Feeling emasculated.  

ladybughug443 33F  
69 posts
2/16/2015 1:56 am
Feeling emasculated.


As my profile says, I use this site to get out and enjoy fun activities, and depending on the situation, I might be the one that pays for whatever activity it is. Such as a situation that happened not that long ago.

I wanted to go to a concert, I screened some guys and asked them if they wanted to join me. From the ones that turned me down, I mostly got no thank yous. But there was a couple that I found rather strange. When I brought up the fact that I already got the tickets, they seemed insulted. As if me buying the tickets made them less of a man.

The questions I have are for the guys out there. Is it really that big of a deal if the woman pays for the night, even if she was the one that invited them? Why or why not? Shouldn't the guy just enjoy the night, and not worry about who paid for what?

I just don't get.

As for the concert. I will expand on that story another time.


Electricblues4u 43M
128 posts
7/18/2016 7:59 am

I honestly do try to pay as often as I can but its more of a respectful game of back and fourth to me. You invite me and pay, I will pay for refreshments etc. And pay for the next outing. One hand washes the other so to speak, In closing I would in no way ever be unsulted by a woman paying for me, if anything I consider it an honor


doe_ra_me 106M
26139 posts
2/21/2015 1:15 pm

Quoting ladybughug443 reply on 2/21/2015 4:31 am:
I would like to think that being invited to a concert would be a good thing. Not some reason to go on a rage fit like a gorilla.

If not a gorilla, then a maroon With a bit of imagination, he could have offered to sponsor dinner before or after concert, thereby saving his foolish concept of masculinity. So many options other than the one chosen.

We suffer primarily not from our vices or our weaknesses, but from our illusions. We are haunted, not by reality, but by those images we have put in their place.


doe_ra_me 106M
26139 posts
2/19/2015 6:17 pm

? Odd, simply unexplainable.

I would think gender has little to do with an evening out. One person initiates an outing; one invites another. If someone were to invite me to join them, they have tickets to an event, either I say fantastic – thank you, or geeze, sorry I am going to miss this event but I got a bone in my leg (or whatever reason that prevents my being a gracious guest).

We suffer primarily not from our vices or our weaknesses, but from our illusions. We are haunted, not by reality, but by those images we have put in their place.


ladybughug443 replies on 2/21/2015 2:31 am:
I would like to think that being invited to a concert would be a good thing. Not some reason to go on a rage fit like a gorilla.

Hipickme85 32M

2/16/2015 5:06 am

Yeah I think it's great that you take turns shouting shouting

chat soon [SIZE 10]{=}


ladybughug443 replies on 2/18/2015 2:36 am:
Taking turns is a good thing. But I don't mind paying my way in any situation.

And what about shouting??

s2ndegree 59M  
8403 posts
2/16/2015 2:54 am

An extremely demure example of emasculation if I may.I paid for two nights at the grand canyon and she offered to pay me back I accepted.

Using more than all the road!


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:52 am:
There are those cases where I will actually pay the guy back myself, and those where we go dutch. It isn't about the money, it is about the good times. Thank you for the reply.

luvtolickclit99 45M  
1083 posts
2/16/2015 2:46 am

It's an ego thing for some guys.
If I were in their position, I'd gladly accept the invite. I would how ever possible pay for other things that incur during the night. Maybe a meal, cab ride, drinks ect...


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:49 am:
Kind of figured it to be an ego thing, but one's ego just makes them miss out on the fun. Thanks for the reply.

MaxCourt 51M
338 posts
2/16/2015 2:44 am

I cannot see why this should be a problem at all...

As long as both get enjoyment and pleasure from the evening/event why does it matter ?

In any case, if someone finds it difficult, Just let them treat you the next time.. no big deal.


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:48 am:
That is the whole point. To enjoy each other's company. Thank you for the comment.

rm_Ensign76 42M
1 post
2/16/2015 2:26 am

I don't see a problem with it. we live in 2015 and i don't see an issue with the Lady covering the costs of any activity.

Many years ago when we lived in the age of the man earning the wage and the woman staying at home, it was the norm that the Gentlemen payed for Dinner etc, however those days have long since gone. I cannot see how it would belittle a man for the woman to pay?

Just my opinion, but do find the subject of a man being insulted at the thought, Very strange


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:47 am:
I find it rather strange myself. Thanks for the comment.

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