Thoughts On A Blogger’s Bash  

redrockrascal 59M
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10/28/2017 10:40 am
Thoughts On A Blogger’s Bash


With the talk of a Blogger’s Bash going around I figured I would offer up some thoughts on the subject – the potential pros and potential cons as I see them. FWIW, I only know a couple basic things about it (where and when) at this point, and have no association with anyone involved with it.

When I first heard about Blogger Bashes during my first year of blogging here (2014), it sounded like a fun thing and I could meet some interesting people. My list was substantial, it included males (for guy purposes only) and of course female bloggers. Since then quite a few of those people are no longer here for a variety of reasons – known and unknown. Also, as you many know, things have changed since 2014 and 2016. Some of those on my list back then I would not want to meet now .

The fallout from things that have been said on the blogs is still with us. We lost a number of good bloggers because people’s thoughts and beliefs were being judged, before and versus, being discussed. IMO these blogs are worse off for it. A recent example . . . when I mentioned on someone’s blog that I was thinking about writing a post about the potential pros and potential cons of a blogger bash it was marked as “I disagree” by a number people. I didn’t mention any pros or cons there – I didn’t even have much of what I’m writing here in my head yet. So, someone was judging something that didn’t exist at that point.

With that in mind, here are the; who, what, where, when and whys of a blogger bash as I see them. Who: there are several who actually; I’m a “who”, who else is or isn’t going, and who is putting it on come to mind – more on that later . . . maybe. What: we know the what – it is a blogger gathering. Where and when seem to have been determined so first I will address *drum roll* . . . why.

If a blogger’s bash were just to meet and chat with other bloggers (if Lala would let me get a word in edgewise ) things would probably be quite simple. But as you may have heard we blog on a “sex site” , and that throws a big . . . thick . . . hardwood log on the fire.

So . . . there is sex . . . or is there? I read a post here by a very attractive female blogger. She had attended a Blogger’s Bash and “did not get laid”. She seemed to have wanted to but didn’t. In what nightmarish universe does that even happen . . . really? WTF? We are blogging on a “sex site”, aren’t we?

So, what is the point of a sex site blogger’s bash without sex? If the point is to get to know other bloggers without any sexual contact – we already do that via the blogs and by making other, non-physical (email, text, phone, cams, etc.), connections beyond the blogs. I posed this scenario to a female blogger and her answer was essentially – yeah, what is the point?

If it isn’t obvious by now there are a number of female bloggers I would like to get nekked with if I had the opportunity. They are interesting, smart, nice and attractive. Of course, whether any of them want to get with me is a whole other question. But, it isn’t as simple as that, I would not be the only one seeking their attention at a gathering. If you think the 20ish to 1 male to female ratio on the site(s) is an obstacle, think about the odds with all those bodies in one real place at one time. Note to self: bring a wet suit . . . oh and a tie, in case it’s formal.

Additionally, there are some women I won’t get to play with because they are attached – I get that. There are also some who don’t do one night stands – I get that too. Given how far away I am from any bloggers a regular thing would be difficult to do. Those factors raise the male / female ratio even higher. I don’t mind competition but . . . strictly numbers wise at this point the likelihood of RRR “getting laid” does not look promising.

For the sake of discussion let’s go beyond the numbers and ole RedRock actually has charmed his way into the opportunity to philander with 1 lovely lady blogger. Well first, I’m not going to limit myself to talking with just 1 blogger. I will try to talk to as many as possible really. So, let’s say I charm my way into the possibly to philander with 4 (just for a number) lovely lady bloggers. Realistically it won’t be all at once; so there is a logistical situation to figure out.

How many would I, could I, or should I, “do” in whatever amount of time is available? Will there be enough time for all of them? If not who do I turn down (there will be consequences ya know)? Who do I go with first? Who do I leave to last? Is some woman going to be unhappy if I don’t give her my attention in a timely manner? What the last lady blogger gonna think? Or worse, what might she write? We have all witnessed how some bloggers can get when they are unhappy.

Am I over thinking this . . . perhaps, but over thinking, in some instances, has helped me survive a variety of situations.

OK you sex crazed kids that’s enough to ponder for now. What do y’all think about what has been presented so far? I might address the; who, where, and when of a Blogger Bash once we discuss your input on the why.


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redrockrascal 59M
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11/13/2017 2:18 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Not sure why a bash, that's actually a good question. I always liked the idea of a blogger bash but honestly I travel so much and meet so many bloggers one on one that it seems pointless to travel to a bash where I don't even know who's going to be there![/] Correct me if I'm wrong, but bashes past were open about who was interested and who was going. The secrecy behind the "interested" list, like the bash last March in Mobile, is where I bail. I still haven't heard a reasonable explanation as to why nobody but the organizers know who's declared interest.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but bashes past were open about who was interested and who was going.
I don't know much about the past Bashes but you're right that it should be info that is available to everyone. Like a list of those who say Yes, those who say No, and those undecided. It would help others decide and give a picture of who you might get to interact with.

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redrockrascal 59M
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11/13/2017 2:13 pm

    Quoting KItkat1415:
    I came by because I have been to a bloggers bash and am going to this one.
    Both were in San Diego. I missed the one put on by my friend in outside of New Orleans because of bad stuff happening in my life at the time, but I would have spent the money to meet if I could have.

    I loved meeting the bloggers that I met in 2014 and was hoping for an equally fun time at this one. I loved meeting one of the male bloggers and will cherish it, one of the lovliest men one could ever meet even if he had to get up at one point and go outside (to smoke a cigarette? to chill out?). I hope he gets a chance to read this comment as he really is the type of person that most people would love to meet and get a chance to see him in person.

    And I guess that is my point; getting to know someone through their writing is one way to get to know someone. To see what they select the viewer to see, we get to see that part of them that they choose to show in photos. There are people that I would love to meet simply because of their writing, or the parts of them that they have let me see. For those people that I have seen in person, I now have a person that I think of in a different and fonder way.

    I meet up with bloggers that pass through San Diego and there are usually one or two that come through town or nearby (Los Angeles, Escondido).

    I regularly go to writers meeting, conventions, and bloggers events. The reason I would want to meet up with people from here (and presumably not have sex) is I feel I got to know them a little bit through their writing and we have a common interest in writing about the same subject.

    For others, they would want to only come to cum.... hahhahahha
    Sorry, ahem.
    kk
Thank you

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TicklePlease 49F  
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11/13/2017 12:59 am

Not sure why a bash, that's actually a good question. I always liked the idea of a blogger bash but honestly I travel so much and meet so many bloggers one on one that it seems pointless to travel to a bash where I don't even know who's going to be there![/] Correct me if I'm wrong, but bashes past were open about who was interested and who was going. The secrecy behind the "interested" list, like the bash last March in Mobile, is where I bail. I still haven't heard a reasonable explanation as to why nobody but the organizers know who's declared interest.


KItkat1415 55F  
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11/11/2017 10:55 am

I came by because I have been to a bloggers bash and am going to this one.
Both were in San Diego. I missed the one put on by my friend in outside of New Orleans because of bad stuff happening in my life at the time, but I would have spent the money to meet if I could have.

I loved meeting the bloggers that I met in 2014 and was hoping for an equally fun time at this one. I loved meeting one of the male bloggers and will cherish it, one of the lovliest men one could ever meet even if he had to get up at one point and go outside (to smoke a cigarette? to chill out?). I hope he gets a chance to read this comment as he really is the type of person that most people would love to meet and get a chance to see him in person.

And I guess that is my point; getting to know someone through their writing is one way to get to know someone. To see what they select the viewer to see, we get to see that part of them that they choose to show in photos. There are people that I would love to meet simply because of their writing, or the parts of them that they have let me see. For those people that I have seen in person, I now have a person that I think of in a different and fonder way.

I meet up with bloggers that pass through San Diego and there are usually one or two that come through town or nearby (Los Angeles, Escondido).

I regularly go to writers meeting, conventions, and bloggers events. The reason I would want to meet up with people from here (and presumably not have sex) is I feel I got to know them a little bit through their writing and we have a common interest in writing about the same subject.

For others, they would want to only come to cum.... hahhahahha
Sorry, ahem.
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redrockrascal 59M
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11/10/2017 2:37 pm

    Quoting rachel0718:
    So, I guess I am the “organizer girl” you are speaking of…. Yes I stopped by your post & didn’t comment yet because there weren’t many comments at that time. I am sorry to see that so many others are making comments about me and don’t even message me or come to me directly with questions or understand what I was trying to do with this event. I have been nothing but kind and considerate to others on these blogs. This is just something of an idea to see how many people are interested if they want to get together and come to San Diego and spring time where it’s a lot warmer than other places in the country.

    Maybe the title “ Blogger’s Bash” seems to put people off as they are all thinking that there’s going to be a shit ton of sex, orgies and other raunchy things happening at this event. That is totally what it’s not about. Is it time for people to get together if they choose to, meet each other, socialize and have a place to gather and see each other in a normal setting.

    If other people want to engage in anything else than what I mentioned above, by all means they are more than welcome to do it. I personally I’m not planning any sex parties, orgies or whatever. Everyone can do whatever they want and if that’s what they’re there for, so be it.

    We are all adults here and I think everyone’s opinion is awesome. . If it’s not your cup of tea, then you don’t have to attend. I think your post is great, but if you have any opinions directly about me or the event, please message me directly. Thanks
    RM
I guess I am the “organizer girl” you are speaking of
Well, I read you are the person organizing it and you are a girl according to your profile. If not, in reference to the Blogger Bash, what would you like to be called?

I am sorry to see that so many others are making comments about me
Except for referencing you as the person who is organizing it I don't see or take anything anyone said in reference to you as negative or out of line, just statements of fact. In fact one blogger complemented you.

There are statements regarding some people you associate with which, considering things that have been said on the blogs, is a legitimate discussion point.

Feel free to address those comments, here if you wish, with me or the person(s) who made them.

come to me directly with questions or understand what I was trying to do with this event.
Not everyone (i.e. standard members) can send or receive messages. It might be a good idea to post updates and/or create an open group to post info/updates and address people's questions. I would imagine if one person has questions, or concerns, others probably do too. It might make things simpler for you too.

This is just something of an idea to see how many people are interested if they want to get together
When I read the Deviant guy’s post it appeared to be a set thing. This makes it sound like the bash isn't definitively set. Are you just feeling out whether people want to attend at this point?

Maybe the title “Blogger’s Bash” seems to put people off
“Blogger’s Bash” is what the gatherings have been called in the past from what I’ve read. I don’t think the name carries any negative connotation. I don’t think anyone who responded was suggesting it would be an orgy and calling it a 'bash' does not infer orgies will occur. IMO the name of the gathering is fairly irrelevant.

If it’s not your cup of tea, then you don’t have to attend.
Good to know attendance is not mandatory. At this point, as far as I know, no one I interact with will be there. But there’s no way to know that.

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redrockrascal 59M
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11/10/2017 2:33 pm

    Quoting 1EA2:
    Hmmmm on one hand it seem like it would be an interesting experience to actually talk face to face with people that I have spoke with via blogging. I think for me personally it would be a little daunting if I thought it necessary to have sex with someone I hadn't ever met before plus, being one of those that don't 'do' one night stands would be limiting as well.
    On the other hand I have found sexual chemistry with men when writing/texting then when the actual meeting comes about there isn't any. Very sad when that happens. I am sure there are some that feel I was better in written form, lol. I think I am not quite as forward in real life that I am in my fantasy life here in blog land.
    Putting sex aside (yes, I am aware you don't like to put it aside but up front and center) what an exciting time it might prove to be. And, you are right when it comes to a woman feeling slighted and writing it out on blog land. That can sting for sure.
    Just some thoughts from me
I don't see that it would or could be made a necessity to have sex at a Blogger Bash but since the primary reason for the existence of the site is sex the subject is going to . . . come up. A gathering could prove to be a very interesting experience.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

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rachel0718 51F  
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11/10/2017 6:15 am

So, I guess I am the “organizer girl” you are speaking of…. Yes I stopped by your post & didn’t comment yet because there weren’t many comments at that time. I am sorry to see that so many others are making comments about me and don’t even message me or come to me directly with questions or understand what I was trying to do with this event. I have been nothing but kind and considerate to others on these blogs. This is just something of an idea to see how many people are interested if they want to get together and come to San Diego and spring time where it’s a lot warmer than other places in the country.

Maybe the title “ Blogger’s Bash” seems to put people off as they are all thinking that there’s going to be a shit ton of sex, orgies and other raunchy things happening at this event. That is totally what it’s not about. Is it time for people to get together if they choose to, meet each other, socialize and have a place to gather and see each other in a normal setting.

If other people want to engage in anything else than what I mentioned above, by all means they are more than welcome to do it. I personally I’m not planning any sex parties, orgies or whatever. Everyone can do whatever they want and if that’s what they’re there for, so be it.

We are all adults here and I think everyone’s opinion is awesome. . If it’s not your cup of tea, then you don’t have to attend. I think your post is great, but if you have any opinions directly about me or the event, please message me directly. Thanks
RM


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1EA2 52F
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11/9/2017 7:39 pm

Hmmmm on one hand it seem like it would be an interesting experience to actually talk face to face with people that I have spoke with via blogging. I think for me personally it would be a little daunting if I thought it necessary to have sex with someone I hadn't ever met before plus, being one of those that don't 'do' one night stands would be limiting as well.
On the other hand I have found sexual chemistry with men when writing/texting then when the actual meeting comes about there isn't any. Very sad when that happens. I am sure there are some that feel I was better in written form, lol. I think I am not quite as forward in real life that I am in my fantasy life here in blog land.
Putting sex aside (yes, I am aware you don't like to put it aside but up front and center) what an exciting time it might prove to be. And, you are right when it comes to a woman feeling slighted and writing it out on blog land. That can sting for sure.
Just some thoughts from me


redrockrascal 59M
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11/2/2017 8:08 pm

    Quoting kinkyfem73:
    Okie dokie Red....sorry its a bit late.
    Do I think they’re a good idea? I’m torn on that for a number of reasons. Mostly that yes this is a sex site.... and yes there could be expectations... which could lead to more drama...hard feelings...
    Would I ever go to one? No
    My vacation time is very limited and I never travel without Mr. K, who would have absolutely no interest in meeting a group of total and complete strangers that I only know from here. And I have no intention of leaving him alone on vacation so I could go to the bash.
    Yes I have met bloggers, and would so again if the situation arose. But again, I’m not travelling somewhere for the sole purpose of meeting them.
    That may sound harsh... but its my reality.
    Soooo red.... if I’m ever in Az or close to, I’ll buy a dinner and a drink
No worries Kinks you can come whenever you want.

You position makes on a bash sense considering you are attached and have a family. There definitely is a potential for expectations, drama and hard feelings.

not travelling somewhere for the sole purpose of meeting them.
Not harsh really – it’s not reasonable to ask someone, especially someone who is attached and has a family and job, to travel a long distance to meet.

If you did come here I would insist on at least buying dinner and drinks for you – that’s the least I could do. I’m sure we could find something for Mr. K to do for a while.

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kinkyfem73 44F  
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11/2/2017 5:19 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Go for it Kinks. I opened it up for peoples thoughts and yours are certainly welcome. It doesn't matter how long it is
Okie dokie Red....sorry its a bit late.
Do I think they’re a good idea? I’m torn on that for a number of reasons. Mostly that yes this is a sex site.... and yes there could be expectations... which could lead to more drama...hard feelings...
Would I ever go to one? No
My vacation time is very limited and I never travel without Mr. K, who would have absolutely no interest in meeting a group of total and complete strangers that I only know from here. And I have no intention of leaving him alone on vacation so I could go to the bash.
Yes I have met bloggers, and would so again if the situation arose. But again, I’m not travelling somewhere for the sole purpose of meeting them.
That may sound harsh... but its my reality.
Soooo red.... if I’m ever in Az or close to, I’ll buy a dinner and a drink

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redrockrascal 59M
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11/1/2017 3:14 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Och, I get why people would go to such effort and expense to meet someone they know online. This is after all a big part of peoples' lives. I'm not saying it's the wisest purchase ye'd ever make, but I do know that if I had the cash I would be on a plane tomorrow, or better still put the McDoe on a plane, to come over here. So aye, I understand why people would invest their time and money that way.

    I think I'd probably attend the bash too if there were enough going who I interact with here and if it was closer. But as I said, not as part of any group or clique, oh no!

    As I understand it, the sex aspect of the previous bashes featured quite highly, but it wasn't the primary purpose.

    Aye, I noticed Missy had disappeared, along with the other fellae, not sure what happened there.

    I expect the blog police directed the organiser to your post, they're all part of the same group I believe (well, I know for a fact), perhaps she didn't have anything to add though. Fundamentally the girl is a good un though, very well intended, and I hope the bash is a success for her.
I’ve read here Missy went off with the other fellae after a Vegas meet – but I don’t know if that is accurate.

Yeah the blog police are connected to the organizer(s) from what I’ve experienced. So I am somewhat leery. Also, full disclosure, I had some interaction with the organizer which didn’t leave me with a good impression. But I’ll go along with your position that perhaps she is fundamentally a good un and well intended.

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author51 54F  
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11/1/2017 12:37 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    I tried to get one going when I went out to B.C. in West Coast of Canada but to no avail. When was this?

    I would find it interesting to see everyone in a different light, put a face to the handle... Good point very true

    Great post... Thanks
In June when I go out for my holidays.I was supposed to meet three bloggers there but our schedules were not meshing so we didn't.I am the next time though..

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lindoboy100 54M
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10/31/2017 4:58 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    McKilty lad, I don’t have any problem with a good party with friends now and then. But traveling hundreds of miles to get there plus hotel makes it a bit pricey for most bloggers. And really the group is semi-strangers. Then you throw in the sex aspect of it – it’s a unique opportunity/situation to say the least.

    It would, obviously, be great if it were a success. But, now, 1 or 2 of the others who were involved are off the site. The organizing girl stopped by my blog, presumably to read this post since she rarely comes here, but did not leave a response.
Och, I get why people would go to such effort and expense to meet someone they know online. This is after all a big part of peoples' lives. I'm not saying it's the wisest purchase ye'd ever make, but I do know that if I had the cash I would be on a plane tomorrow, or better still put the McDoe on a plane, to come over here. So aye, I understand why people would invest their time and money that way.

I think I'd probably attend the bash too if there were enough going who I interact with here and if it was closer. But as I said, not as part of any group or clique, oh no!

As I understand it, the sex aspect of the previous bashes featured quite highly, but it wasn't the primary purpose.

Aye, I noticed Missy had disappeared, along with the other fellae, not sure what happened there.

I expect the blog police directed the organiser to your post, they're all part of the same group I believe (well, I know for a fact), perhaps she didn't have anything to add though. Fundamentally the girl is a good un though, very well intended, and I hope the bash is a success for her.

Oh well.........


redrockrascal 59M
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10/31/2017 4:45 pm

    Quoting author51:
    I have always wanted to attend one just to meet bloggers face to face.As for sex happening for me it would probably be a no as I am a one lover woman.

    When you meet someone face to face it takes things to another level than just talking to them through blogs.There are quite a few I would love to meet and swap stories, ideas, inputs. I tried to get one going when I went out to B.C. in West Coast of Canada but to no avail.I would find it interesting to see everyone in a different light, put a face to the handle... Great post....
I tried to get one going when I went out to B.C. in West Coast of Canada but to no avail. When was this?

I would find it interesting to see everyone in a different light, put a face to the handle... Good point very true

Great post... Thanks

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redrockrascal 59M
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10/31/2017 4:42 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    I did attend a small blogger bash in London some years ago. There were six men and two women, there was no drama, no tantrums and no sex..but it was still fun.
    Sadly, I don't believe any of the bloggers I met are still here but I am in touch elsewhere.
no drama - good,
no tantrums - good
no sex - but . . . but . . . but this is a sex site
but it was still fun. - good

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redrockrascal 59M
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10/31/2017 4:40 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    I've met two bloggers, both girls, and neither time was it for sex, I simply liked them both, and we had a really nice time. One of the girls I met a few times and I'm still in touch with her albeit intermittently.

    I've also witnessed some of the bashes from afar. There were some proper bunfights when yon eejit Neurotcweed was around, f'n hilarious. The fallout continued for years.

    The McDoe attended a mini-bash once, met the delightful Chuckie boy, the ghostly one, I'll leave him to tell you what he thought some time.

    And then there have been some big gatherings which went fairly well, back in the day when we had a crowd of Canadians here who didn't really participate in any of the cliques. There were also a few Brit-bashes which were well attended, mainly before my time as a blogger.

    The idea of a gathering however just doesn't appeal to me. There are too many cliques and groups hereabouts, and we both know where that leads.

    There are a fair few people here who I would love to meet, one in particular - the McDoe of course, but I would want to do it on a small scale, I would never again want to appear to be in any one camp, group or clique........nope!

    And having said all of that, I do hope the impending bash goes off well. The girl who seems to have organised it seems like a good un!

    Good post McFrock!!
McKilty lad, I don’t have any problem with a good party with friends now and then. But traveling hundreds of miles to get there plus hotel makes it a bit pricey for most bloggers. And really the group is semi-strangers. Then you throw in the sex aspect of it – it’s a unique opportunity/situation to say the least.

It would, obviously, be great if it were a success. But, now, 1 or 2 of the others who were involved are off the site. The organizing girl stopped by my blog, presumably to read this post since she rarely comes here, but did not leave a response.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


author51 54F  
45434 posts
10/31/2017 1:34 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    I've met two bloggers, both girls, and neither time was it for sex, I simply liked them both, and we had a really nice time. One of the girls I met a few times and I'm still in touch with her albeit intermittently.

    I've also witnessed some of the bashes from afar. There were some proper bunfights when yon eejit Neurotcweed was around, f'n hilarious. The fallout continued for years.

    The McDoe attended a mini-bash once, met the delightful Chuckie boy, the ghostly one, I'll leave him to tell you what he thought some time.

    And then there have been some big gatherings which went fairly well, back in the day when we had a crowd of Canadians here who didn't really participate in any of the cliques. There were also a few Brit-bashes which were well attended, mainly before my time as a blogger.

    The idea of a gathering however just doesn't appeal to me. There are too many cliques and groups hereabouts, and we both know where that leads.

    There are a fair few people here who I would love to meet, one in particular - the McDoe of course, but I would want to do it on a small scale, I would never again want to appear to be in any one camp, group or clique........nope!

    And having said all of that, I do hope the impending bash goes off well. The girl who seems to have organised it seems like a good un!

    Good post McFrock!!
I have always wanted to attend one just to meet bloggers face to face.As for sex happening for me it would probably be a no as I am a one lover woman.

When you meet someone face to face it takes things to another level than just talking to them through blogs.There are quite a few I would love to meet and swap stories, ideas, inputs. I tried to get one going when I went out to B.C. in West Coast of Canada but to no avail.I would find it interesting to see everyone in a different light, put a face to the handle... Great post....

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redrockrascal 59M
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10/30/2017 2:43 pm

    Quoting lordjack1957:
    Sounds a little scary to me, getting that many strong opinionated people together, mixed with downing few sociables, to break the ice, a big fight could break out.. Lol Good post, good topic! Looking forward to reading all about it after the event.
Opinionated sure, scary nah, fight doubt it, disagreement probably. I would avoid anyone I have that much of a disagreement with.

You're a west coast guy I would imagine this would be a fun opportunity for you.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

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redrockrascal 59M
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10/30/2017 2:37 pm

    Quoting GixxerLust:
    If there was a blogger bash even remotely near me I would be there with bells on!

    There are bloggers (both male and female) on this site that I would definitely want to see and feel naked, but I guess like any other face to face meeting for the first time, I wouldn't expect to get laid. Want to.. fuck yeah..... over and over but never expect it.

    I don't see a blogger bash of any magnitude ever happening in my area though... maybe some year I will just bite the bullet and crash the ones in the US
Don't know what you consider near but there are a lot of bloggers on the east coast and eastern part of Canada.

I hear ya about the Want to.. fuck yeah

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


citizen4722 59M  
52557 posts
10/30/2017 1:58 pm

I did attend a small blogger bash in London some years ago. There were six men and two women, there was no drama, no tantrums and no sex..but it was still fun.
Sadly, I don't believe any of the bloggers I met are still here but I am in touch elsewhere.


lindoboy100 54M
18272 posts
10/30/2017 11:11 am

I've met two bloggers, both girls, and neither time was it for sex, I simply liked them both, and we had a really nice time. One of the girls I met a few times and I'm still in touch with her albeit intermittently.

I've also witnessed some of the bashes from afar. There were some proper bunfights when yon eejit Neurotcweed was around, f'n hilarious. The fallout continued for years.

The McDoe attended a mini-bash once, met the delightful Chuckie boy, the ghostly one, I'll leave him to tell you what he thought some time.

And then there have been some big gatherings which went fairly well, back in the day when we had a crowd of Canadians here who didn't really participate in any of the cliques. There were also a few Brit-bashes which were well attended, mainly before my time as a blogger.

The idea of a gathering however just doesn't appeal to me. There are too many cliques and groups hereabouts, and we both know where that leads.

There are a fair few people here who I would love to meet, one in particular - the McDoe of course, but I would want to do it on a small scale, I would never again want to appear to be in any one camp, group or clique........nope!

And having said all of that, I do hope the impending bash goes off well. The girl who seems to have organised it seems like a good un!

Good post McFrock!!

Oh well.........


lordjack1957 60M  
2991 posts
10/30/2017 7:57 am

Sounds a little scary to me, getting that many strong opinionated people together, mixed with downing few sociables, to break the ice, a big fight could break out.. Lol Good post, good topic! Looking forward to reading all about it after the event.

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GixxerLust 40F  
581 posts
10/28/2017 10:42 pm

If there was a blogger bash even remotely near me I would be there with bells on!

There are bloggers (both male and female) on this site that I would definitely want to see and feel naked, but I guess like any other face to face meeting for the first time, I wouldn't expect to get laid. Want to.. fuck yeah..... over and over but never expect it.

I don't see a blogger bash of any magnitude ever happening in my area though... maybe some year I will just bite the bullet and crash the ones in the US

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redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 4:33 pm

    Quoting joisygirl:
    this is an interesting topic... I've never been to a bloggers bash and I was unaware one was being planned now. Personally, I would think it's just a way to get to know each other better, not engage in an orgy, but if participants are willing... why not, I guess. So where is the "where" of it all? this must have been an interesting topic to get me to comment; I've been removed or on the periphery on this site for ages now. I even deactivated my profile briefly recently and I'm not sure how long I will remain, it's just addicting and I can't seem to help myself, even though the urge to blog has passed.
Natasha dahlink, Boris missink doink you on da blogs. Da bacsh is supposed to be in March in San Diego.

I don't expect, nor would be interested in, an orgy. For many people going there is a big cost, time and money wise, to chat when that can be done by phone etc.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


joisygirl 59F  
4150 posts
10/28/2017 4:23 pm

this is an interesting topic... I've never been to a bloggers bash and I was unaware one was being planned now. Personally, I would think it's just a way to get to know each other better, not engage in an orgy, but if participants are willing... why not, I guess. So where is the "where" of it all? this must have been an interesting topic to get me to comment; I've been removed or on the periphery on this site for ages now. I even deactivated my profile briefly recently and I'm not sure how long I will remain, it's just addicting and I can't seem to help myself, even though the urge to blog has passed.


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joisygirl 59F  
4150 posts
10/28/2017 4:16 pm

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I've never been to a Bloggers bash....there hasn't been one in Ireland for years....not since a journalist managed to infiltrate the blogs and took pics of people at the bash and they ended up on the paper's front page. A woman's life was ruined.

    I have met a number of bloggers though and am saying nothing about whether there was sex involved ot not.

that's very unfortunate... I suppose you'd have an expectation of privacy at such an affair and to be outed in such a public way at a private event is just lousy.


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redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 3:45 pm

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    Just like when you message each other for to long
    before you meet.We tend to visualize something that 9 times out of
    ten isn't anything like what we had thought when a meet
    happens,
    This isn't really any different.I personally hadn't really given the
    sex site theme any thought at all.That certainly doesn't mean
    I am not open minded but rather thinking practically.

    I am intrigued by who some of you people are.Isn't that really enough.

    A momento of a journey to meet others .A T shirt .a printed keepsake.A bumper sticker.Something with an indigenous theme.A selection from
    one of the darker side of Dr. Suss who lived in La Jolla.
You've stated one of the reasons I don't message with women a whole lot before I meet them. It leads to a lot of imagining that may or may not be accurate. I try to be practical in my approach to things on these site(s) which is essentially why I thought this out.

A 900 mile r/t is a bit far to go for a handshake and t-shirt.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 3:39 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    First off I don't know why people would not want you to write about the bloggers bash. I think you should write and say what ever you like, I have heard of the bloggers bash.

    In saying that don't think I would ever attend because of some of the reasons you have stated in your blog, as I HIGHLY agree with most.
I imagine the people who didn’t want to hear my pros and cons are the same who can’t tolerate opinions that are not in lockstep with theirs. I’ve disagreed with them before.

Well T you are one I would be interested in meeting if only just to chat some. I’m not against the idea of just chatting but there are practical matters to weight too. You are in California but I don’t know if you are near SD. If I were near SD (not a long drive) I would likely go. That way if it were a bust I could easily bail out.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 3:35 pm

    Quoting kinkyfem73:
    Ohhh Red.... I have sooooo many thoughts on this. Its tough to get them all down without seemingly hijacking your post!!
Go for it Kinks. I opened it up for peoples thoughts and yours are certainly welcome. It doesn't matter how long it is

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


kinkyfem73 44F  
32109 posts
10/28/2017 3:08 pm

Ohhh Red.... I have sooooo many thoughts on this. Its tough to get them all down without seemingly hijacking your post!!

Cum visit my blog Kinkyland


s2ndegree 58M  
7163 posts
10/28/2017 3:01 pm

Just like when you message each other for to long
before you meet.We tend to visualize something that 9 times out of
ten isn't anything like what we had thought when a meet
happens,
This isn't really any different.I personally hadn't really given the
sex site theme any thought at all.That certainly doesn't mean
I am not open minded but rather thinking practically.

I am intrigued by who some of you people are.Isn't that really enough.

A momento of a journey to meet others .A T shirt .a printed keepsake.A bumper sticker.Something with an indigenous theme.A selection from
one of the darker side of Dr. Suss who lived in La Jolla.

Using more than all the road!


Tmptrzz 55F  
37172 posts
10/28/2017 2:27 pm

First off I don't know why people would not want you to write about the bloggers bash. I think you should write and say what ever you like, I have heard of the bloggers bash.

In saying that don't think I would ever attend because of some of the reasons you have stated in your blog, as I HIGHLY agree with most.

Tmptrzz


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 2:06 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I have never been to a Bash but I have met several bloggers one on one. Sometimes there was sex and sometimes there wasn't but there certainly was a greater potential for sex than average.

    You know, there's always the chance that the women will mob you as there will be a shortage of men. Go ahead - dream about that!
I have not met any bloggers - most live far from me. I had a meet arranged with one but she backed out a day before.

OK, I'm picturing a mob of women coming after me.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 2:03 pm

    Quoting bigblackman21221:
    What do y’all think about what has been presented so far?

    I would go to one if it was close and certain people would be there.

    No expectations.
If I lived near there I'd probably go. No expectations just wants

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 2:01 pm

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I've never been to a Bloggers bash....there hasn't been one in Ireland for years....not since a journalist managed to infiltrate the blogs and took pics of people at the bash and they ended up on the paper's front page. A woman's life was ruined.

    I have met a number of bloggers though and am saying nothing about whether there was sex involved ot not.

I hadn't even considered anything like that. That is just messed up.

I have not met any bloggers - most live far from me.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 1:59 pm

    Quoting Dick4001567:
    I did several blogger bashes in the past only because I had a longtime friend and we just decided to have sex one night at one and the other times I had a girlfriend from this site and we went together and the other was a fwb's of sorts but the other ones was just a hang out love fest getting to know you kind of thing which was ok but yea you're right I could have saved my money for the hotel and airplane ride and just continue to talk to people on this site like we do now!
Yeah this is true. could have saved my money for the hotel and airplane ride and just continue to talk to people on this site like we do now!

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 1:56 pm

    Quoting gardenboy321:
    The two bashes I went to were anything but a Roman Orgy (or maybe I wasn't invited to that part? lol) Oddly enough, it was kind of like a high school reunion (even though I have never been to one)... where you kinda of know the people, but they're different. Maybe even like that movie The Big Chill.

    Btw- I never expected sex to happen, but I'd be lying if I told you I didn't want any to happen. lol
I suppose the high school reunion comparison is quite valid. I've been to 2 of the 4 that were scheduled. And not very far from where this bash is supposed to be. I brought someone to each one so there was sex too - so kinda different too.

I too don't expect sex on a first meet, but I usually do want it.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 1:50 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Ooooooh you're just greedy! I thought I was the only one allowed to be greedy around here.

    There are a few female bloggers going that I'd love to meet (platonically speaking) but the single males I'm interested in meeting aren't going. Of course, I'd ponder the same questions as you regarding those men if they were going...yet I doubt the interest is mutual so doesn't matter I suppose.

    One of the organizers (who is no longer on the site so I'm not sure how that works ) posted his open letter response to what a bash is and isn't. It seems we shouldn't expect a bash to be a holy Roman orgy, but stories from some past events suggested those bashes were just that. Or were those exaggerated stories? Anyway, I guess we should just expect a mild gathering of people in one place, have dinner, a few drinks and then go on our own for...whatever there is to do around SD. So yeah, what IS the point of bloggers from a sex site attending the bash and not expecting to get laid? I don't get laid from blogging or with bloggers now. I don't need to travel halfway across the country to continue not getting laid with bloggers.

    All I can do is ponder anyway. I'm not attending, but hopefully they'll be other opportunities. Perhaps when I'm officially celibate and then I can really enjoy the companionship.
“Greed is good.” So, yep, greedy ole me wanting to have sex with women from a sex site. Shocking I tell you . . . shocking.

I haven’t considered that part of the organizing group is now gone. I wouldn’t expect, or be interested in, a holy (or unholy) Roman orgy. were those exaggerated stories? Naaah, how could that be . . . people don’t exaggerate about sex?

whatever there is to do around SD. SD is nice (I’m originally from SoCal) and there are a lot of things to see and do. But, going there just to sightsee isn’t a priority.

I don’t “expect” sex when I go out on a first date with anyone. But, I usually do want. But like you said I don't need to travel halfway across the country to continue not getting laid with bloggers

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 1:49 pm

    Quoting seems6666:
    Some interesting points, but I DO think you are overthinking! ,, If i were to go, I would see it as putting faces (not genitalia) to names! , having a meal, a drink and a good time, and if anything happened,,, it happened If it didn't , I would hope that I had made some friends, and we all had a good time,
Good points but, I’ve seen the faces of most of the people I interact with on the blogs. This also involves the question of who is, and is not, going to be there. There will likely be some who I don’t care to interact with.

If it were “just” a meal, drink(s) and a good time that would be fine. But then there is a 900 mile r/t (much more for others), plus hotel (not cheap there), a very expensive dinner. I have long time friends in the area (I’m originally from SoCal), I don’t go there for a meal, drink(s) and a good time

Just for clarity I have no expectation of sex if I go there, nor when I go out on a first date with anyone. But, I usually do want.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


superbjversion2 62F  
10080 posts
10/28/2017 1:13 pm

I have never been to a Bash but I have met several bloggers one on one. Sometimes there was sex and sometimes there wasn't but there certainly was a greater potential for sex than average.

You know, there's always the chance that the women will mob you as there will be a shortage of men. Go ahead - dream about that!

Fortune favors the BOLD


bigblackman21221 47M  
2339 posts
10/28/2017 12:42 pm

What do y’all think about what has been presented so far?

I would go to one if it was close and certain people would be there.

No expectations.


sexysixties2 69F  
36670 posts
10/28/2017 12:34 pm

I've never been to a Bloggers bash....there hasn't been one in Ireland for years....not since a journalist managed to infiltrate the blogs and took pics of people at the bash and they ended up on the paper's front page. A woman's life was ruined.

I have met a number of bloggers though and am saying nothing about whether there was sex involved ot not.


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~~~ Anais Nin ~~~


Dick4001567 57M
2970 posts
10/28/2017 12:34 pm

I did several blogger bashes in the past only because I had a longtime friend and we just decided to have sex one night at one and the other times I had a girlfriend from this site and we went together and the other was a fwb's of sorts but the other ones was just a hang out love fest getting to know you kind of thing which was ok but yea you're right I could have saved my money for the hotel and airplane ride and just continue to talk to people on this site like we do now!


BiggLala 45F  
18434 posts
10/28/2017 12:19 pm

    Quoting gardenboy321:
    The two bashes I went to were anything but a Roman Orgy (or maybe I wasn't invited to that part? lol) Oddly enough, it was kind of like a high school reunion (even though I have never been to one)... where you kinda of know the people, but they're different. Maybe even like that movie The Big Chill.

    Btw- I never expected sex to happen, but I'd be lying if I told you I didn't want any to happen. lol
Oh I'd definitely want some sex to happen, but I don't expect that it would for me (we've discussed those reasons).

High School Reunion you say? While I get that and I understand Seems6666's perspective...this is a sex site! Bloggers meeting from....a sex site. We KNOWWWWUH why we're here right?!?!?

Dammit, now I sound like the knuckledraggers. I gotta go.

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gardenboy321 54M  
37146 posts
10/28/2017 12:13 pm

    Quoting seems6666:
    Some interesting points, but I DO think you are overthinking! ,, If i were to go, I would see it as putting faces (not genitalia) to names! , having a meal, a drink and a good time, and if anything happened,,, it happened If it didn't , I would hope that I had made some friends, and we all had a good time,
Totally agree, and that's how those bashes I went to were.

Thoughts from the Garden...


gardenboy321 54M  
37146 posts
10/28/2017 12:11 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    Ooooooh you're just greedy! I thought I was the only one allowed to be greedy around here.

    There are a few female bloggers going that I'd love to meet (platonically speaking) but the single males I'm interested in meeting aren't going. Of course, I'd ponder the same questions as you regarding those men if they were going...yet I doubt the interest is mutual so doesn't matter I suppose.

    One of the organizers (who is no longer on the site so I'm not sure how that works ) posted his open letter response to what a bash is and isn't. It seems we shouldn't expect a bash to be a holy Roman orgy, but stories from some past events suggested those bashes were just that. Or were those exaggerated stories? Anyway, I guess we should just expect a mild gathering of people in one place, have dinner, a few drinks and then go on our own for...whatever there is to do around SD. So yeah, what IS the point of bloggers from a sex site attending the bash and not expecting to get laid? I don't get laid from blogging or with bloggers now. I don't need to travel halfway across the country to continue not getting laid with bloggers.

    All I can do is ponder anyway. I'm not attending, but hopefully they'll be other opportunities. Perhaps when I'm officially celibate and then I can really enjoy the companionship.
The two bashes I went to were anything but a Roman Orgy (or maybe I wasn't invited to that part? lol) Oddly enough, it was kind of like a high school reunion (even though I have never been to one)... where you kinda of know the people, but they're different. Maybe even like that movie The Big Chill.

Btw- I never expected sex to happen, but I'd be lying if I told you I didn't want any to happen. lol

Thoughts from the Garden...


BiggLala 45F  
18434 posts
10/28/2017 12:02 pm

Ooooooh you're just greedy! I thought I was the only one allowed to be greedy around here.

There are a few female bloggers going that I'd love to meet (platonically speaking) but the single males I'm interested in meeting aren't going. Of course, I'd ponder the same questions as you regarding those men if they were going...yet I doubt the interest is mutual so doesn't matter I suppose.

One of the organizers (who is no longer on the site so I'm not sure how that works ) posted his open letter response to what a bash is and isn't. It seems we shouldn't expect a bash to be a holy Roman orgy, but stories from some past events suggested those bashes were just that. Or were those exaggerated stories? Anyway, I guess we should just expect a mild gathering of people in one place, have dinner, a few drinks and then go on our own for...whatever there is to do around SD. So yeah, what IS the point of bloggers from a sex site attending the bash and not expecting to get laid? I don't get laid from blogging or with bloggers now. I don't need to travel halfway across the country to continue not getting laid with bloggers.

All I can do is ponder anyway. I'm not attending, but hopefully they'll be other opportunities. Perhaps when I'm officially celibate and then I can really enjoy the companionship.

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seems6666 47F  
1115 posts
10/28/2017 11:39 am

Some interesting points, but I DO think you are overthinking! ,, If i were to go, I would see it as putting faces (not genitalia) to names! , having a meal, a drink and a good time, and if anything happened,,, it happened If it didn't , I would hope that I had made some friends, and we all had a good time,


redrockrascal 59M
15161 posts
10/28/2017 10:43 am

He did the bash
He did the blogger’s bash
It was a bedroom smash

He did the bash
it caught on in a flash (waaa ooooh)

He did the bash
He did the blogger’s bash (waaa ooooh)


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