Was it a date with destiny?  

secret_lade 46F
7903 posts
10/18/2020 1:01 am
Was it a date with destiny?


Nah... Turns out, it was a date with a guy named Dan.

I have well meaning friends. Friends that feel the need find "The One" as I've apparently been divorced and single long enough that I'm bordering on Spinster territory.

They aren't very choosey in their considerations of "The One", however.

So, a few weeks ago my friend Cindy Lou decided she wanted to introduce her brother-in-law.

He was recently divorced. (Red Flag #One)
He has grown . (Red Flag #)
He recently started a new job. (Red Flag #)

Dan the Man called Friday and asked if I'd be interested in having dinner with him Saturday, I didn't really think anything of it. (Red Flag #Four)

Apparently, Saturday was Sweetest Day. The restaurant was full of couples.

It was an unmitigated nightmare. A living, breathing what-not--do in motion....

I could not get out of there fast enough.

Because it was a fix- with a man I knew nothing about, I chose meet him at the restaurant.

The smartest decision I've ever made in my life....

So, Dan the Man is recently divorced and he could talk about was how terrible his wife was and the he lost in the divorce. He was scorned at the fact that she had so easily moved on and was already seeing someone else. He wanted do the same.

Um, yah.

He talked about how thankful he was that his were grown and the youngest was in college. He was ready move that next chapter in his life and experience new things.

Mmmm... hmmmm....

When I thought I could take no more he started talking about the new job. The new job was so much better than the job because his boss at the job was such a 'dick face'. But nothing compared the job he had five ago because the benefits there were phenomenal.

How many jobs has this guy had, exactly?

It was at this point that I chose call it a night and sever my friendship with Cindy Lou as this was hands down one of the worst experiences of my life.

From this point forward, she will forever be referred as Cindy Lou Who?

secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/19/2020 3:55 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    sorry it didn't work out

    it seemed like the act was made with best intentions

    I've never acted the part of a matchmaker

    but, when people have tried, I do show support

    especially, with family

    have a great week!

    hmm

    be safe

    Barbra Streisand - "Blind Date"

    Fanny & chorus
    Smooth the sofa, plump the pillows
    Dump the ashtrays, oh this dress
    Look at me I am shaking all over,
    Shaking all over
    I'm a mess
    Waiting wondering what I'll be thinking
    When he comes walking through that door
    What'll come walking through that door
    A man I never saw in my life before
    Oh,
    I am so nervous
    I got a blind date waiting to call on me (any minute now)
    I got a blind date what am I gonna see (any minute now)
    Right over there's the doorway, he will be walking through
    Will he be six foot eight or maybe four foot two (it could happen)
Everyone I know is married or otherwise attached.... So I don't really have anyone to set anyone else up with. For the most part, I feel like the lone single in all my friend groups.... Which is probably why they all feel like they have to set me up with people.


easy_going2014 53M
14313 posts
10/18/2020 8:11 pm

sorry it didn't work out

it seemed like the act was made with best intentions

I've never acted the part of a matchmaker

but, when people have tried, I do show support

especially, with family

have a great week!

hmm

be safe

Barbra Streisand - "Blind Date"

Fanny & chorus
Smooth the sofa, plump the pillows
Dump the ashtrays, oh this dress
Look at me I am shaking all over,
Shaking all over
I'm a mess
Waiting wondering what I'll be thinking
When he comes walking through that door
What'll come walking through that door
A man I never saw in my life before
Oh,
I am so nervous
I got a blind date waiting to call on me (any minute now)
I got a blind date what am I gonna see (any minute now)
Right over there's the doorway, he will be walking through
Will he be six foot eight or maybe four foot two (it could happen)

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secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 11:24 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Actually I think this was A Date With Density
    Just sayin’
I like the play on words! This guy was dense alright.... He should have been wearing a thick good chain, a terry cloth shirt, and a pornstache.....


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 11:21 am

    Quoting KX450F2016:
    Reminds me of the time I met someone from here that failed to mention the lack of decent teeth. Body was fine, but just couldn't do it!! Blind dates suck LOL.
Yuck.... Bad teeth are a complete turn off. It's a sign of long term poor hygiene. If they aren't brushing their teet, what else aren't they keeping clean?


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 11:18 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Did you feel that Dan the Man was a somewhat Desperate Dan?
He was a lot of things.... But I think mostly angry about his wife moving on. It is way to soon for this guy to be out in the dating pool....


MrWrong4RghtNow 54M  
706 posts
10/18/2020 9:52 am

Actually I think this was A Date With Density
Just sayin’


KX450F2016 52M
144 posts
10/18/2020 8:59 am

Reminds me of the time I met someone from here that failed to mention the lack of decent teeth. Body was fine, but just couldn't do it!! Blind dates suck LOL.


citizen4722 62M  
68943 posts
10/18/2020 8:32 am

Did you feel that Dan the Man was a somewhat Desperate Dan?


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 7:53 am

    Quoting 7Diogenes:
    You're too young to be considered a "spinster". Now if you had a cat, maybe a potential "cat lady". Wait .... What...? You do have a cat? Never mind.

    Speaking of Cindy Lou Who, have you seen what she grew up into? Check out Taylor Momsen and The Pretty Reckless.
Holy crap... That's the same girl? I would have never guessed.

As for Cat Lady.... I prefer Crazy Cat Lady in the making. I'm still working with the starter package, just 1 cat. Lol


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 7:45 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Add the part where he wants to move in with you and retire on his non-existent nest egg, and it sounds like some of my dates. If he ties to get another date RUN!
There will not be another date with Dan the Man.... Trust me. I'm leary of anyone who wants to get too serious too fast. There is always a reason someone thinks, 2 dates in, that you're the one. Broke, possessive, nearly homeless, crazy.....


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 7:41 am

    Quoting  :

I don't think he will... I was pretty quiet the whole time. Besides, I think what he's really looking for is a 20 something blond airhead to really make the ex jealous.


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 7:37 am

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    it is dates like this that make meeting the right one so much sweeter, and being alone so much more bearable
You couldn't be more accurate!! Lol


7Diogenes 101M
1135 posts
10/18/2020 6:18 am

You're too young to be considered a "spinster". Now if you had a cat, maybe a potential "cat lady". Wait .... What...? You do have a cat? Never mind.

Speaking of Cindy Lou Who, have you seen what she grew up into? Check out Taylor Momsen and The Pretty Reckless.

When one door closes, another one opens. Or you can open the closed door. That's how doors work.
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mc_justmc 60M  
6693 posts
10/18/2020 6:04 am

Add the part where he wants to move in with you and retire on his non-existent nest egg, and it sounds like some of my dates. If he ties to get another date RUN!


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 5:44 am

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    one of the guys on here approached me saying he is seeking marriage and has partial custody of a 14 year old. i know we have talked about the teen life. i don't think i can volunteer for this...
It's tough when kids are involved. His kids become your kids, and vice versa. Any good parent will have them a priority, it's just how it is. It also becomes a lifelong investment when you do become involved. Kids aren't for everyone, but sometimes, you find out on accident, they were meant for you. My daughter was at a sleepover Friday and the first thing she did when she got home was smile at me and say "you know, I miss being home when I'm not here" and then sat at the counter to tell me about what they all did.


secret_lade 46F
5183 posts
10/18/2020 5:24 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Sounds like a movie I once saw or perhaps I just imagined it.
    In any case, I think if you add a criminal event and the Secret Service, you could build something there.
    Or not...
It's experiences like this that gave birth to the creation of those movies. I more expected to see his ex wife show up with the new man and have a fist fight ensue...


dogslife2live01 68M
2191 posts
10/18/2020 5:03 am

it is dates like this that make meeting the right one so much sweeter, and being alone so much more bearable

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Paulxx001 63M  
17150 posts
10/18/2020 3:25 am

Sounds like a movie I once saw or perhaps I just imagined it.
In any case, I think if you add a criminal event and the Secret Service, you could build something there.
Or not...


lunchandconvo 50F
1948 posts
10/18/2020 3:11 am

one of the guys on here approached me saying he is seeking marriage and has partial custody of a 14 year old. i know we have talked about the teen life. i don't think i can volunteer for this...


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