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Confessions of an Ugly Duckling
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Confessions of an Ugly Duckling True story.... Once an ugly duckling, always an ugly duckling in the back of your mind. I was the awkward Irish girl who grew up being raised by grandparents with ideals and beliefs from another era. I sported red hair with bad haircuts, giant ears, and super pale skin. Talk about the total package! At some point we grow up and those big ears aren't so big anymore..... And, we're capable of choosing our own hair styles and clothing. But that mindset remains. I once asked my grandma if she thought I was pretty and I'll never forget her answer. "Well, you're no beauty queen." I hadn't said anything, but I was devastated by her answer. I knew what I saw when I looked in the mirror, but for some reason I had hoped that others were able to see something different.... I hoped wrong. Eventually I grew up, and what I lacked in beauty I gained in personality. The funny thing is.... As a grown up, I wasn't all that ugly anymore. My hair wasn't quite so red and my freckles had faded..... The pale skin was still pale but with the miracles of make-up I no longer looked like a serial killer in the making. The problem is, as a grown up, I still feel ugly. When I catch a man looking at me, I feel judging eyes and the insecurities spring forth. How does my hair look? Can you see my ears? Why is he looking at my outfit? I knew I shouldn't have worn this shirt today... What was I thinking?? Once an ugly duckling, always an ugly duckling in the back of your mind..... So, I'll bet you're wondering what this little duckling looked like as a , so here you go folks. Time for the big reveal.  Second Grade 1981 Happy Sunday |
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Point #1. Recent studies show that men are attracted to women with freckles. The reason: they find them non-threatening? Point #2. I find red hair and freckles very sexy. (+) You are a taurus. As am I. Point #3. I read through the entirety of your blog and... I think I love you. 
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If we are convinced we are ugly in our youth, that never goes away. It's sad, but true. And yeah, many men, myself included, like red hair and freckles. But there is always that voice in the back of the mind saying, Nah, not really, I'm not the sexy beast people say i am. You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.
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Point #1. Recent studies show that men are attracted to women with freckles. The reason: they find them non-threatening? Point #2. I find red hair and freckles very sexy. (+) You are a taurus. As am I. Point #3. I read through the entirety of your blog and... I think I love you.
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If I lived in Michigan you would definitely be on my list of ppl I want to meet. What one person sees as ugly the next may see as very beautiful.
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If I lived in Michigan you would definitely be on my list of ppl I want to meet. What one person sees as ugly the next may see as very beautiful.
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from one ugly duck to another. remember the end of the story.
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from one ugly duck to another. remember the end of the story.
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From the guy who's mom shopped for him at Sears for the "huskey" sized clothes... I feel you. It takes some of us a little longer than others to feel comfortable in our own skin. A lot of it has to do with how we perceive others perceive us. Its a shame we carry weight of one comment from one person for so long. Drop that weight and walk away. Be awesome, my friend. 
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We are all different,that is what makes us individuals otherwise it would be a boring life all looking the same.I was too low on self esteem for many years,my mother was not kind to me. For those we think look beautiful,some have low esteem,too,think the older i get the more comfortable i have become with myself and have woken up to make up and fashions in later life to use as advantage to me
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I think your story is heart breaking. You are beautiful!. But I do understand. I also never thought I was attractive. Obviously there are people who disagree with that, after all I have been married twice and more then one woman has expressed interest in me, besides the two wives. And yet I don't feel attractive. In my mind I am an ugly duckling.
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I think your story is heart breaking. You are beautiful!. But I do understand. I also never thought I was attractive. Obviously there are people who disagree with that, after all I have been married twice and more then one woman has expressed interest in me, besides the two wives. And yet I don't feel attractive. In my mind I am an ugly duckling.
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We are all different,that is what makes us individuals otherwise it would be a boring life all looking the same.I was too low on self esteem for many years,my mother was not kind to me. For those we think look beautiful,some have low esteem,too,think the older i get the more comfortable i have become with myself and have woken up to make up and fashions in later life to use as advantage to me
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From the guy who's mom shopped for him at Sears for the "huskey" sized clothes... I feel you. It takes some of us a little longer than others to feel comfortable in our own skin. A lot of it has to do with how we perceive others perceive us. Its a shame we carry weight of one comment from one person for so long. Drop that weight and walk away. Be awesome, my friend.
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She always has been my little twin, except with brown eyes. And, as is, huh.... It's been a while since you've seen me last. I may look like I crawled out from under a bridge somewhere.... 
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I felt like a duckling then and still do. However looking back at my high school pictures, I don't think I was that bad. I didn't have any luck with girls back then and was told on occassion I was ugly. So that has stuck with me. I did manage to finally get laid when I was 23 tho. As for your picture, I don't see an ugly duckling. Thank you for posting. It's nice to see a face even if it's your young face. Sometimes confidence can be the best thing a man can possess. Update your look and eye glasses... Square off those shoulders and sport that confidence.... You'll be surprised what a difference it makes.
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your daughter looks just like you at the same age, as for you, i want you, as is, less clothes maybe 
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There's nothing ugly about you McLade. Nothing. You have beautiful eyes, gorgeous smile, a body to die for. But above all else, your personality is stunning! I bet you were a beautiful wee lass too!! Thank you!
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There's nothing ugly about you McLade. Nothing. You have beautiful eyes, gorgeous smile, a body to die for. But above all else, your personality is stunning! I bet you were a beautiful wee lass too!! Pull ma finger.........
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your daughter looks just like you at the same age, as for you, i want you, as is, less clothes maybe
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I felt like a duckling then and still do. However looking back at my high school pictures, I don't think I was that bad. I didn't have any luck with girls back then and was told on occassion I was ugly. So that has stuck with me. I did manage to finally get laid when I was 23 tho. As for your picture, I don't see an ugly duckling. Thank you for posting. It's nice to see a face even if it's your young face.
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Pictures of all of us when we were young look different . They look different as we had a different mindset back then, we look at them now and see it different. A waste! To waste such youth on the inexperienced. As you grew older you understood what beauty was, it is not only the color of your hair , the texture of your skin but the total package. That one as real people see you. Some people think that one has to be of a "Barbie Doll shape to be beautiful, Far from this is real beauty. The inner beauty out shadows most of some ones physicals features that you see as a negative. Just Smile, your grandmother wasn't wrong, she just didn't understand what a beauty queen can be.. And by now you should know guy don't look at ugly girls, It is the beauties that catch our eyes.. Hope you are well , have a good and just be safe..
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My mom told me I was an ugly child when I was born! 
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WOW, I am sorry to hear that Hippiechick1976, that is aweful that your mother would tell you that. What she being honest or telling you that to be hurtful? Though it does not matter what the answer is, it was still wrong to say to a child especially your own daughter! How sad is that, that you have no photos with your father. Be it intentional or not, sometimes parents and others can hurt us in ways they do not know and the scars can be lasting for ever to us to deal with. I hope that your relationship with your mother is better now that you are older and that your father grew up. Elevate me... 
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Wow that is sad!! Red hair has little to do with the beauty of the person. I personally like many red-haired women. The hair usually isn't the reason I like or dislike someone!! Rest assured even if it IS true (I am suggesting there were probably OTHER reasons) that your father left because of your red hair, there are MANY that will be drawn to you BECAUSE of that same hair!! I love my daughters. I think they are beautiful and am sure that as a dad it doesn't even matter what they look like...they are MINE! I like my read hair now, finally now that it's graying, lol. I always wanted a dad that adored me and thought was a princess. *sigh* Elevate me...
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My mother was like that as well.... Neither of my parents had the want or ability to be good parents. I knew early on that she'd only gotten pregnant with me so he would marry her. When the marriage fell apart her hatred of me surfaced. I've only seen my dad a handful off times since I was 9, but it's ok. I learned from them how not to be. Elevate me...
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My mom told me I was an ugly child when I was born! Please become an Apollo602021 blog follower!
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Pictures of all of us when we were young look different . They look different as we had a different mindset back then, we look at them now and see it different. A waste! To waste such youth on the inexperienced. As you grew older you understood what beauty was, it is not only the color of your hair , the texture of your skin but the total package. That one as real people see you. Some people think that one has to be of a "Barbie Doll shape to be beautiful, Far from this is real beauty. The inner beauty out shadows most of some ones physicals features that you see as a negative. Just Smile, your grandmother wasn't wrong, she just didn't understand what a beauty queen can be.. And by now you should know guy don't look at ugly girls, It is the beauties that catch our eyes.. Hope you are well , have a good and just be safe.. Be sure to look in at lonlyforlove2 . It may make you smile
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I don't see an ugly duckling ... That post took some courage.
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Hmmm... 😊 Cute! 👍 Having seen your ADULT pics, I think you're doing fine... REALLY fine! ❗❗😎🌹 Although... did you know that ears and noses are the two parts of your body that NEVER stop growing? 🤔
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I'm gonna tell you, if you catch a guy looking at you it isn't because you're ugly or poorly dressed, it's because he is wanting you. One glance at an unattractive woman and our attention moves on. My son had monster size ears as a child, but he grew into them. Look at her ears! That baby has big ears! She should marry Pinocchio!!!! My poor Spawn... Lol
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It looks like you have green eyes, always a great combo with red hair
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I see a little girl who is beautiful.
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You look just Ducky, Lovely
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that.  My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling.
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You look cute as a button in that photo  This is me at 5 years old: [image]
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I enjoyed your narrative Secret_lade as I felt the same way for many years as I was not what I would call a 10 in everyone else eyes and my parents did not bring us up with the latest clothing line, top brand name shoes, latest records, video games or the latest greatest tv, radio cable tv or high school spring breaks to Florida. They were conservative, not in style and thus we as kids were not either. I thought for years I was as well a duck. Though I did not care if I dated or not in high school, I look back and think I probably would not have had one if I wanted one with my insecurity of feeling like my looks and lack of new latest greatest clothing would attract no one to me. Later in college I found that my looks were not so bad to others as I aged and I did manage to go on dates and found more confidence in myself. Like you were saying about your appearance changing while getting older as we all do ( though your school photo does not show a duck to me as I think it is a nice photo ) My personality shined though and I had flocks of people wanting to be my friend and women even started approaching me in my 30's. I now have a confidence to know that I may only be average looking to some, a high 8-10 on some other peoples scales but when I engage in conversations with others they see a more mature me, I don't think looks are all they see anymore. As with most everyone, I am sure that your knowledge and wisdom shine though more then you know and that is also a big part of what others will see ... how you carry yourself, how you act, your kindness toward others or lack of, your human empathy or lack of, how you treat others and how you would want others to treat you. I know for myself even though I have not dated in a few years a person I would want to find for a one on one or a long term relationship does not have to be a 10 on the outside but sure has to have a good heart to be with me. Maybe I got off track there rambling but I felt my thoughts flowing so I started typing lol THANK YOU for letting us all see whom you were and read about whom you are now. Have a great Sunday and wonderful upcoming week. : ) p.s. Quoting Janet Jackson - In complete darkness we are the same, it is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us, don't let your eyes deceive you. I'm glad you took the time to write all this today.... I like to get to know my readers too. I'm glad I got to hear your story.
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Teenage angst... we all had it I'm sure... Yes, your ears are a bit big but you have lovely shaped eyes and colour. My best friend at school had acne and was name called and it got her down.. I was overweight... her acne went.. might weight didn't! You just have to make the best of what you've got and sod everyone else
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that. My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling. I love my daughters. I think they are beautiful and am sure that as a dad it doesn't even matter what they look like...they are MINE!
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You were not and still are NOT ugly! You have lovely hair, absolutely gorgeous eyes and your ears seem to fit you perfectly now. As Massass pointed out, sometimes our body parts grow at different rates and don't always fit at all times. When I was growing up my mom seemed to think it was necessary to tell me I looked like a monkey when I was born and for several years afterward. And she didn't mean it in a nice way, either. She thought I was ugly. Hey! Don't ever let me hear you say that again! You are smart and funny and amazing no matter how you feel of think you look. How you look today isn't going to be how you look one year from today. You are JUST as good as everyone else. And, now he's a marine, soon to be leaving me. Now he's confident as well.
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You were not an ugly 2nd grader! The thing is as we grow, we don't all grow proportionally at one time. At a given point we might have ears or noses that are a bit big for our present body. In the end they usually balance out. I think we ALL have photos when we were young that we looked a bit "awkward." Even if we don't look as we wish when older, it is amazing that different people DO see us differently. Even those WE think are "ugly" end up finding someone that loves them most of the time. I've seen some women that others think are gorgeous that I simply am not that fond of. Our tastes are fortunately all over the place!
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You were not and still are NOT ugly! You have lovely hair, absolutely gorgeous eyes and your ears seem to fit you perfectly now. As Massass pointed out, sometimes our body parts grow at different rates and don't always fit at all times. When I was growing up my mom seemed to think it was necessary to tell me I looked like a monkey when I was born and for several years afterward. And she didn't mean it in a nice way, either. She thought I was ugly. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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You were not an ugly 2nd grader! The thing is as we grow, we don't all grow proportionally at one time. At a given point we might have ears or noses that are a bit big for our present body. In the end they usually balance out. I think we ALL have photos when we were young that we looked a bit "awkward." Even if we don't look as we wish when older, it is amazing that different people DO see us differently. Even those WE think are "ugly" end up finding someone that loves them most of the time. I've seen some women that others think are gorgeous that I simply am not that fond of. Our tastes are fortunately all over the place!
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Teenage angst... we all had it I'm sure... Yes, your ears are a bit big but you have lovely shaped eyes and colour. My best friend at school had acne and was name called and it got her down.. I was overweight... her acne went.. might weight didn't! You just have to make the best of what you've got and sod everyone else
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that. My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling. What she being honest or telling you that to be hurtful? Though it does not matter what the answer is, it was still wrong to say to a child especially your own daughter! How sad is that, that you have no photos with your father. Be it intentional or not, sometimes parents and others can hurt us in ways they do not know and the scars can be lasting for ever to us to deal with. I hope that your relationship with your mother is better now that you are older and that your father grew up.
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I enjoyed your narrative Secret_lade as I felt the same way for many years as I was not what I would call a 10 in everyone else eyes and my parents did not bring us up with the latest clothing line, top brand name shoes, latest records, video games or the latest greatest tv, radio cable tv or high school spring breaks to Florida. They were conservative, not in style and thus we as kids were not either. I thought for years I was as well a duck. Though I did not care if I dated or not in high school, I look back and think I probably would not have had one if I wanted one with my insecurity of feeling like my looks and lack of new latest greatest clothing would attract no one to me. Later in college I found that my looks were not so bad to others as I aged and I did manage to go on dates and found more confidence in myself. Like you were saying about your appearance changing while getting older as we all do ( though your school photo does not show a duck to me as I think it is a nice photo ) My personality shined though and I had flocks of people wanting to be my friend and women even started approaching me in my 30's. I now have a confidence to know that I may only be average looking to some, a high 8-10 on some other peoples scales but when I engage in conversations with others they see a more mature me, I don't think looks are all they see anymore. As with most everyone, I am sure that your knowledge and wisdom shine though more then you know and that is also a big part of what others will see ... how you carry yourself, how you act, your kindness toward others or lack of, your human empathy or lack of, how you treat others and how you would want others to treat you. I know for myself even though I have not dated in a few years a person I would want to find for a one on one or a long term relationship does not have to be a 10 on the outside but sure has to have a good heart to be with me. Maybe I got off track there rambling but I felt my thoughts flowing so I started typing lol THANK YOU for letting us all see whom you were and read about whom you are now. Have a great Sunday and wonderful upcoming week. : ) p.s. Quoting Janet Jackson - In complete darkness we are the same, it is only our knowledge and wisdom that separates us, don't let your eyes deceive you.
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You look cute as a button in that photo This is me at 5 years old: [image] 
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You were adorable. I'm sorry your grandmother didn't tell you that. My mother told me my father left because he couldn't stand my red hair. That I was so ugly he refused to take a picture with me, so there are none. Can you imagine? These adults should realize the havoc they wreak with us. With love from a fellow ugly duckling. Elevate me...
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You look just Ducky, Lovely
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I see a little girl who is beautiful. The light of the lighthouse calms me.  flannel_light
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It looks like you have green eyes, always a great combo with red hair
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I'm gonna tell you, if you catch a guy looking at you it isn't because you're ugly or poorly dressed, it's because he is wanting you. One glance at an unattractive woman and our attention moves on. My son had monster size ears as a child, but he grew into them.
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Hmmm... 😊 Cute! 👍 Having seen your ADULT pics, I think you're doing fine... REALLY fine! ❗❗😎🌹 Although... did you know that ears and noses are the two parts of your body that NEVER stop growing? 🤔 ... is there another way to look at it. Miracle Pills and The Myth of Winning a Bet With the Devil Are There Advantages To a Man With a Titanium Shaft Russian Stimulants Locusts and Their Connection With Cheating Girlfriends
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I don't see an ugly duckling ... That post took some courage. Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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There is hope for us Ducklings out there.... If Mrs. Wolowitz could manag to find a husband, there's surely a guy to meet our needs as well.
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