice to see you friend. I appreciate you commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:51 pm

    Quoting goodatpoetry2:
    Oh no.... just ignore that idiot.
    Ask him if his MOM would be proud of HIM being here. .
Yeah but then I would have to interact with him and that is just silly!! LOL Thank you for commenting goodatpoetry!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:52 pm

    Quoting Horny_Cat68:
    So basically according to that guy, a divorced mom should become totally celibate, and never have sex, or even think about having sex again? The idiot is probably a long time member of the not getting any tribe, and just wants to project his misery onto others.
Basically..LOL Nice to see you HC I appreciate you commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:53 pm

    Quoting  :

Some things are hard to ignore..LOL Thank you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:54 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you I appreciate it


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:55 pm

    Quoting Italianlover42:
    It's apples and oranges, I love my kids, but wouldn't expose them to my profile on Meelp. Parenting and your sex life are two totally different issues. Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one!
I agree Thank you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:56 pm

    Quoting ToolsBeauxMewed:
    No Jeanie it does not make you a bad parent at all. I meet single gals b4 that were parents to. They still had a sex life hun. Your a great gal Jeanie - don't let it bother you to much. The guy must be mad cuz you won't sleep w/him.
    Always here 4 you Jeanie if you need to talk
Thank you I appreciate the kind words


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:57 pm

    Quoting kajiraAriel:
    My opinion is that I do not see how self expression in this regard can equate poor parenting.

    Does that mean courts have not used certain "sexual habits" against parents in ugly custody battles? Umm sadly they have. So while I do not personally feel it makes you or anyone else a bad parent the laws may not always agree.

    As for the guy who wrote you? Maybe he should get a grip on something other than the obvious
That is true sad to say. That is one of the reasons I question it. Thank you so much for your opinion pretty lady


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 4:58 pm

    Quoting justskin1:
    Too many children fail to see , often do not want to see, their parents as sexual beings. One odd thing is they can usually see their friends parents that way but not their own. One way many children fail to grow up and a way that can cause a lot of problems for both parents and children when the kids are adults.
    One advantage of being more open is it presents the opportunity to express values of more depth than NO! and of making sex a normal part of being a human being with ways of explaining the pitfalls, joys, cautions to observe and reasons to wait. In short, shape an informed, well rounded human being.
Well stated. Thank you for sharing your opinion. I appreciate it!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 5:00 pm

    Quoting amwfcurious:
    I have always believed that the only person who can be the true judge on whether another person is a good or bad parent is their children. [No, not when they are still a child but once they become an adult, and even perhaps after they have their own children.]

    At least that's how I viewed myself. I don't give a damn that I won't let me kids go out partying when they should be studying. They are my kids, they are my responsibilities and mine alone.

    Having said that, you and you alone should know whether you are holding up your end of the responsibilities as a parent.
That is a great perspective my friend. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion.


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 5:01 pm

    Quoting bubbacjr56:
    Well he is talking to make it in his mind it is ok to be on this site. As long it dose not interfere with your family time and attending to your kids there is a lot more bad things we all could be doing.
That is very true Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:41 pm

    Quoting maybejustrex4:
    Tell me again how you didn't expect comments?

    You have of course heard of man being pilloried for his dick pics -- Anthony Weiner (seriously, how could this guy have been the poster child for poor control of dick pics). To be fair though, I don't recall his parenting being called into question.

    If you were (a) fucking, (b) talking about fucking, (c) displaying pictures of your self either fucking or being actively and overtly sexual anywhere where you would expect your kids would see you, there is a problem. Otherwise, everything that guy said is bullshit and should be ignored.

    You want a scary bit of perspective? The NY Times has a story today about a woman who has been arrested in Saudi Arabia for going out in public in a very demure skirt and bare midriff shirt. To hell with that kind of close minded woman hating crap. Thank you for calling out your asshole correspondent for his nonsense.
Because it was a venting post I guess!! LOL I so appreciate you opinion on this matter Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:41 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree that is very disturbing!! Thank you for your comment!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:42 pm

    Quoting pointman2016:
    You will be considered a bad parent by some one, somewhere no matter what you do or say.
That is very true!! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:45 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    In reply to your venting:

    It stated..Hey I am not trying to be rude ... So if he's truely not trying to be rude, then he , himself, is venting a feeling of his own. Maybe he had that "Madonna complex",- the inability to maintain, or have, sexual arousal within a committed, loving relationship.

    but why do you post those kind of pictures if you are a mother? .... Being a mother, or being a father, really has nothing to do with ones sexuality, but their attitude does. "Attitude" can put a damper on all kinds of fun for women,- like "I won't have sex with a man my son's age". The mood killing "Attitude" a man could have , is that "Madonna complex". Once he's reproduced with his wife, now only another woman can arouse him to full attention.

    I am concerned for your children. I will spread your nastiness... That doesn't make any sense at all.

    In the back of my mind I have had the same question. ... Maybe with some folks, after they have completed their obligatory reproduction for society, sex becomes a matter of seriousness, no longer fun, but only to have completed a purpose. To reproduce.

    If a woman chooses to share her freedom of sexual expression does that make them a bad parent? ...No. Person first. Parent second. The exception; the safety of the children, in that case, "Parent first" , "Own wellbeing second".

    However I have never heard of a man being questioned for his parenting skills for posting a cock pic.. ... Neither have I. Probably for the same reason [income] a man is objectified sexually, so he would be judged [objectified] as a fit or poor parent based on his income.

    Am I not allowed to have a sex life?. I just do not get it !! Do you?? ... He may be attempting to project his "Madonna complex" onto you, a woman. I don't know what that would be called, "Hercules complex"? I don't know.
I was hoping you would reply to this post. I was not aware of the madonna complex so Thank you. I also agree that the safety of the children is the most important factor. If they are it should not be a issue, Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:47 pm

    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    Your sexual it and how to express it has nothing to do with your parenting skills.

    However, open and honest communication about sexual issues, with your children as they become adults; will set them on their future path. Far better they should know that sex is beautiful , than to be brought up thinking there is anything nasty or dirty about it.

    As you said, it is a part of human life, and I believe never discussing it does nothing more than raise a new generation of puritanical and judgmental prudes. Of course, how much you share with your children is entirely up to you, and you need not offer any explanation or justification here.

    There will always be a double standard, as long as young men are encouraged to "sow their wild oats" while young women are admonished to "keep their legs closed".

    Just witness the news stories of a high schooler being expelled from Prom, because her dress and the manner of dance caused the male chaperones to have "unclean thoughts". These grown should have been the ones who were Sent Home.
Thnak you so much for your opinion. You made some excellent points! I apreciate you commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:48 pm

    Quoting seahoss5455:
    darling you have a right to be upset and yes there is a double standard, and hopefully mankind can grow out of it.
    I believe you set one fantastic standard for women to aspire to, thank you for all you share with us
I do mot know if that is true..LOL but Thnak you


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:49 pm

    Quoting tyedyeh:
    Interesting topic. My views are simply as long as you do nothing openly apparent to your children, anything that would disgrace or harm them, your sexual life is up to you. In other words keep open sex away from your family and those close to them. Just my view.
I have the same view as well. Some things you keep seperate! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 6:50 pm

    Quoting wellhung8inch4:
    You are an amazing woman....I am offended by this man's email!! I have no doubt you are an amazing woman, I have no doubt that you are an amazing Mother!! You deserve to live your life as you want!! it is none of his business!!! In fact if he is following your blog on Meelp, isn't he the proverbial "pot calling the kettle black"???? I see you as an amazing woman who loves who she is, proud of who she is and loves her life. I respect you for how you feel about yourself , how you view yourself, who you are, and your values in life!!! I am sure you are one amazing Mom!!!

    You are an amazing, strong woman!!! Don't let this one man's selfish and stupid opinion bring you down one bit.......I think you are so awesome!!!
Thank youl I always appreciate your kind words!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:03 pm

    Quoting tmacshane26:
    The the first thing I would like to know is what business is of his what you do with your life. If you so choose to post pics, videos, or perform on cam that is your business not his. He had no reason to send you a email and go off on you like that. I can understand he was concerned for you and your children, but again it is not of his concern. You have the right to do what you please, you are not hurting anyone. Yes you are allowed to have a sex life. Your a divorced mother, so you are allowed to have fun. Like you said your not having strange men come over to your house and have sex with you.
I would like to know that too Shane..LOL


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:05 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree if you make the right choices thhis should not be a issue Thank you so much for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:06 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Why should you be made to feel guilty? He doesn't know you and has no right to tell you that you shouldn't be on this site. Your children are not his concern.
Thank you citizen Foe some reason I got annoyed with his email


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:07 pm

    Quoting wellhung8inch4:
    Sorry, I have to chime in again....... I'm still pissed of at this guy for what he said to you!! Your life is not his to dictate to you how to live it!! You are an amazing woman, proud of how she lives her life.....how dare he try to take that away from you!!

    Thank you for being who you are, I admire you for who you are.....NEVER let anybody ever dictate to you how to live your life!! ALWAYS remember.......you are one hell of an amazing woman!!!!
It is okay Thank you..LOL


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:09 pm

    Quoting LikeToEnjoyU16:
    You are right there is a double standard. I think the key is that if you are showing you sexuality on here and not posting or flaunting it in front of you kids. It is your right to express yourself.

    A person who may just be bringing men or women in and out of their homes for sex and multiple partners in front of their kids as a kids role model sets their children up for a warped sense on relationships.

    I hope that you have an open communication relationship with your kids and if not that you work towards this. Able to discuss anything with them. I guess my question is to the man who voiced his concerns is why is he on this site let alone looking at your profile if he does not approve.
I would never do that. I am totally against it to tell you truth, Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:10 pm

    Quoting oldbstrd55:
    Some people have no clue about life. They have a need to judge others to take eyes off of them. Aren't most of the women here mother's? I must be a big pervert, I have grandkids.
If you are a pervert I am too!! LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:11 pm

    Quoting CeriosEros:
    It's the Madonna/whore complex. A lot of guys have trouble with it. Once you become a mother they don't see you as a sexual being anymore. You become a vessel in which life comes into being. When you express your sexuality then it throws a monkey wrench in their idea of what a mother is. Mother's don't express any form of sexuality so that must mean you are a bad one. That is not true you can be the greatest mother in the world and express your sexuality any way you see fit
I was not aware of the Madonna complex until this evening. Thank you


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:13 pm

    Quoting luvexotic:
    You being a sexual woman does NOT make you a bad parent. Like you say, why aren't men treated the same. In fact I have known some bad parents in my time, and you wouldn't have called them sexual beings - some in fact were so prim and proper, you felt if they bent over they would snap in two.
    If he thinks that your lifestyle (or anyone else here for that matter) makes you a bad parent, then he isn't worth the time to chat to, let alone meet. Just my opinion
I agree these are two seperate things unless you are neglecting or surrounding your children to this atmospere!! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:14 pm

    Quoting wantaplay8:
    I agree with you that parents have sex lives and can be great parents for their children.
    That kind of 2 way opinion person pisses me off too. Almost all of the women on this site have raised children or are raising children. So what would he be doing if they all followed his opinion and left the site? LOL What a kill joy he is.
    I am a pervert and a parent that has raised three good children and those children are raising good children.
    Do like many posters have said ,,block or ignore the person. Live your life the way you choose to.
Thank you I appreciate you kind words wantaplay


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:16 pm

    Quoting sexydad1167:
    More than likely he is only here to give people a hard time for their choices. He is not actively looking for sex or a person. Sad he has so much time to waste or doesn't have much of a life that he resorts to harassing people for their choices in life. No Absolutely not does it make you a bad parent you are right if you were not a sexual being your kids would not be here. Same thing for the rest of us, some just more than others. What you choose to do in your "me" time is your business as long as its not physically or mentally hurting your kids. I assume they do not know you are on here and that you may potentially meet a guy for sex or show your lovely body to us perverts. Now i will say this it can be a bad thing. if you were bringing home an new guy 3-5 times a week parading him around the house in front of your kids making so much noise it wakes the kids or they see the sex taking place. Depending on how old they are that could have a devastating effect on there psyche. I have been divorced since my son was 3-1/2. he is now 18. During that time he has only met 4 women. I have had a lot more than that in my life since then. If I have chosen to meet someone for a sexual relationship not a dating relationship there was no need for him to even be aware of that persons existence. If it became more, sure i would have eventually introduced them. I was not going to parade a whole bunch of women in front of my son. let him get attached and then they vanished for some reason. If he met them that meant i wanted them to be around for a while and were important enough to me for the 2 of them to meet. he has had his share of heartbreak when i had a relationship end too. So while i do not post naked pictures of myself anywhere on the internet, I am here for the same reason most of us are here for. Does that make me a bad parent? I say No because I separate my private "me" time from my son's time and there is no reason for the 2 to be intermixed. He is off to college in a couple months so i will have a lot more of that "me" time and don't have to worry about him showing up unannounced. I have a whole other bunch of worries to deal with now but that is another subject.
He is just a troll that wants to mess with people I guess.


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/19/2017 7:17 pm

    Quoting 59bcvintage:
    Everybody finds their own way and as long as it does not negatively affect your kids then it is not a problem and is no one else's business
I agree. I found his statement annoying ..


author51 56F  
71371 posts
7/20/2017 1:38 am

On Mother's Day I posted photos as usual celebrating the fact that even though we are Mother's, we are women first.In order to become a Mother, it takes sex with your hubby, partner or lover.Not always though as invitro works as well.

After I posted photos celebrating womanhood, there were blogs written about it or any woman who showed her body that day.

To each their own as we all have our own opinions on it but showing off what we should be proud of on a sex site and being a parent are two different things entirely.

We Mother's are human beings first and foremost and sexual ones at that.

People here tend to miss that point entirely like the gent did in his email and another blogger did to me and other women that day.

We all have different sides to our character.Our Mom face with our children,and the love we have for them.
The love of ourselves as well be it our personalities, our ethics, standards and morals we still have regardless of showing off our bodies here.

Like most parents,I taught my children well and they have flourished as adults.I did my job, raised my kids,they do not live at home and have their own lives.

Now it is Me time.My time to let out my wild side,do what I want and when I want to.Which led me to this site and becoming an exhibitionist who is proud of her body,the one who bore three successful children.

Those that matter do not mind and those that mind do not matter my friend..

One can never have enough JOY in their life...


Shots30 43M  
2145 posts
7/20/2017 3:27 am

I don't think expressing yourself sexually makes you a bad parent at all. We all have needs and express ourselves differently. As long as you are not exposing the world to your children, then I think it is all AOK.

I agree that it's a double standard for men and women. Men won't be thought of so negatively as women.

Keep doing what you are doing and enjoying yourself. I am sure you are raising great kids!

Cheers!


Sh0wMeM0re 43M
23 posts
7/21/2017 3:09 pm

Yep! I completely agree with you! His comment was completely chauvinistic! People need to open their minds a little more and get rid of all the taboo!

I guess the 'gentleman' (with some pun and pitty) needs to rid himself of much moral repression... His intentions may have been good, but his perspective is completely misguided!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:25 pm

    Quoting  :

I did not think they where related as well Thank you for your opinion Scott!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:26 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you!! I do not know why I let it bother me!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:27 pm

    Quoting  :

beautiful words as always..Thank you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:28 pm

    Quoting bigblackman21221:
    I've noticed from friends and comments I've seen in certain blogs that there seems to be a lot of hate going around in this place.

    Is it the fucking heat?

    All that negativity is coming from a small group of people that seeming hate every damn body.

    Please don't let them get to you. There are plenty of people around here that adore you, focus on us.

    I know that's a lot of people so you can just focus on me if it makes things easier.

    HAHAHAHA!!!!



Thank you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:29 pm

    Quoting pacnwlover42:
    No, it doesn't make you a bad parent at all. The labeling needs to stop. I am very sexual myself and I'm sure that I get labeled as shallow and rude for what I express and the pics I show.
I agree the labeling does need to stop! Thank you for the comment!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:30 pm

    Quoting reallyready46:
    Guess my first thought was, is he a Dad? Then what is he doing on here? I mean why stop at pictures, if you are on here you must be bad. Another example of the big double standard. Women are judged one way guys another.
I agree!! Thank you for your comment!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:32 pm

    Quoting SirlickalotNM:
    That guy who criticized you sounds like a asshat. He has some damn nerve.
    Most times I would advise you to ignore such a jerk but in this case sending him a big fuck off reply followed by a block would be appropriate.
That was my first reaction but I decided to take the high road!! LOL Im so happy to see you. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:32 pm

    Quoting Story435:
    No that is not right you can still be a very good parent.
    Butch
Thank you Butch!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:33 pm

That is what I think!! LOL Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:34 pm

    Quoting Milfdiver2k:
    Send him 15p and telll him to fast somebody that gives a fuck πŸ˜œπŸ‘…πŸ˜œ
LOL Do I have the option just to send one!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:35 pm

    Quoting wjb1958:
    Our sexual fantasies and desires have nothing with parenting skills. He is trying to justify his being on this site
I nevr looked at that way!! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:35 pm

    Quoting PyschoLoco:
    I didn't know you had a kid. Congratulations. While I'm not above being guilty of double standards, this is not one of them. You're allowed to be as nasty as you wish to be. Children shouldn't change that
LOL Thank you


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:36 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you I appreciate that longago!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:37 pm

    Quoting author51:
    On Mother's Day I posted photos as usual celebrating the fact that even though we are Mother's, we are women first.In order to become a Mother, it takes sex with your hubby, partner or lover.Not always though as invitro works as well.

    After I posted photos celebrating womanhood, there were blogs written about it or any woman who showed her body that day.

    To each their own as we all have our own opinions on it but showing off what we should be proud of on a sex site and being a parent are two different things entirely.

    We Mother's are human beings first and foremost and sexual ones at that.

    People here tend to miss that point entirely like the gent did in his email and another blogger did to me and other women that day.

    We all have different sides to our character.Our Mom face with our children,and the love we have for them.
    The love of ourselves as well be it our personalities, our ethics, standards and morals we still have regardless of showing off our bodies here.

    Like most parents,I taught my children well and they have flourished as adults.I did my job, raised my kids,they do not live at home and have their own lives.

    Now it is Me time.My time to let out my wild side,do what I want and when I want to.Which led me to this site and becoming an exhibitionist who is proud of her body,the one who bore three successful children.

    Those that matter do not mind and those that mind do not matter my friend..
Thank you friend. It is hard to have a thick skin all the time.


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:38 pm

    Quoting Shots30:
    I don't think expressing yourself sexually makes you a bad parent at all. We all have needs and express ourselves differently. As long as you are not exposing the world to your children, then I think it is all AOK.

    I agree that it's a double standard for men and women. Men won't be thought of so negatively as women.

    Keep doing what you are doing and enjoying yourself. I am sure you are raising great kids!

    Cheers!
I agree with your terms. Thank you!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/21/2017 3:39 pm

    Quoting Sh0wMeM0re:
    Yep! I completely agree with you! His comment was completely chauvinistic! People need to open their minds a little more and get rid of all the taboo!

    I guess the 'gentleman' (with some pun and pitty) needs to rid himself of much moral repression... His intentions may have been good, but his perspective is completely misguided!
Thank you for your opinion. I agree with you. I appreciate you commenting!


Wantscouple4funn 49M  
53 posts
7/22/2017 1:21 am

Your a sweet great looking lady and you should be able to dress how you like! You should be proud your a great mom and look do tremendous and dress in what makes you feel great and or sexy about yourself! Don't worry about what others think and you do what makes you happy because you Seem to have everything going for you and many times the brain power of those crude and criticizing you! You go girl and stand proud and show great mothers can be and are gorgeous and everything else!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
7/22/2017 3:47 pm

    Quoting Wantscouple4funn:
    Your a sweet great looking lady and you should be able to dress how you like! You should be proud your a great mom and look do tremendous and dress in what makes you feel great and or sexy about yourself! Don't worry about what others think and you do what makes you happy because you Seem to have everything going for you and many times the brain power of those crude and criticizing you! You go girl and stand proud and show great mothers can be and are gorgeous and everything else!!
Thank you so much I appreciate your kind words!!


Tez74r 45M

7/27/2017 2:36 pm

any good parent would know where the boundaries lay and would never cross them. I've no doubt that you put your children above everything, as all us parents do, but that does not mean life stops for a couple of decades. sexual needs and desires continue, providing its safe can't see why there's a problem. maybe the judgmental moron needs to realize a few simple facts, a huge proportion of this community are parents, and by far the majority are decent respectful people.


hotmamamm 43F  
15560 posts
1/7/2018 1:19 pm

    Quoting Tez74r:
    any good parent would know where the boundaries lay and would never cross them. I've no doubt that you put your children above everything, as all us parents do, but that does not mean life stops for a couple of decades. sexual needs and desires continue, providing its safe can't see why there's a problem. maybe the judgmental moron needs to realize a few simple facts, a huge proportion of this community are parents, and by far the majority are decent respectful people.
Yes. I agree boundaries are very important. I for one would not like to surround my children with that kind of atmosphere. I am sorry for my late reply. I'm finally catching up in my blog and I would like to thank you for your coming. Hope life is well!


wildthoughts 63M
949 posts
7/15/2018 3:26 pm

I agree hes trying to shame others when he's doing the very same thing . But in no case is someone a "BAD" parent because they are seeking affection from other adults.
Keep it private amount other adults and discrete away from minor children that as much as you can do .


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