When Meeting Someone For Your First Intimate Encounter???  

hotmamamm 43F  
11154 posts
5/11/2017 5:29 pm
When Meeting Someone For Your First Intimate Encounter???


When meeting someone for your first intimate encounter are you someone who prefers to host, not to host or meet at a mutual location? Or maybe you are someone who does not have a preference either way? I do not have sex at the first meet however if we decide to meet again for adult fun I prefer a hotel/motel as a mutual location. Sharing my home where I raise my kids with someone who is still technically a stranger seems preposterous to me. Going to his home could be just as dangerous. A mutual location seems safe until we build that trust factor. It seems logical. What are your thoughts? What do you prefer ? Are you someone who likes to host, not to host, meet at a mutual location for your first intimate encounter?

hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/11/2017 5:30 pm


slutsubHUNTER 63M  
114 posts
5/11/2017 5:33 pm

Whatever makes you comfortable is fine by me. After all, in any encounter when people are at ease it makes for better communication and you can focus on the person you're meeting. NO Brainer...


milesdeep13905 57M
686 posts
5/11/2017 5:36 pm

I like a mutual location . Feel it is best and safest for both involved. I am also a hotel guy.


plumbboi 26M  
148 posts
5/11/2017 5:36 pm

Mutual location or their place after extensive dialogue

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right4me32 51M  
10 posts
5/11/2017 5:38 pm

Dinner and drinks first, maybe even a few dates before moving on to a physical relationship.It's nice to be able to converse with your mate otherwise it's just a physical act and doesn't mean all that much. Definitely a nice hotel until there's mutual trust.


DDreams524 66M  
966 posts
5/11/2017 5:39 pm

I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.


Han54boat 66M
11669 posts
5/11/2017 5:40 pm

Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice


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dec47 72M
810 posts
5/11/2017 5:40 pm

Mutual comfort and safety are most important to a mutual time and location for adult pleasures and fun


benard69 63M/63F  
4264 posts
5/11/2017 5:42 pm

Always a Mutual Location...


xptsing 48M
251 posts
5/11/2017 5:51 pm

Somewhere where we both feel comfortable. A neutral ground would be fine if you felt uncertain coming to my place.
It would not feel right to go to your place where you have young children. And it would not sound right if you had asked me to come to your place.


Looknfind18 66M  
3866 posts
5/11/2017 5:59 pm

like you Jeanie, I prefer a hotel until I get to know them better.


Lonely16842 54M  
775 posts
5/11/2017 6:11 pm

I think a mutual location is best


Darkcolors 35M
28 posts
5/11/2017 6:12 pm

Without comfort, the sex won't be good. Gotta be comfortable and build that trust as you suggested, indeed. So neutral ground is ideal and yes, a hotel would be neutral.

Me, well, the last time I hooked up with somebody from this site.... well we just did it out in the streets; neutral enough for ya?


HornyRandi 48M
49 posts
5/11/2017 6:37 pm

Hotel is probably best because you never know what is going to happen.


frerrr22 59M
3 posts
5/11/2017 6:37 pm

It looks like you have this figured out babe.
For me...the whole idea of meeting someone I met online frightens me to my core. However, it is the new world.
If I can get comfortable with a woman I meet here before I actually meet her in person that's a big plus. I'm so afraid of showing up somewhere and not seeing the person I hope to see.
Of course, I want her to be comfortable with me too.
Then, I would choose a neutral highly visible location like a casino as the first meeting place.
Does that sound good?


Red_Elf 46F
618 posts
5/11/2017 6:49 pm

I trust my judgement when I meet people and I do not host. Either they do, or it's a no go. Teens in da haus!

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notsure1949 70M
8456 posts
5/11/2017 6:50 pm

a mutual agreed upon location is best to meet, met someone once, all she wanted was to go to a hotel and get it on, we chatted, then parted ways, and after chatting a few more time, she still wanted a room and said goodbye


Shelovesher4x4 52F
3 posts
5/11/2017 7:36 pm

Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..


Shelovesher4x4 52F
3 posts
5/11/2017 7:39 pm

Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..


FMAOPLS 66F  
26490 posts
5/11/2017 7:42 pm

Mutually agreed upon hotel/motel.

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wrMercury 41M  
1524 posts
5/11/2017 7:47 pm

I do not host myself for various reasons. I have met in neutral locations a couple of times which typically is just a lets meet up and set up another date to play if we want. But I have gone to other people's homes first if we have talked for a while and things seem okay.


SoNiceinAshland 49M/48F  
28 posts
5/11/2017 7:49 pm

Meeting in public is always best. Then a hotel works if our friend/s can't host.


leftoverture69 55M
152 posts
5/11/2017 7:49 pm

if we want sex who cares but not at each others homes however for me before I have thought about sex we are already in a relationship before even our first date because we would have had hours and hours of conversation ....so on that note first sex has to happen away from of course a family unit that would know whats going on!


porterpiper1 52F
3739 posts
5/11/2017 7:54 pm

I say a mutual location, people live in this oh love at first site or turn on at first world, I say safety at first site


DoctorBooty 38M  
6211 posts
5/11/2017 8:06 pm

Most comfortable for me is to talk a good bit before meeting in person, so that some level of trust is built up to carry into the meet, which I strongly prefer be a public place. If it goes well, I will host or we can do a hotel room.


Shots30 43M
2209 posts
5/11/2017 8:16 pm

I am comfortable meeting at their place or mutual location. Most often it is at a mutual location.

Cheers!


LikeToEnjoyU16 63M  
196 posts
5/11/2017 9:42 pm

I agree fully with you to meet with no expectations at mutual spot. Then when you decide to become intimate an hotel or motel works best. When would you like to meet me LOL


Trapper69 62G  
2193 posts
5/11/2017 9:56 pm

Men don't usually face the dangers that women encounter when meeting strangers. However, bad things have happened to men when meeting someone new for the first time. I never rush into anything when I meet women and couples online. I get to know them very well....not just sexual information, but also info about their everyday lives. I have a two trusted friends who are very discreet. When I am meeting a woman or couple for the first time, I always tell them who I'm meeting with. Should I become a victim of a nutcase, my friends have the info that can be used to catch the people. I learned this from a couple many years ago. I've found that a lot of men, women and couples do the same thing..... Most couples that I've played with usually host. I do host at times, and I've also used hotel rooms.


madan4fun 61M
14 posts
5/12/2017 12:08 am

familiar/mutual location would be better option.. leading to composed interaction that culminate in mutually satisfying encounter


Joepasto 45M
749 posts
5/12/2017 12:38 am

for me, whatever is more comfortable for the girl, but if I can choose I would prefer in my home.
besitos


greekphilosopher 56M
4084 posts
5/12/2017 2:49 am

When I got divorced, I stayed in the house with my then 18 yo daughter for a year and a bit, before it was sold. She met all my dates, those who came home with me. I met women in hotels when I was travelling to their town. If they were local, mine or theirs was just as good, and cheaper. I can understand if there are young kids in someones house, the limitations. I did not introduce any of my dates to my younger one, and no dating at the times she was staying. I do not have a standard way to meet people. Whatever suits each case.


goodatpoetry2 69M
16571 posts
5/12/2017 2:55 am

It depends on how well we got to know each other before deciding to get intimate.
Of course, as a man, I have less to worry about.


1salesman3 64M
4270 posts
5/12/2017 4:27 am

Mutual location.


AlvinBooth 65M
5475 posts
5/12/2017 4:39 am

I prefer to host so I don't have to drag all my meds with me.

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rskinney62 57M  
2879 posts
5/12/2017 4:46 am

You are a wise woman Jeanie! I have not met anyone for anything but lunch, but agree with your thoughts.

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mc_justmc 59M  
4742 posts
5/12/2017 5:23 am

wherever she is comfortable, I prefer a hotel.


Resident_Bitch 102M/102F  
9057 posts
5/12/2017 5:41 am

I used to be pretty flexible about it, depending on the person I was meeting.....but since being pretty much used/controlled by the guys, then slated when I disagree and aren't doing everything their way, I'm going to meet for a 'non sex date'....if they try to make excuses and cut that out, the expectation of sex straight off, then I'll be moving on.....plus, those who expect me to host at my home, but they aren't going to at theirs, or willing to stump up for shared cost of a room....
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Story435 71M
2674 posts
5/12/2017 6:15 am

The ladies that I have met on her we were at a place to eat and had a good time. No sex with two of them at that time the other lady we had some fun in her car with a lot of hot playing. My gf we met for the first time in a hotel for a night of very hot sex!
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pocogato12 67F  
27200 posts
5/12/2017 6:38 am

Mutual neutral location is my preference always

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CampoGirl 53F  
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5/12/2017 2:07 pm

Neutral place

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ProfPlayful 55M
3859 posts
5/12/2017 9:32 pm

I have a great place and it's fun to fantasize about having fun here, but I would not actually propose such an adventure.

If I had the opportunity to spend the night with a woman I would select the most luxurious hotel available. I want room service, a private Jacuzzi, and a bed that feels like angel wings.

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wjb1958 61M  
3645 posts
5/12/2017 9:42 pm

Meet at a mutual place


venator51 68M
27 posts
5/13/2017 5:57 am

First, you must actually meet in a safe mutual location with really no expectation of sex at that time. Endless email, pix, calls do not really make the best introductions. Look into each others eyes, listen carefully to each other to see where and what this relationship is to each party. Body language speaks volumes and can really fill in all the unchecked squares - or run the other way.

We use age, certain body parts, build, and the most flattering pictures as qualifications for partners. Chemistry, mental ease, sensuality, or just being a real sex magnet can make a big difference. If none of this makes either party hot and at each then parts ways with a handshake and good feelings. No harm, no foul.

If this looks like a good deal, then I'm looking for a date in a neutral, private, safe place for both parties in a motel/hotel for at least a few times. Relax and enjoy! After that, well we are both consenting adults.


danboy321108 45M
23 posts
5/13/2017 8:39 am

i don't have any objection in hosting,i've done it before,but it all depends on the relations your looking for,if it's only sexual encounters,then i'd go to a motel,but if it's for a long term relation,i'd like to host and cook her a home made diner,to sweep her of her feet.


author51 56F  
76168 posts
5/13/2017 12:59 pm

The first meet is at a restaurant for lunch or dinner then if there is a second one like you I do not host nor would go to their house unless we had been seeing each other for a while so yes would be a hotel/motel.......................................................................................................................

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mjb595 48M  
175 posts
5/13/2017 1:32 pm

I don't have a preference. I've done all 3 options and am open to whatever makes my partner most comfortable because if they aren't comfortable its not going to be fun for anyone.


sjevem 53M  
34 posts
5/13/2017 2:05 pm

I usually like to host. I feel more comfortable in my surroundings, I feel if your looking for a long term it's more intimate than a motel. If you just want to fuck than a mutual site is more than adequate!


wantaplay8 66M
5607 posts
5/13/2017 5:30 pm

A mutual agreed location,,neither home. Sex that would depend on the minute; but sex is not expected.


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/13/2017 9:30 pm

    Quoting slutsubHUNTER:
    Whatever makes you comfortable is fine by me. After all, in any encounter when people are at ease it makes for better communication and you can focus on the person you're meeting. NO Brainer...
I agree . Being comfortable is very important. Thank you for stopping by and for your comment.


Stralis252 64M  
43 posts
5/14/2017 3:15 am

I like to host, however i am more than agreeable to what ever the other person is most comfortable with, and to what makes them feel safe and secure


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:12 am

    Quoting Horny_Cat68:
    First meet for me is a public location, place to eat, mall, something, first sexual encounter is at a motel, because like you say it's more safe, and knowing my luck if I let someone come to my house that first time, I'd wind up with a fatal attraction scenario
Yes fatal attraction is one of my biggest fears..LOL


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:13 am

    Quoting milesdeep13905:
    I like a mutual location . Feel it is best and safest for both involved. I am also a hotel guy.
hotels are fun..lol Thnak you for stopping by and sharing your opinion


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:14 am

    Quoting  :

I agree there is something extra naughty about playing in a hotel..lol Thank you for stopping by and commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:15 am

    Quoting plumbboi:
    Mutual location or their place after extensive dialogue
Thank you for stopping by and stating your opinion


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:16 am

    Quoting right4me32:
    Dinner and drinks first, maybe even a few dates before moving on to a physical relationship.It's nice to be able to converse with your mate otherwise it's just a physical act and doesn't mean all that much. Definitely a nice hotel until there's mutual trust.
I agree I believe physical attraction only goes so far. Thank you so mmuch for stopping by and sharing your opinion


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 5:17 am

    Quoting guy23010:
    I've done all 3 scenarios- my place, their place, and hotel/motel.
    I'm good, generally, with any of the 3. That said, a mutual spot is probably best until there is a bond and the trust is there.
I agree with you!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:46 pm

    Quoting DDreams524:
    I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.
I agree with you that is my preference as well..Thank you so much for sharing your opinion and stopping by!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:47 pm

    Quoting Han54boat:
    Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice
Oh I love showers and big tubs..lol Nice to see you mt friend!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:48 pm

    Quoting dec47:
    Mutual comfort and safety are most important to a mutual time and location for adult pleasures and fun
comfort is very important.Nice to see you dec


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:49 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree I prefer that as well. It is about comfort and trust. That is very important. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:50 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    Always a Mutual Location...
My thought exactly benard


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/14/2017 2:51 pm

    Quoting  :

It would be the logical choice!!


citizen4722 61M  
62037 posts
5/15/2017 12:45 pm

Nearly all of my first intimate encounters have been at a mutual location.


RedStevens 64M
4 posts
5/15/2017 5:29 pm

Absolutely, a nice hotel, with room service and a great big hot tub, with maybe a casino downstairs for in-between times. post 3982980


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:24 pm

    Quoting DDreams524:
    I prefer a mutual agreed location for coffee, or lunch on a first meeting. Odds are that will not have sex on that meeting but I also will not rule it out. A hotel or motel room in a moderately priced hotel or motel for the first sexual encounter. If we like each other after that then we can discuss other options for me possibly hosting or not. I have burned in the past and I am looking for a possible relationship are getting to know each other.
Mutual location is always a good option. I also have been burned in the past as well


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:26 pm

    Quoting Han54boat:
    Maybe so.... First meet is at a nice hotel with room service and nice bathroom having nice shower or extra big tub. Just nice
Ohh..Love shower and tub play!! Thank you for stopping by and commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:26 pm

    Quoting xptsing:
    Somewhere where we both feel comfortable. A neutral ground would be fine if you felt uncertain coming to my place.
    It would not feel right to go to your place where you have young children. And it would not sound right if you had asked me to come to your place.
Being comfortable is a good thing. Thank you so much for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:27 pm

    Quoting Looknfind18:
    like you Jeanie, I prefer a hotel until I get to know them better.
I think that is a smart idea


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:28 pm

    Quoting mumnatureisback:
    I'm agree with you. Mutual location. I also live in a border city and insist that they meet me in Canada. Going to a foreign country (the US) to meet a stranger just seems like trouble waiting to happen.
It is just a safe idea for both parties. Thank yoy so much for stopping by and commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:28 pm

I agree..Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/16/2017 12:29 pm

    Quoting Darkcolors:
    Without comfort, the sex won't be good. Gotta be comfortable and build that trust as you suggested, indeed. So neutral ground is ideal and yes, a hotel would be neutral.

    Me, well, the last time I hooked up with somebody from this site.... well we just did it out in the streets; neutral enough for ya?
That is a very valid point!! Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:07 pm

    Quoting  :

I agree with you Lee..THank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:08 pm

    Quoting HornyRandi:
    Hotel is probably best because you never know what is going to happen.
Those are my thoughts exactly!! Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:09 pm

    Quoting frerrr22:
    It looks like you have this figured out babe.
    For me...the whole idea of meeting someone I met online frightens me to my core. However, it is the new world.
    If I can get comfortable with a woman I meet here before I actually meet her in person that's a big plus. I'm so afraid of showing up somewhere and not seeing the person I hope to see.
    Of course, I want her to be comfortable with me too.
    Then, I would choose a neutral highly visible location like a casino as the first meeting place.
    Does that sound good?
Yes it took me some time to figure it out. A bad experience can do that!! Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:10 pm

    Quoting Red_Elf:
    I trust my judgement when I meet people and I do not host. Either they do, or it's a no go. Teens in da haus!
I hear ya friend!! LOL Thank you so much for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:11 pm

    Quoting notsure1949:
    a mutual agreed upon location is best to meet, met someone once, all she wanted was to go to a hotel and get it on, we chatted, then parted ways, and after chatting a few more time, she still wanted a room and said goodbye
mutual location is always best!! Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 1:12 pm

    Quoting Shelovesher4x4:
    Before you meet there should be a good conversation about what each person is looking for and pics should be shared to see if the metal attraction is there ..if they won't show you who they are then they are hiding someone ..sex on the first meet depends if you are so in awhile over the person that you just need to please him or let him please you..usually this will decide if you will also see this person again ..
converstation and communication is the key to a successful meet. Thank you so much for commenting!!


HawkerKing01 56M
14 posts
5/17/2017 1:50 pm

A mutual location usually makes the most sense until you have developed trust. That being said I wouldn't say no if one of the other two options were required!...lol


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:33 pm

    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    Mutually agreed upon hotel/motel.
Is is the safer choice. Thank you so much for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:35 pm

    Quoting wrMercury:
    I do not host myself for various reasons. I have met in neutral locations a couple of times which typically is just a lets meet up and set up another date to play if we want. But I have gone to other people's homes first if we have talked for a while and things seem okay.
I have a few times myself. For some reasons I prefer a mutual location. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:36 pm

    Quoting SoNiceinAshland:
    Meeting in public is always best. Then a hotel works if our friend/s can't host.
I agree meeting in public is best. What if they were the complete opposite than you expected..lol Thank you so much for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:40 pm

    Quoting leftoverture69:
    if we want sex who cares but not at each others homes however for me before I have thought about sex we are already in a relationship before even our first date because we would have had hours and hours of conversation ....so on that note first sex has to happen away from of course a family unit that would know whats going on!
Totally understandable THank you so much for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:41 pm

    Quoting porterpiper1:
    I say a mutual location, people live in this oh love at first site or turn on at first world, I say safety at first site
I agree with you. For both parties. Thank you so much for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:42 pm

    Quoting DoctorBooty:
    Most comfortable for me is to talk a good bit before meeting in person, so that some level of trust is built up to carry into the meet, which I strongly prefer be a public place. If it goes well, I will host or we can do a hotel room.
Fair enough. Thank you so much for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:42 pm

    Quoting Shots30:
    I am comfortable meeting at their place or mutual location. Most often it is at a mutual location.

    Cheers!
I agree with you..lol..


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:43 pm

    Quoting LikeToEnjoyU16:
    I agree fully with you to meet with no expectations at mutual spot. Then when you decide to become intimate an hotel or motel works best. When would you like to meet me LOL
Yes I agree no expectations. Then you can not get dissapointed LOL Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 4:46 pm

    Quoting Trapper69:
    Men don't usually face the dangers that women encounter when meeting strangers. However, bad things have happened to men when meeting someone new for the first time. I never rush into anything when I meet women and couples online. I get to know them very well....not just sexual information, but also info about their everyday lives. I have a two trusted friends who are very discreet. When I am meeting a woman or couple for the first time, I always tell them who I'm meeting with. Should I become a victim of a nutcase, my friends have the info that can be used to catch the people. I learned this from a couple many years ago. I've found that a lot of men, women and couples do the same thing..... Most couples that I've played with usually host. I do host at times, and I've also used hotel rooms.
Yes there is a lot of nut cases. LOL Thank you so much for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 6:43 pm

    Quoting madan4fun:
    familiar/mutual location would be better option.. leading to composed interaction that culminate in mutually satisfying encounter
I think it is thebetter option as well! Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 6:46 pm

    Quoting Joepasto:
    for me, whatever is more comfortable for the girl, but if I can choose I would prefer in my home.
    besitos
That is understandable! Nice to see you Joe Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 6:47 pm

    Quoting  :

That is very respectful! Thank you so much for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/17/2017 6:50 pm

    Quoting greekphilosopher:
    When I got divorced, I stayed in the house with my then 18 yo daughter for a year and a bit, before it was sold. She met all my dates, those who came home with me. I met women in hotels when I was travelling to their town. If they were local, mine or theirs was just as good, and cheaper. I can understand if there are young kids in someones house, the limitations. I did not introduce any of my dates to my younger one, and no dating at the times she was staying. I do not have a standard way to meet people. Whatever suits each case.
I do agree with you .Every case is different! Thank you for commenting


Torrid7 68T
497 posts
5/17/2017 7:08 pm

As others have commented and my feelings on it; get to know someone and as a rule meet on neutral ground first time. I tend to trust my intuition and some times there are the exceptions that get invited to my place but its rare.

Leann


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:35 am

    Quoting goodatpoetry2:
    It depends on how well we got to know each other before deciding to get intimate.
    Of course, as a man, I have less to worry about.
You have less to worry about to a certian degree,In realuty both parties are vulnerable. Thank you so much for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:36 am

Agreed..Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:37 am

    Quoting AlvinBooth:
    I prefer to host so I don't have to drag all my meds with me.

    AB

That makes sense. Thank you so much for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:37 am

    Quoting rskinney62:
    You are a wise woman Jeanie! I have not met anyone for anything but lunch, but agree with your thoughts.
Thank you rskinney


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:38 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    wherever she is comfortable, I prefer a hotel.
That is my preference as well. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 9:40 am

    Quoting Resident_Bitch:
    I used to be pretty flexible about it, depending on the person I was meeting.....but since being pretty much used/controlled by the guys, then slated when I disagree and aren't doing everything their way, I'm going to meet for a 'non sex date'....if they try to make excuses and cut that out, the expectation of sex straight off, then I'll be moving on.....plus, those who expect me to host at my home, but they aren't going to at theirs, or willing to stump up for shared cost of a room....
    Once I'm convinced they are not attached to anyone else.....



I agree with what you have to say. I have been slated as well. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 9:41 am

    Quoting Story435:
    The ladies that I have met on her we were at a place to eat and had a good time. No sex with two of them at that time the other lady we had some fun in her car with a lot of hot playing. My gf we met for the first time in a hotel for a night of very hot sex!
    Butch
Sounds like you have had a few different experiences. Thank you for commeting BUtch


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 9:42 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Mutual neutral location is my preference always
It is a safe and logical approach. Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 9:43 am

    Quoting  :

Such a gentleman wineline


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 9:44 am

Agreed, Thank you so much for commeting Campo


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:27 pm

    Quoting ProfPlayful:
    I have a great place and it's fun to fantasize about having fun here, but I would not actually propose such an adventure.

    If I had the opportunity to spend the night with a woman I would select the most luxurious hotel available. I want room service, a private Jacuzzi, and a bed that feels like angel wings.
That sounds like a fab night!! Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:29 pm

    Quoting wjb1958:
    Meet at a mutual place
I agree it seems like the logical choice.Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:32 pm

    Quoting venator51:
    First, you must actually meet in a safe mutual location with really no expectation of sex at that time. Endless email, pix, calls do not really make the best introductions. Look into each others eyes, listen carefully to each other to see where and what this relationship is to each party. Body language speaks volumes and can really fill in all the unchecked squares - or run the other way.

    We use age, certain body parts, build, and the most flattering pictures as qualifications for partners. Chemistry, mental ease, sensuality, or just being a real sex magnet can make a big difference. If none of this makes either party hot and at each then parts ways with a handshake and good feelings. No harm, no foul.

    If this looks like a good deal, then I'm looking for a date in a neutral, private, safe place for both parties in a motel/hotel for at least a few times. Relax and enjoy! After that, well we are both consenting adults.
I agree with you. It is always best to go in with no expectations. I do believe you can build a friendship online but will have to agree with you that you will not be aware of the chemistry until you meet. I appreciate your comment. Thank you for cumming by!!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:33 pm

    Quoting danboy321108:
    i don't have any objection in hosting,i've done it before,but it all depends on the relations your looking for,if it's only sexual encounters,then i'd go to a motel,but if it's for a long term relation,i'd like to host and cook her a home made diner,to sweep her of her feet.
Yes I agree. Long term is develop through time. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:34 pm

    Quoting author51:
    The first meet is at a restaurant for lunch or dinner then if there is a second one like you I do not host nor would go to their house unless we had been seeing each other for a while so yes would be a hotel/motel.......................................................................................................................
Thank you joy for commenting. Seems like we have the same approach when it comes to this matter.


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:35 pm

    Quoting mjb595:
    I don't have a preference. I've done all 3 options and am open to whatever makes my partner most comfortable because if they aren't comfortable its not going to be fun for anyone.
Since you do not have a preference it is nice you want to make your partner comfortable. Nice to see you local friend. I appreciate you commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:38 pm

    Quoting sjevem:
    I usually like to host. I feel more comfortable in my surroundings, I feel if your looking for a long term it's more intimate than a motel. If you just want to fuck than a mutual site is more than adequate!
I can understand where you are coming from plus being comfortable is very important! Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:39 pm

    Quoting wantaplay8:
    A mutual agreed location,,neither home. Sex that would depend on the minute; but sex is not expected.
It is always best to have no expectations. Thank you for commenting!


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:41 pm

    Quoting Stralis252:
    I like to host, however i am more than agreeable to what ever the other person is most comfortable with, and to what makes them feel safe and secure
It is good to have both partners comfortable. I would think it would make the experience better, Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
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5/18/2017 7:42 pm

    Quoting  :

A big chance actually!! LOL Thnak you for commenting! Nice to see you back!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:43 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Nearly all of my first intimate encounters have been at a mutual location.
Same here!! Nearly..LOL Thank you for commenting!!


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:44 pm

    Quoting RedStevens:
    Absolutely, a nice hotel, with room service and a great big hot tub, with maybe a casino downstairs for in-between times. post 3982980
I am a fan of casinos..lol..Nice to see you. I appreciate you commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:45 pm

    Quoting HawkerKing01:
    A mutual location usually makes the most sense until you have developed trust. That being said I wouldn't say no if one of the other two options were required!...lol
LOL I have to respect you for being honest!! Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 43F  
15562 posts
5/18/2017 7:47 pm

    Quoting Torrid7:
    As others have commented and my feelings on it; get to know someone and as a rule meet on neutral ground first time. I tend to trust my intuition and some times there are the exceptions that get invited to my place but its rare.

    Leann
HI Leann...It is always best to trust your intuition. That even counts in the rare cases..lol..Thnak you so much for stopping by and commenting!


mrwalleye15 54M  
17 posts
6/13/2019 2:04 pm

Mutual location is best for a first meet. Then see how it goes and how we get along, if we trust each other, then take things from there.


whoisagentj 49M  
5932 posts
6/14/2019 7:12 am

For me, I have no choice. I can't host because I live with my folks trying to take care of my mom while she has her cancer. So I have no choice, I have to either have her host or find a neutral location like a hotel.

And I don't have a problem with that. But in order to make things easier, I normally prefer to have it at a neutral location in order to make things easier and not have my partner worry. If I had a woman to share it with. Which I don't.

Great, now I'm bummed.

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


Agent


ProfHaroldHill67 49M  
173 posts
6/17/2019 5:01 am

A hotel, while cliche, is so for a reason. It is what works and what is best in the beginning of a new intimate engagement.

I hope and I pray for a Hester to win just one more "A"


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