AFF instant messenger  

john_m283 52M
43 posts
5/21/2017 4:48 am
AFF instant messenger


Ladies,

I am interested in your views on the instant messenger service that is available here.

I enjoy chatting and trying to get to know someone and think chat is a great way to do that. Anytime I say hello it is done respectfully.

Is it a fair assumption to make that if you are on IM, that you are open to someone trying to contact you? I would think it is.

I would welcome hearing back ladies.

BiggLala 46F  
25187 posts
5/21/2017 5:34 am

Is it a fair assumption to make that if you are on IM, that you are open to someone trying to contact you?
-I think this depends on whether the woman intends to access IM. When people log onto the site via the mobile version, the site automatically logs them onto IM and you cannot log off if you don't want to be there. People sometimes don't intend to be on IM, so they ignore messages they receive when logged into the mobile version.

Also, and this was true for me, when I'd go onto IM I chat with a specific person that I'm interested in chatting with. Therefore, I often don't engage in chats with anyone else. If I was logged in to just look for chat with random individuals then I would chat with whoever messaged me or I find people to message.

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john_m283 replies on 5/21/2017 3:07 pm:
BiggLala,

thanks I didn't know that the mobile version did that. Seems like something they should fix.

I understand your point about looking for someone as well. I find the IM here to be hit and miss as far as working or not

TicklePlease 51F  
11537 posts
5/21/2017 5:50 am

Until there's a way to indicate a person on IM is "busy" and can't respond to other members requests, there's going to be all kinds of butthurt on a regular basis. Most women chat with, at most, a few people at a time. It's impossible to answer all the chat requests and like Lala said, mobile logins are an automatic IM login. When I chat, it's to chat with one person only but there's no way for me to indicate that to anyone. My advice is to not take it personally when your chat request goes unanswered, or maybe pony up for a gold membership and send emails that you know will have a better chance to get read.


john_m283 replies on 5/21/2017 3:15 pm:
Tickle,

Life is too short to take it personally, and I would just chalk it up to far far more men here than women. I had gold at one point, I found people don't respond to emails either, or maybe I am a leper, lol.

xoxo

John

BiggLala 46F  
25187 posts
5/21/2017 6:11 am

    Quoting  :

Do women need to use points to answer messages?
-No, no one does--women, men, couples, etc. What if the message didn't go through?

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HasteBeatsWaltz 61F  
1372 posts
5/21/2017 8:11 am

Why respond if the other person isn't the right age or whatever little info shows about the other person? If do answer and politely say no then the bitch or fake or... starts.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


john_m283 replies on 5/27/2017 10:41 am:
There could be a "not interested" button or to be able to filter out what you don't want. You can see who is on line by age and other items. thanks for responding.

SassyGigi 53F  
7475 posts
5/21/2017 8:30 am

For the most part, I don't usually use the IM system although yes, it does log in automatically when I'm on my phone or iPad.

I agree with Lala, there should be some kind of "busy" notification to send. Any time I get on, I get upwards of 10 messages in a minute or two and I don't care how good you are at multi tasking, you can't keep up! Im sure many women get plenty more than I do!

I tried using it the other day, one guy sent me his pic and for some reason, it chose that moment to crash on me. I don't remember the guy's name so I couldn't contact him. I felt really bad because I'm sure he thought that was very rude of me.

XOXO,
Sassy


john_m283 replies on 5/21/2017 3:12 pm:
The busy sign would be a great idea, and not an overly creative one

10 per minute wow.... I knew the ratio here was in favor the ladies but I didn't think that much. Maybe you are just really Sassy Gigi.

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